This is probably gonna be chaotic and hard to understand. My brain isnt really able to focus or concentrate right now. Its all jver the place.
After, once again, having a terrible fight with my father, Its visible that hes unable to see that Im never gonna be what he wants me to be.
I fear that if I cut any contact with him, that we both fall into a dark pit. And I dont want to be responsible for losing another parent.
But getting into those sensless argues over and over again, in which he never grasps what I really want (even tho I keep repeating that i just want at least one person that asks me how my day was.) ... Its agonizing.
Im so close at losing it again.
I want him to stop.
I want him to stop demanding me to be something that I cant be, no matter how hard I try.
I tried my hole life and it crippled me. Im done with it.
he also refuses to accept that Im happy the way I am.
Just because I keep asking people to pay a little attention to me.
Theres to much going on to fully explain everything. Im just so tired of constantly explaining myself. Being attacked on all sides just because nobody even tries to understand my reactions and emotions. (People just dont seem to have a clue how humans functions.)
How can it be that I have to listen to other for 4h straight about their things, providing them ideas and help, but as soon as I try to talk about my stuff they start to get bored and critize me?
As if Im not getting bored over their stuff, but i still activly listen and think about it and ask question and show interest.
How is it wrong to expect others to do the same for me?
People abd my dad constantly tell me I have to pay attention and show interest, but they dont have to do that when im the one talking?
Theres a serious issue!
And Im sick of it!
"Its because youre different!/better in that topic!"
What?! ... so im too good? To be of any worth?
Im too boring to be treated with respect?
And when other are better in topics and I ask them for help, all they do is laugh and telling me I have to learn it myself? Excuse me, what?
Then why the hecc do i gave to help them?
And if i tell them i dont want tk help cuz they dont do the same for me, im suddely "arrogant", "delusional" and "crazy"?
And then people wonder why I keep snapping?
(....i guess my surounding isnt really of the smart kind...or...am i just too stupid to understand how worthless i am? I Dont want to keep playing that crazy game, and that makes me "antisocial"?
Actually...i rather be "antisocial" then being treated like crap for showing respect and care. ...)
Once again I feel just invalidated as a lifeform, as a human being.
I want to stop. Just to stop getting mad at people. But Im also so scared of what I might become, if I cut the ties to everyone I care about and love. I dont want to become a cynical, spiteful creature that invalitates others.
More issolation and Im seriously getting problem from which I cant recover from.
I dont want to give up.
...i dont know whats going on. I just want someone that asks me how my day was.
I dont understand why thats too much too ask...
How can that trigger my father into calljng me his biggest failure...
Why isnt it okay to be a failure? Im tired of trying to be anything.
I never did harm others on purpose.
I never took drugs or took alcohol. Im not doing any criminal activities ....all I am is being something that cant be seen.
Im just autistic. I never did anything else.
I cant be "normal". But nothing I did was in any way antisocial or harmfull to others.
My dads issues shouldnt be mine.
...i guess i have no other choice then to get some space and drawback from him.
If anyone else has an idea, please tell me.
Im kinda desprate.
Im willing to listen to any idea. No matter how weird or dumb.
I just want to avoid getting another psychosis from stress. Or panic attack. Or doing something really really stupid, just because I cant take it anymore.
(Dont worry. Im quit good in handling my depression and dark thoughts. I know how to reach out and know where I can find help if it gets really really bad. Im also in therapy.)(I just feel so...alone and misunderstood. It got so bad that i have a hard time even explaining it anymore because its just too much things at once...
I just want to be allowed to tell something that makes me happy. But im even physically unable to do it. Like, everytime i try my brain gets blank. Nothing comes out. Like selective mutism.
As if im so warped over all those accuring devestating fights, that i got some type of blockage to even try.... any suggestions how to train opening up about my favorite matters? My surrounding isnt safe for that...i tried....thats one of the issues...)
Or if anyone has similiar, or not so similiar but still fitting, own expiriences, please share it.
