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I listen to what past times and events are popular and they bore the life out of me. I've tried to partake in popular culture and I feel so out of place, I realised it wasn't worthwhile pretending to be interested in such things.
Supposedly my hobbies and talents are interesting, and lots of people over the years have called me interesting and "cool", although I really dislike the latter terminology.
In all honesty, my day to day life is quite monotonous and dull. Every person I dated became frustrated with how routine and un-adventurous I am. Stuck in my routines to the point that several basically told me they wouldn't date me if I wasn't funny, because I was so boring. Mind you, in therapy I've been discussing previous people I've dated, and she has pointed out the pattern in who I date - people who aren't a good fit etc. Emotionally unstable and unavailable etc.
People's perceptions of what's interesting or boring aren't really at all relevant to anyone other than themselves, or people who they get on well with. Truth be told, you could have a fascinating hobby or job, but still be a boring person. It's just the way some people are I suppose.
I know I talk about things that don't interest people, because I start to realise they're no listening etc. So I guess in such situations, silence is preferable. It doesn't help that I have that age old classic habit of repeating myself again and again. Comfort in repetition. Except to those who hear it. Mind you, I encounter the same with my parents, they repeat the same stories again and again - to the point it feels like torture.
However, I've met a lot of sociable people who are outgoing etc. and I'm sure to a lot of people they'd be considered interesting or "cool". But I find the vast majority of people don't interest me. When they talk, it starts to feel like I'm being poisoned - because it's so boring. Headphones on.
Same goes for holidays. I think a lot are convinced it adds to their personalities, broadens their beliefs and such like. Personally, I find holiday stories some of the most boring topics to ever exist, that and weather discussions or hearing about people's dreams.
Ed
I listen to what past times and events are popular and they bore the life out of me. I've tried to partake in popular culture and I feel so out of place, I realised it wasn't worthwhile pretending to be interested in such things.
Supposedly my hobbies and talents are interesting, and lots of people over the years have called me interesting and "cool", although I really dislike the latter terminology.
In all honesty, my day to day life is quite monotonous and dull. Every person I dated became frustrated with how routine and un-adventurous I am. Stuck in my routines to the point that several basically told me they wouldn't date me if I wasn't funny, because I was so boring. Mind you, in therapy I've been discussing previous people I've dated, and she has pointed out the pattern in who I date - people who aren't a good fit etc. Emotionally unstable and unavailable etc.
People's perceptions of what's interesting or boring aren't really at all relevant to anyone other than themselves, or people who they get on well with. Truth be told, you could have a fascinating hobby or job, but still be a boring person. It's just the way some people are I suppose.
I know I talk about things that don't interest people, because I start to realise they're no listening etc. So I guess in such situations, silence is preferable. It doesn't help that I have that age old classic habit of repeating myself again and again. Comfort in repetition. Except to those who hear it. Mind you, I encounter the same with my parents, they repeat the same stories again and again - to the point it feels like torture.
However, I've met a lot of sociable people who are outgoing etc. and I'm sure to a lot of people they'd be considered interesting or "cool". But I find the vast majority of people don't interest me. When they talk, it starts to feel like I'm being poisoned - because it's so boring. Headphones on.
Same goes for holidays. I think a lot are convinced it adds to their personalities, broadens their beliefs and such like. Personally, I find holiday stories some of the most boring topics to ever exist, that and weather discussions or hearing about people's dreams.
Ed
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