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How Will I Live Without Food Stamps?

Yeshuasdaughter

You know, that one lady we met that one time.
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I have never in my adult life, since I was about 21 years old, lived without food stamps. My EBT card has been my lifeline for many, many years.

I just got cut off the program. I am in my forties.

I do not know what to do. I am so very scared of hunger.

I almost lost my housing too.

I am very scared.

I don't know what to do. How do I live?

My daughter is living at home, and she has a job, and is going to school online.

She is barely out of HS. She is an aspie and also physically disabled. She is not prepared to be a breadwinner. She does not want to live at home supporting her mother, but the state says that because she makes a certain amount, I (the mother) can lose my only lifeline I've had in poverty: food benefits, subidized housing, and free medical care for things like cancer treatment. If I were to lose my subsidized housing, she could never, ever move out, or I would be homeless.

For context, this almost happened when she was 16 and working part time at the mall. ANY extra income, even from minor children trying to get work experience, is considered income to the parents, and the state will cut you off of benefits. They do not intend it this way, but it dissuades young people from getting jobs, saving up, and becoming self sufficient. It reinforces the cycle of poverty.

Hey youngin, you aint getting off Uncle Sam's Plantation that easy.

It's terrible.

And I literally do not know how to live. I make less than 1000 a month in a West Coast city, on my SSI. And my section 8, I had to wait nearly a decade to get. It is my one protection against homelessness.

My building is also subsidized, a very rare thing in my city, where there is a massive homeless crisis. If I go down, we both go down. We really don't have any family connections to help.

How do I buy groceries? I'm getting a food box today, but that's only about a three or so day supply, and you can't get those more than once or twice a month from whatever agency or church.

I am so scared.
 
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That's terrifying and I have no idea what you can do. If your daughter gets SSDI due to her diagnoses, does that money count against your eligibility for public assistance programs?

Do you qualify for TANF funds? (Temporary assistance to needy families)

Is there any kind of hotline number you can call to find out what other benefits you might qualify for?
 
I'm sorry you're going through this. Can you both move to another state? Since your daughter goes to school online, she could do that from anywhere I would think. I live in Minnesota and I've always been told that it has some of the most generous programs and assistance in the nation. I know people flock here for that reason. In fact, actual populations of peoples have come here specifically because of the programs. The Somali population in Minneapolis is a good example.
 
Many retail jobs and restaurants are looking. Is it feasible for you to get a job this way?
Could you work where your daughter is working or maybe a place near her work place?
 
Would this be of any assistance?

"For everyone who is facing this benefits cliff, know that food remains available to all who need it. Our Network of 21 regional food banks and more than 1,400 food assistance sites are moving mountains to make sure resources remain available across rural, urban and suburban communities."

We have an easy to use app at OregonFoodFinder.org, where you can enter in your address and find all the free food markets, pantries, delivery programs and meal sites in your community. Everyone is welcome — regardless of race, gender, religion or immigration status.

https://www.oregonfoodbank.org/posts/important-changes-to-snap-benefits-begin-march-1-2023
 
Why was it discontinued?

Can you appeal, or can your daughter qualify for it?

Congresspeople sometimes have offices and contact points in their district. Perhaps try and get big gun assist.
 
What an unfortunate and unhelpful situation. It seems like social benefits are often set up in a way where certain types of making money or saving money are actually discouraged. What a huge glitch in the system.

Does your daughter enjoy working and feel fulfilled by it? If she is, I wouldn’t want to suggest taking that away from her, but I wonder if seeking more benefits for her and less work could help you stay afloat. It’s counterintuitive, I know, but if you are going to be penalized for an adult child in the household working, maybe the answer is for her to work less.

I’m not confident in this idea, but just wanted to put it out there tentatively.
 
I am so sorry you are going through a hard time. Losing something that you depend on is so frustrating. I don’t know if this will help you, but I was thinking about trying to look for food pantries in your area. I work at a thrift store that is also a food pantry. We are able to help a lot of people who are in a similar situation as yours. I was thinking maybe there are other places like that in your area. I hope this helps you in your situation.
 
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Where I live, the thrift store allows 10 free pieces of clothing once a month. This includes one pair of shoes, shirt, jacket, coat, underwear, etc. The only thing not included is jeans, robes and formals. All you have to do is have your ID. You can also get five free food items every day as long as you have your ID. If you do not have ID, you can show where you live through a piece of mail or on your phone. You can also take a pic of your ID and show it that way.

When you head out of the store, you can also get some bread and dairy products that are not included with the five free food items, which allows you to get more things. I was sharing this to give you an idea of how this process works in food pantries. They usually have some sort of rules and guidelines every one follows. I hope you can find some sort of place that can help you in your hard time of need.
 
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Perhaps Judge is onto something.
I checked some cities/towns out:

hxxps://www.zillow.com/homedetails/407-S-11th-St-Muskogee-OK-74401/21809855_zpid/
(replace x's with t's)
House for rent, $500, 2 bed 1 bath, 1344 sq ft. (A bit of anomaly, most similar rents are +-$650)

----other places, these are all on interstate highways, and not villages, all 2beds, with rough population:---------
Jamestown ND $700 15,000
Fargo ND $650 210,000
Brookings SD $600 15,000
Spearfish SD (Black Hills) $650 6,000
Sioux Falls SD $770 220,000
Lincoln NE $650 190,000, capital
Salina KS $675 50,000
Junction City KS $625 (military base town, 15? miles from interstate) 20,000
Topeka KS $600 170,000, capital
 
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I'm sorry to hear that you're having this kind of trouble with the system. You and your daughter are exactly the kind of people that social programs are supposed to help. It makes me upset when I see people in need getting hurt by dysfunctional bureaucracy.
 
I'm sorry to hear that you're having this kind of trouble with the system. You and your daughter are exactly the kind of people that social programs are supposed to help. It makes me upset when I see people in need getting hurt by dysfunctional bureaucracy.
Definitely agree. I hope the OP gets the support they need.
 
It makes me upset when I see people in need getting hurt by dysfunctional bureaucracy.

Let's not blame those who administer programs (i.e. don't shoot the messenger). Administrative decision makers are ultimately bound by the legislation and jurisprudence that they work within. It doesn't bring them joy to have to tell someone that they can't get the assistance they're seeking.

The elected representatives at the state and federal level are ultimately the ones who decide what programs will look like within their respective jurisdictions, and they are the ones that one would appeal to for changes.
 

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