How to meet another Aspie

[Otenba]

Not heard of Nerdnite before, probably because I don't drink, but it's just another thing where the nearest event is well over 4-5 hours away from where I live (only have UK events in London and Brighton ). Have fun to anyone who does try one of their events.

 

[Progster]

ou can find them as mentioned above in libraries, some do martial arts,
there are many in the midst of musicians, photographers, painters, engineers, physicians, IT-specialists, scientists in general.

Linguists too actually, you can find autistic people in all walks of life and not just the arts and sciences.

 

[Grimm]

How to meet an aspie? I would imagine to start a private conversation here, then meet in the real world.

 

[marble]

Try your friendly local game store. You'll find a bunch of them playing Magic: The Gathering.

 

[Ginseng]

Get skilled at spotting aspies, go to the library and talk to them and end up seeing some thread here about being approached by a creep in the library

Someone should create an app, like Pokemon, for finding Aspies!!! I would play.

 

[Julia 27]

I have never knowingly met another Aspie, but I would like to. There are local groups but they are formatted for parents of autistic children. What happens to these children when they grow up? Certainly not everyone on the spectrum needs a supported living environment as an adult. It seems there are support groups/meetings for everything, but I've yet to find one for Aspies. Granted, I would not willingly put myself in a group situation, and I'm sure there are others that would feel the same.

I'm just looking for a way to connect, to be around others like myself. It could possibly take the form of an unstructured, safe environment that served beverages; quiet, subdued lighting, open for a set period of time, but within that period of time people could come and go. That's just a thought. I really just want to meet a person, or persons, that have the same diagnosis as myself. I was recently diagnosed, and I find myself feeling alone and hyper aware about the way I'm perceived.

On a job, for example, I'm seemingly accepted at the beginning, and make friends with coworkers. Everything at a job may stay that way, but sometimes I feel singled out for work behavior, that to me, seems the same as everyone else's work behavior. If that happens, it's very frustrating not to know why. I'm beginning a new job soon, and I'm really anxious for that very reason. I'd like to sit down with another Aspie to hear about their life experiences.

 

[Julia 27]

I am in the same boat as you
I am a middle aged female and would love to be able to meet a fellow aspie to talk to about issues
I live in South Australia

 

[invisibility003]

I'm from Australia and I used to go to a social group every Friday for teenagers with Asperger's and High Functioning Autism. We had two adults (not on the spectrum) who ran the group and gave us lessons on things like social skills, making conversation, emotions, sensory stuff etc. It was quite good and the lessons were only brief and for the rest of the time afterwards we got to play games and chat with each other if we wanted to. Though I'm having some problems with getting too nervous to go because of all the people and real life conversations, so haven't been for a while, but I might try going next year.

 

[rollerskate]

Interestingly, my aspie friends and I are extremely tolerant of each other. We understand if one gets on a rant, and the other goes quiet, we don't share the same level of interest on the topic, but will respectfully stand by and let the other finish. And it can be uncomfortable at times, but we're quick to reassure each other it's okay. I wish NT relationships were that simple.

 

[marble]

Seems like there's quite a few of us here in Australia. It's always seemed annoyingly difficult trying to meet other Aspies in this country though.

 

[Julia 27]

What city do you live in?

 

[marble]

Sydney NSW

 

[Julia 27]

I’m in Adelaide
Yes

 

[Julia 27]

I’m in Adelaide
Yes

I’m in Adelaide
Yes

Didn’t mean to type the word yes

 

[Cogitatio]

My psychologist introduced me to one of her patients who agreed to meet me. Was not sure why other than curiosity. We met outside a bar with my psychologist with us. Small talk was all but impossible. What I did learn (as someone newly diagnosed) was how similar his views were about people, love, and all aspie traits. What I thought of as weird and made me feel alone were there right in front of me. we never met up again. I wonder whether two aspies are a good combination. By the way, I love libraries. Quiet, lots of interesting things to read and no need to talk to anyone. Bound to be other aspies there somewhere.

 

[paloftoon]

www.meetup.com might have something. There are organized social groups for adults out there, but they are harder to find and then bond with too.

 

[Sid Delicious]

Imagine meeting a talkative aspie would be far less awkward than two very quiet ones meeting up. It's incredibly rare that I (knowingly) meet anyone else with autism and in the past it's usually been in situations where I wasn't able to easily get to know them or had to leave before I got the chance. Groups tend to be for parents or children rather than adults (at least where I am). I also fall into the 'chatty aspie' group when I'm around other people, so I sometimes think it would be great to have other HFA friends to talk to. But it just isn't that easy to meet people like that in real life.