I don't like giving attention to people who demand or expect it

[Bronzelincolns]

I attended church a week ago and they had a fellowship lunch. I don't begrudge people for attempting to be friendly with newcomers as it's what they're supposed to do and should do. there's a certain guy there who in the handful of times I've visited will attempt conversation with me. at this lunch he sits across from me at the same table in another attempt to force conversation. I hated it! I sat there hoping someone else would start a convo with this guy to get him away from me. I just wanted to eat and be left alone.

again, I don't dislike or have disdain for those who attempt to be social. I'm just not the one.

 

[BraidedPony]

Bow your head and close your eyes....lol

 

[Aspychata]

The most difficult person for me to handle right now is a superior in my work, woman.
She is a good person but in my opinion she needs attention, she needs to be heard, she needs recognition as a superior.
I respect her but I think she would like some flattering and attention and that's something I can not give her.
In the end she thinks I don't like her, takes everything personally, and I get scared of losing my job.

l get your gist, she needs instant gratification of approval from you maybe on a regular basis, because of whatever. Some people are like this. Some bosses are like this. l have worked for a variety of personalities in bosses, l like the boss that doesn't need me to pump them up.

 

[Progster]

Yes.
This is how I feel. How Progster explained.
But inside I am always thinking that I must be a terrible person to avoid people like this.
I can't avoid thinking that there must be something wrong with me.

It doesn't mean that you are a terrible person - you are likely an introvert and just prefer to keep yourself to yourself, and want to maintain some control over your environment and interactions with it and the people in it. Not everyone is a social butterfly, not everyone is the same, and you can't help what you feel. It's a preference, a personality trait, it's not like you are going out of your way to be mean to people.

 

[Tom]

If you are not feeling like conversation, in generic public situations, don't do it. Nothing is worse then some stranger spilling their guts to you. Except maybe them now thinking you a receptacle for them to spill their guts into regularly. It would be nice if you just could say 'hey' and leave it at that, but some of course will see it as an opening.

 

[All-Rounder]

Bow your head and close your eyes....lol

Playing dead, are we?

 

[BlueSky Aozora]

Yes.
This is how I feel. How Progster explained.
But inside I am always thinking that I must be a terrible person to avoid people like this.
I can't avoid thinking that there must be something wrong with me.

When is the time you want to have a company?

 

[Dias]

Well. While growing up I wanted a friend more than anything in the world but now I am quite comfortable alone and I even feel annoyed when people distract me from my activities.

 

[Dias]

When I was a child I remember that I liked to play with other kids, but my interest was the playing itself and not the person/s with who I was playing with.
Anyway it happened a few times that for some reason, unknown to me, I would hear from the adults that the child or children could not play with me anymore.
Either because the adults would have conflicts, or I was bad company, I don't know, the fact is that after some time I would be alone again and I don't know if it ust to upset me or not but I would just continue playing alone.
The last time, when I was 12 years old, I made a friend in a new school, I liked her, she invited me to her house and I went and it was all good for me, therefore I wanted to retribute the kindness so I invited her to my house the next day.
When we got to my house one of my sisters was with her boyfriend in the living room naked...needless is to say that the next day my friend said her mother didn't allow her to speak with me anymore...in that moment I gave up having friends.
I tried again when I was 19, 20 but again for some strange reason the people would turn against me.
Now I am ust to being alone and I even thank the Lord for protecting me from some of the things that I see in the world.
I feel that I am behind them in term of social skills but at the same time I developed some qualities that they didn't. And in this moment I am getting at peace with that and appreciating and putting to use all that I have learned instead of crying for what I might have missed.

 

[Vindicator Phoenix]

I use a tinge of "rudeness," to truncate conversations.

For example, someone at my workplace's lunch room asks, "Did you see the basketball game?" I'll reply with "Yep," while continuing to look down at my food, and eat. Although some would consider my answer to be curt, I answered the question. Since I didn't elaborate, they may intuit that I don't want to continue the conversation, which is true! Giving quick, short answers, with little or no eye contact, seems to communicate conversational reluctance.

However, if someone cute asks me a question, I'll elaborate my answers, as an excuse to stare at her face, while I speak.
That keeps me entertained, even during the most boring conversations. I just have to abstain from blushing, as that may divulge my attraction.

 

[All-Rounder]

However, if someone cute asks me a question, I'll elaborate my answers, as an excuse to stare at her face, while I speak.
That keeps me entertained, even during the most boring conversations. I just have to abstain from blushing, as that may divulge my attraction.

Such as... this cute grandma?