I am too literal, and I get upset over it...

[Chance]

I need to find me some sort of "buffer" for my full out logical mindset. All afternoon, I have been putting my replacement drone together (yes its finally here). Now I can quit moaning about the loss of my other drone that is among the "dead" in the abyss at the lake, (I still don't know or understand what happened). I'm trying to get this thing registered on-line (kind of griped over that), and some other stuff... I'm being ASD cranky right now, or just being a full out pissy jerk... I think... Do any of you ever get like this... Just all cranked up over something stupid?



During all this time, I have been trying to keep my sanity... So, I have been listening to some "motivational" stuff on YouTube... One great guy (who I like and admire deeply) keeps saying, that to be anyone, or do anything in todays world... you have to give 120%...

He has harped on that now for about an hour... I am now going out my head because there is NO logic in what he is saying anymore. Actually I am calling BS on all of it.

Now I ask you... In all of LIFE, is not 100% considered full, done, all charged up, all you got???

But he is saying 90-100% is not enough any more??? I want to write this truly great person (who I admire) and give him a lesson in ASD reality... but I wont ever do that of course.

In real LIFE I cant even pull off 100% mostly, and he's telling me if I cant do 120% I will never be anything in LIFE... Thanks buddy...

I must just be a jerk, or as stupid as people have told me I am, or ASD kicked in really hard... but I'm aggravated at this person. I know I probably shouldn't be... Or should I?

I want to let you explain how you feel, and deal with, what I see as "concrete constructs"... IF??? If he was joking, or making a play on words... I would get that, but he seemed as if he was not...

Now where does the other 20% come from? I need to KNOW this to understand it, to ever grasp it.

What's next? For people to demand 150%, or 1000%, or that I be full out magic, and pull a rabbit out my ... hat.

In my concrete head... If a person is going to try and "motivate" anyone (especially me) and they do not seem have to have a firm grip on concrete constructs, how am I supposed to believe a word that was said??? I may be being a jerk here... But lets find out... : )

Does anyone get just super eerked over "non-logic stuff," that is supposed to be logical, informational, etc... ?

 

[the_tortoise]

Does anyone get just super eerked over "non-logic stuff," that is supposed to be logical, informational, etc... ?

Yes. It is one of 3 possible responses for me. The other 2 are:

Calm confusion/puzzlement.

Finding it hilarious.

 

[kay]

I can't even listen to that stuff. I just avoid it. 120%????? Yeah, it annoys me, too. All of the ideas of success, how to achieve it, and what it is mostly annoy me. Occasionally I find good advice on the subject of success but it never involves on 120% of anything.

 

[Gritches]

I can empathize with getting worked up over stuff like that. I actually cringed a little when you said you were registering the drone.

I usually try to make myself smile by laughing about whatever's getting me so bent out of shape, and thus taking it less seriously, because I find that getting worked up about something is because it seems so important, so critical, and making a joke of it disarms that. It'll still suck to do whatever's going on, I just laugh at my own frustration, like "oh my God, why can this not just be simple. Is that too much to ask? Am I requesting something outlandish by expecting this to be easy? If they want people to register this damn thing, why would the process not be easy? I'll register my foot up their ass is what I'll do. Yeah."

But I agree about that 120% crap. I stop listening when anyone gives me a number over 100%, because I know at that point they're full of crap and probably selling something. How the hell do you give 20% that you don't have? Makes me want to kick 120% of their ass and see how their math works out.

You can only give 100%. Full stop. The end.

 

[LucyPurrs]

I can empathize with getting worked up over stuff like that. I actually cringed a little when you said you were registering the drone.

I usually try to make myself smile by laughing about whatever's getting me so bent out of shape, and thus taking it less seriously, because I find that getting worked up about something is because it seems so important, so critical, and making a joke of it disarms that. It'll still suck to do whatever's going on, I just laugh at my own frustration, like "oh my God, why can this not just be simple. Is that too much to ask? Am I requesting something outlandish by expecting this to be easy? If they want people to register this damn thing, why would the process not be easy? I'll register my foot up their ass is what I'll do. Yeah."

But I agree about that 120% crap. I stop listening when anyone gives me a number over 100%, because I know at that point they're full of crap and probably selling something. How the hell do you give 20% that you don't have? Makes me want to kick 120% of their ass and see how their math works out.

You can only give 100%. Full stop. The end.

My ex-husband used to do that-laugh about whatever was getting him bent out of shape and make a joke about it. I always wished I could do that too- guess I just take stuff too seriously.

 

[Fitzo]

There is NO SUCH THING as 120%! 100% is all there is of anything!
If you're doing the best you can, that's all anyone can do! And if it's 100% all the time you're a complete freak!
These people are full of s..t! Stop listening to them!

 

[Chance]

My ex-husband used to do that-laugh about whatever was getting him bent out of shape and make a joke about it. I always wished I could do that too- guess I just take stuff too seriously.

I know I take stuff too seriously...I get mad at myself over getting mad about stuff, and that is just as insane as getting mad over the 120% thing... If I could help it, or figure out how to change that, of course I would in a heart beat... Maybe someday... I will be able to handle stuff better.

