I don't really know how to start, but hello!

[Streetwise]

it’s reminded me I think it’s the only reason I was diagnosed was because I was stimming(self stimulating)In my case rocking from side to side standing in the GP surgery, they didn’t realise I’ve been taking to prescription medicines that didn’t go well together and were making me hyper or I never would’ve done that but I think it’s speeded up my appointment I think if you don’t self stimulate they just don’t get it!.

 

[Aspychata]

@Aspychata

That's very commendable of you. I wish I had a mom like that! Unfortunately the relationship with mine was full of high and lows. As I said, I was diagnosed with BPD but honestly now that I know about it, I think my mom had it. It's comforting to know that kids with good parents will grow up into good human beings.
With my mom, there were loving periods and others where she straight off despised me.
It's funny, I always disliked gloves too. Even if it gets really cold, I don't like wearing them because it feels like I can't have a good hold of things. And my hand feels large and awkward.
My obsession with skirts continued to elementary schools, I refused to wear gym clothes even during P.E! But it only lasted for some months of the first year. I was made aware that other kids were judging me and wouldn't want to include me if I acted too different. So because I wanted to fit in I started wearing other things.

Also it's true, the more you forbid something, the more the kid is going to search for ways to obtain that thing without you knowing (this is also how some food addictions develop, it definitely went that way with me). So it's just best to be as fair as you can. There are times for play, and there are times for studying. Neither of the two can be taken away from you, but you need to have both. If I had a kid, I'd try to teach this.

That is great you are going to break the generational abuse pattern, l broke the abuse pattern l was raised with the best l could. No need to continue it with your child. My stepfather was horribly abused, his mother committed suicide, my mom thought she was horribly abused by the nuns in Catholic boarding school, so my parents were strange to me. I never felt l knew them. To this day, my relationship with my mom is tedious. Anyways,l like that you wore skirts. Alot of times,kids go through a stage,especially us on the spectrum, and l had my weird stage too. We become obsessed with fitting in in our own weird way of how we interpret it growing up. Growing up on the spectrum was tough for my daughter, but l needed to step back and let her navigate to take responsibility for her life. Mom job is hard,now she doesn't contact me,sad, but l continue on in my life.

 

[Spring_K]

Hi everyone else, sorry I haven't been able to read answers in these last days. It's really true that everyone is super friendly. I feel like I can talk about everything and I will be taken seriously, because I wouldn't do differently with anybody else! So thanks.

Wow! That's some amazing talent there! The limit of my art abilities is a crude stick man.. I'm always impressed by people that have artistic skills! I've always wished I was able to as well, but I've never been able to learn it..

Hey you know it's never too late to discover a new passion C: it doesn't matter what your skill level is, what is important is enjoying yourself. Nowadays there are tons of tutorials and video lessons on the web, you can even learn without attending a school (which is really great for those who don't like going out and having to talk to people). I learned this way. So thank you for your compliments, I'm sure you have your own share of talents, but as I said it's never too late to find new ones.

@Thinx I understand, thanks for pointing out. Of course, nobody is the same so something written in an article can't apply to everyone. I will make sure to browse more to learn more about it.

@Streetwise That's very interesting. I'm glad they were able to give you the diagnosis you needed. I do tons of things that can be considered as self-stimulating but I honestly have no idea if they are stimming? Like picking my head, or continuously brushing my fingers together during conversations, gritting my teeth etc. or when I get a bit overwhelmed by duties (such as housework) I tend to pace around a lot in anxiety until I figure out how to start. I try to pay more attention to what I do and this is what I noticed.

@Aspychata Even though she is not contacting you much I'm sure she loves you and is grateful. I rarely contact my friends and dad too, but I still love them and it doesn't change anything even if we see or talk to each other little. I'm sorry to learn your family also had a sad past. But as you said it's great to break that cycle, we owe it to ourselves to live the best life possible. I would never want to bring a kid into this world to make him suffer. He's already going to suffer because of all the challenges that life brings, I would just want to be an ally to rely on.
I still occasionally have clothing phases. Right now I only wanna wear comfy stuff like gym clothes or pajamas, anything else irks me. I try to take myself more lightly now. Since I'd accept anyone the way they are I should give myself the same treatment.

 

[Streetwise]

To be honest if you could read my other posts for me personally being diagnosed wasn't that great I thought it would mean I would be given more help but apparently you have to be low functioning on the autism spectrum to get the assistance that quite a large percentage of autistic people need and whatever country you live in you will suffer in some mway you suffer financially or socially ,

 

[Au Naturel]

It really is helpful, thank you. In the article it says "On a measure of friendship quality and empathy, autistic girls scored as high as typically developing boys the same age—but lower than typically developing girls."

Does it also happen to you, being very good at something but being unable to open your brain to disliked subjects?

Thank you all!

There were some subjects like spelling I just had no patience for.

Mostly it was the monotony of a thing. If I knew how to add and carry, there was no point in huge numbers of increasingly large addition problems. I knew how to do it and I was not going to waste valuable time doing it over and over again hundreds of times. So I generated a hatred of math that caused me to miss important things later on. By the time I got to advanced algrebra and things got interesting, I couldn't climb out of the "I hate math" rut. It eliminated many later interesting career paths.

I think the reason why the diagnosis was associated with "low IQs and extreme behavior problems" is because women who would be considered to have high functioning autism (Asperger's is my preferred term and the APA and the DSM-5 be damned.) were not diagnosed as such. This is ironic, given that the article was about women not being diagnosed.

You can't really diagnose a character on a TV show as being on the spectrum but let's take "Big Bang Theory" and play with it. Every continuing character on that show, if they were a real person, might well be diagnosed with Asperger's. Including the females. Yet most people would not think of Penny and a lot wouldn't think of Bernadette. And neither would think of themselves that way. So they would never be diagnosed and that skews everything.