I ditched someone I have feelings for. Did I do the right thing?

[Shiznown]

Final advice, my dude. Be careful not to fall for any pretty face. Ask yourself, how much would I like talking to this girl if I found her unattractive. Maybe you'd still enjoy talking to her, maybe you wouldn't. The point is, do you like her because you two get along, or do you simply find her cute. Plenty of women are cute and plenty of cute women have great personalities. I myself am very careful not to fall for women anymore, just based on looks and now I have the ability to not be attracted to women depending on their personality.

 

[paloftoon]

This woman you are describing is "codependent", which is an actual word. Even though her ex is in prison, even though she may know this is a bad idea, she is still in love with him. If she is unspoken for and out of a relationship for at least 6 months, then yes, I say you can re-consider the pursuit. But unless things fall properly in-place, focus on yourself or other people instead, or spend more time with friends or try to make new ones.

 

[OkRad]

If she has learning troubles etc she may not always be clear of her own motives. Still, imho, u should stay away. I am in same boat. Fell in love. Had many mixed messages to include touching. Would then email, no response. Then i would get depressed and he would start hugging me.i had enough and stopped going where he was when others started to get in on it. I was SO HUMILIATED. I cry a lot now even in public and gave up. It was a year and no, for aspies, there are not a lot of fish in sea. I do not fall in love. He got in, to my detriment. Now i am searching for ways to close myself off so it never happens again. I do not blame him. He is a beautiful soul. I know me. so i blame me for letting myself feel love

 

[spaceman]

Damn right you did the right thing.
You took back control. And now panicking in case you did have a chance and now you blew it. Nah. Not true. If a girl wants you to like her in that way and wanted you to know. They would definitely let you know.

I think for whatever reason, she gets her emotional needs met by you, and her kicks met by other guys, who blow her off. That's OK... she got you. She always got you.

I would be her mate, be her friend for advice and that. But no more emotional needs meeting. Your getting hurt, and it's damaging your self worth.

If you make the move and you get rejected, that's going to sting bad. You've put your heart on your sleeve. Don't giver her the chance to boost her ego by supporting her needs then rejecting you to go moles away.

Stay strong g my friend. When the goi g gets tough etc.. J good luck brother