I could need some pain sharing. Or nice words.
Or a joke
After, once again, having a terrible fight with my father, Its visible that hes unable to see that Im never gonna be what he wants me to be.
I fear that if I cut any contact with him, that we both fall into a dark pit. And I dont want to be responsible for losing another parent.
But getting into those sensless argues over and over again, in which he never grasps what I really want (even tho I keep repeating that i just want at least one person that asks me how my day was.) ... Its agonizing.
Im so close at losing it again.
I want him to stop.
I want him to stop demanding me to be something that I cant be, no matter how hard I try.
I tried my hole life and it crippled me. Im done with it.
he also refuses to accept that Im happy the way I am.
Just because I keep asking people to pay a little attention to me.
Theres to much going on to fully explain everything. Im just so tired of constantly explaining myself. Being attacked on all sides just because nobody even tries to understand my reactions and emotions. (People just dont seem to have a clue how humans functions.)
How can it be that I have to listen to other for 4h straight about their things, providing them ideas and help, but as soon as I try to talk about my stuff they start to get bored and critize me?
As if Im not getting bored over their stuff, but i still activly listen and think about it and ask question and show interest.
How is it wrong to expect others to do the same for me?
People abd my dad constantly tell me I have to pay attention and show interest, but they dont have to do that when im the one talking?
Theres a serious issue!
And Im sick of it!
"Its because youre different!/better in that topic!"
What?! ... so im too good? To be of any worth?
Im too boring to be treated with respect?
And when other are better in topics and I ask them for help, all they do is laugh and telling me I have to learn it myself? Excuse me, what?
Then why the hecc do i gave to help them?
And if i tell them i dont want tk help cuz they dont do the same for me, im suddely "arrogant", "delusional" and "crazy"?
And then people wonder why I keep snapping?
(....i guess my surounding isnt really of the smart kind...or...am i just too stupid to understand how worthless i am? I Dont want to keep playing that crazy game, and that makes me "antisocial"?
Actually...i rather be "antisocial" then being treated like crap for showing respect and care. ...)
Once again I feel just invalidated as a lifeform, as a human being.
I want to stop. Just to stop getting mad at people. But Im also so scared of what I might become, if I cut the ties to everyone I care about and love. I dont want to become a cynical, spiteful creature that invalitates others.
More issolation and Im seriously getting problem from which I cant recover from.
I dont want to give up.
...i dont know whats going on. I just want someone that asks me how my day was.
I dont understand why thats too much too ask...
How can that trigger my father into calljng me his biggest failure...
Why isnt it okay to be a failure? Im tired of trying to be anything.
I never did harm others on purpose.
I never took drugs or took alcohol. Im not doing any criminal activities ....all I am is being something that cant be seen.
Im just autistic. I never did anything else.
I cant be "normal". But nothing I did was in any way antisocial or harmfull to others.
My dads issues shouldnt be mine.
...i guess i have no other choice then to get some space and drawback from him.
If anyone else has an idea, please tell me.
Im kinda desprate.
Im willing to listen to any idea. No matter how weird or dumb.
I just want to avoid getting another psychosis from stress. Or panic attack. Or doing something really really stupid, just because I cant take it anymore.
(Dont worry. Im quit good in handling my depression and dark thoughts. I know how to reach out and know where I can find help if it gets really really bad. Im also in therapy.)(I just feel so...alone and misunderstood. It got so bad that i have a hard time even explaining it anymore because its just too much things at once...
I just want to be allowed to tell something that makes me happy. But im even physically unable to do it. Like, everytime i try my brain gets blank. Nothing comes out. Like selective mutism.
As if im so warped over all those accuring devestating fights, that i got some type of blockage to even try.... any suggestions how to train opening up about my favorite matters? My surrounding isnt safe for that...i tried....thats one of the issues...)
Or if anyone has similiar, or not so similiar but still fitting, own expiriences, please share it.
I could need some pain sharing. Or nice words.
Or a joke