Its this stuff right here that gets people really upset with me in real life... I get so hung on stuff and bent over it... I even know its stupid, but the facts are I cant get past the facts sometimes... : )

 

[LucyPurrs]

I know I take stuff too seriously...I get mad at myself over getting mad about stuff, and that is just as insane as getting mad over the 120% thing... If I could help it, or figure out how to change that, of course I would in a heart beat... Maybe someday... I will be able to handle stuff better.

Its this stuff right here that gets people really upset with me in real life... I get so hung on stuff and bent over it... I even know its stupid, but the facts are I cant get past the facts sometimes... : )

Join the club, XD

 

[OkRad]

I need to find me some sort of "buffer" for my full out logical mindset. All afternoon, I have been putting my replacement drone together (yes its finally here). Now I can quit moaning about the loss of my other drone that is among the "dead" in the abyss at the lake, (I still don't know or understand what happened). I'm trying to get this thing registered on-line (kind of griped over that), and some other stuff... I'm being ASD cranky right now, or just being a full out pissy jerk... I think... Do any of you ever get like this... Just all cranked up over something stupid?

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During all this time, I have been trying to keep my sanity... So, I have been listening to some "motivational" stuff on YouTube... One great guy (who I like and admire deeply) keeps saying, that to be anyone, or do anything in todays world... you have to give 120%...

He has harped on that now for about an hour... I am now going out my head because there is NO logic in what he is saying anymore. Actually I am calling BS on all of it.

Now I ask you... In all of LIFE, is not 100% considered full, done, all charged up, all you got???

But he is saying 90-100% is not enough any more??? I want to write this truly great person (who I admire) and give him a lesson in ASD reality... but I wont ever do that of course.

In real LIFE I cant even pull off 100% mostly, and he's telling me if I cant do 120% I will never be anything in LIFE... Thanks buddy...

I must just be a jerk, or as stupid as people have told me I am, or ASD kicked in really hard... but I'm aggravated at this person. I know I probably shouldn't be... Or should I?

I want to let you explain how you feel, and deal with, what I see as "concrete constructs"... IF??? If he was joking, or making a play on words... I would get that, but he seemed as if he was not...

Now where does the other 20% come from? I need to KNOW this to understand it, to ever grasp it.

What's next? For people to demand 150%, or 1000%, or that I be full out magic, and pull a rabbit out my ... hat.

In my concrete head... If a person is going to try and "motivate" anyone (especially me) and they do not seem have to have a firm grip on concrete constructs, how am I supposed to believe a word that was said??? I may be being a jerk here... But lets find out... : )

Does anyone get just super eerked over "non-logic stuff," that is supposed to be logical, informational, etc... ?

YOu are funny when you are pissy! Hahaha. I know you are not meaning to be funny, but this guy is nuts on many levels. YOU ARE RIGHT.

First of all, impossible for ANYTHING to be 120%! Second, wow, people are almost falling over with exhaustion and he wants us to give MORE??? WHO IS THIS guy? Can you post the link?

I could not listen to it. He is probably going to have not one more second of life than you.

We need CRISPR to be able to give anymore. The human race is exhausted.

 

[SunnyDay16]

Of course it's a no-brainer that in order to achieve anything in life requires hard work and effort, but one person's idea of effort may not match another person's idea of effort. For example, Person A may think that Person B is not putting in the effort because they are still unable to make a phone call on their own or check themselves in for an appointment, but what Person A doesn't realize is that Person B is putting forth effort by simply listening in on phone conversations to get a better feel for them or reading scripts on how to check into the doctor's office. So Person B is putting in tons of effort, but because Person B's efforts don't match Person A's ideas of effort, Person B is not making effort.

That was a lot to write lol.

 

[watersprite]

It makes me feel grumpy just reading about it.
That 'motivational speaker' sounds like my sister.
Who has convinced herself that she is so awesome that everyone can and should listen to her spouting forth wrapped in a closed minded layer of the inverse of motivational, double-wrapped in wooey-wooey psycho-babble.

 

[Judge]

Chance, just tell us you don't plan on any test flights of the new drone over the lake.

I'm still wondering as well what might have happened to the first drone.

 

[Nervous Rex]

Incorrect mathematical statements like that drive me up the wall. I mentally rephrase them as, "what you can actually give is 120% of what you thought you could give." It makes sense from the motivational speaker's perspective and it is mathematically sound.

Another one that drives me up the wall is the use of negative measurements. I just saw an article about the world's smallest cat, claiming it was "200 times as small as a tiger". I immediately think, "idiots" and then, for my own peace of mind, rephrase it as, "one 200th the size of a lion.". Same with "twice as cheap" (half the price?), "Ten times as cold" (one tenth the heat?), "Four times as dark" (one fourth the light?). I know what they're trying to say, but it's really poor communication.

I raised this gripe in a words and linguistics forum and everyone agreed. This isn't just an aspie complaint - it's an anyone-who-understands-science-or-math complaint.

