How to have more emotion and appear less formal when talking?

[Tired]

Apparently I don’t. Trying to smile and sound emotional feels so phony. Few of the people I disclosed my autism to were surprised. My deliberate smile looks like this.
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To me this looks like a tired smile, so you both look happy and tired.

 

[jsilver256]

Obviously, I can't speak for you. I have something called alexithymia. In essence, it means I don't know what my emotions are telling me. I also have an inability to connect with, bond with, or have feelings toward another person (except transiently under certain circumstances). Add to that socially non functional, because I cannot recognize body language, facial expression, innuendo or implied comments, or even intonation. Plus words seem to change meaning frequently, depending on context. All of this seems to be related to my autism. It is possible that you may have some of these problems as well, they are not unique, but apparently rare all at once in the same person. Take a good deep look at yourself. One thing I have learned is that smiling at the wrong time or situation is worse than not smiling at all. Likewise, the wrong facial expression can be worse than none at all. It took me a long time to really learn this.

Same here. I would personally not even try to "imitate" NTs.

 

[Hypnalis]

Same here. I would personally not even try to "imitate" NTs.

All that's necessary is to stay with the rather wide range of "NT-compliant" behaviors.

People notice exceptions.
So to seem NT-compliant you need to avoid being significantly non-compliant in any respect.
I've forgotten the details, but I think it's one of those things that happens faster than conscious thought.

We're hard-wired to identify and react to possibly dangerous differences. Even if society created rules rules to stop this, it would have no effect,

Think about clothing. Except for clothing intended to be annoying or very different. The acceptable range is huge.
But if you move in a way that's unusual enough everyone will notice instantly, and at a considerable distance.

There are a lot of things like that, where you can train yourself to become NT-compliant. Addressing each one is easy because the acceptable range is quite large.
But forget just one, and you're classified instantly as "different, potentially dangerous".

 

[Batmansbrotherspidey]

What is it you want out of these conversations?

I don't want to be disliked when conversing. I want to create a good impression of myself.