In the end, if you speak like this, I can understand you, but I will resent you for speaking in such a confusing manner that I have to dedicate extra brainpower to the task of understanding what you mean.

 

[Suzanne]

Meet literal Suzanne lol and I never even realised until in exhasperation, my husband pointed it out to me!

I feel for you. It is like this youtuber is saying you have to be better than perfect and since no one can attain to be perfect, then how the heck can one attain to be even more so?

I am afraid that this youtuber would suddenly not become my favourite or have my admiration, so if you can keep to that, then good on you and if you can't, I understand.

 

[SusanLR]

When motivational speakers start talking like that
I just conclude they are phonies that have found a way to motivate themselves into money by herding people into believing the BS.
They are selling something for self gain.

 

[WildCat]

The typical "I'm successful and I absolutely must share this with the world, everyone's opinions be damned" theme, usually backed by a motive. Goodness sake, it's as if these people deliberately refuse to understand reality. It's all good though, because once their supply gets cut off they begin revealing their true colors.

I say don't give them a shred of your time or resources and find someone else who doesn't have their head buried in the sand.

 

[flawedplan]

Motivational speakers might be trying to help people but in the wrong hands there is this dark side to it. There is no 120%, that's nonsense, thus, this speaker is making everyone feel inadequate. Probably means well, but so what. Why are you giving him so much power over how you feel about yourself, if I may ask?

 

[Chance]

Chance, just tell us you don't plan on any test flights of the new drone over the lake.

I'm still wondering as well what might have happened to the first drone.

No test flights over the lake... No way
On my other drone we think it lost the battery connection maybe. I had been flying it really hard and had soft crashed it right before it went down.

It was flying perfect and we heard the blades just stop (no warnings). It should have auto returned "home" if it had a sensor issue or low battery or a software problem... it just went silent and fell and was gone.... : (

Here is a video of what they do... I should have kept mine, but it was on my iPhone 6. That was the phone that I jumped in the pool like a fool with it in my pocket (only to notice that when I got out and felt it against my leg about 20 minutes later)... I have a thing with killing things in water...
I think I am secretly an electronics torture guy. My MO is always drowning them... : )

My DJI Mavic Pro is totally different from GoPro Karma in many ways, but basically same set up...
I think GoPro tried to keep this quiet but they were having LOTS of trouble with the Karma (what a name, for this to be such a nightmare)...

They actually pulled the Karma off the market around the time mine crashed. Its back now it looks like, but GoPro suffered a massive hit over this, and lost tons of customer support, and business support. I hope they get it all back. I love that company, the inspiring story behind that company, and most of their products... But this just turned me off pretty bad.

 

[Chance]

Incorrect mathematical statements like that drive me up the wall. I mentally rephrase them as, "what you can actually give is 120% of what you thought you could give." It makes sense from the motivational speaker's perspective and it is mathematically sound.

Another one that drives me up the wall is the use of negative measurements. I just saw an article about the world's smallest cat, claiming it was "200 times as small as a tiger". I immediately think, "idiots" and then, for my own peace of mind, rephrase it as, "one 200th the size of a lion.". Same with "twice as cheap" (half the price?), "Ten times as cold" (one tenth the heat?), "Four times as dark" (one fourth the light?). I know what they're trying to say, but it's really poor communication.

I raised this gripe in a words and linguistics forum and everyone agreed. This isn't just an aspie complaint - it's an anyone-who-understands-science-or-math complaint.

In the end, if you speak like this, I can understand you, but I will resent you for speaking in such a confusing manner that I have to dedicate extra brainpower to the task of understanding what you mean.

So, I am not totally insane... There are others like me, not that that makes us right or special...
I get what you are saying and I so easily pick up on this non-logical nonsense. To me its sort of like lying with no consequences... and people accept it, or never even notice it... I do but I'm a freak sometimes. Thanks for sharing... : )

 

[Chance]

Motivational speakers might be trying to help people but in the wrong hands there is this dark side to it. There is no 120%, that's nonsense, thus, this speaker is making everyone feel inadequate. Probably means well, but so what. Why are you giving him so much power over how you feel about yourself, if I may ask?

I know a lot of his personal history and its sort of tragic like mine was... He's a truly great guy, but his messages have really started to change into this maybe "elite" form of speaking... I'm getting really turned off by some of what he is saying, yet I still think within him is a lot of masterful stuff.

I fully realize a person NOT LIKE ME just lets his non-logic slide... and I wish I could, but I cant so far. Like I said... This right here (this ultra concrete stubbornness) is what has gotten me in SO MUCH trouble in my life... Yet in other ways it has gotten me to good places in my life... Its a 2 edged sword I guess.

I like watching these people (especially the ones who had to struggle to make something of themselves)... It just tells me there is more in all of us... I can also be a horribly negative person and I get really down and depressed, so I use this to try and avoid that happening so much instead of using the stupid pills that make me a false me... : )

I hope you can understand some of what I am trying to say... I do think many motivational people have huge hearts (as does this guy)... Thats why I'm not going to throw his name out there and toss him under the bus in front of all of you...

People do that to us (it has been done to me) and it hurts... I don't want to pass that on... : )