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I feel angry when strangers approach me.

We had just moved to Moab, Utah. Utah's main population is Mormon. I had decided I would, for once, try to be friendly to my neighbors. I was outside and my neighbor started talking to me and I decided to try very hard to maybe make friends with her. I never drink coffee and I don't like coffee and I've never invited someone over for coffee, but the words came out of my mouth ,"You'll have to come over for coffee sometime." I know Mormons don't drink coffee and I've never said that before and why did I say that? Anyway, she gave me a dirty look, walked away and never spoke to me again.

That is one way of handling it! :)
 
I just had to learn stock responses for the mundane crap people use to fill the silence and punctuate their lives. I love a good conversation with substance, when 2 or more people discuss something that matters, that actually merits different viewpoints, but I totally switch off to inane chatter or insincere gushing.
The worst is when people at work have birthdays and when other people find out, they dig into their desk drawers to find the least inappropriate of their stash of "emergency" birthday cards, then hand it over as if the recipient were their best friend in the world... Only to forget about it by the next day and do the same thing next year.
 
I just had to learn stock responses for the mundane crap people use to fill the silence and punctuate their lives. I love a good conversation with substance, when 2 or more people discuss something that matters, that actually merits different viewpoints, but I totally switch off to inane chatter or insincere gushing.
The worst is when people at work have birthdays and when other people find out, they dig into their desk drawers to find the least inappropriate of their stash of "emergency" birthday cards, then hand it over as if the recipient were their best friend in the world... Only to forget about it by the next day and do the same thing next year.
So sincere. lol My sister got her daughter in law a bread machine last Christmas and her daughter in law told her it's the 4th bread machine she has given her.
 
I feel the same way and try to avoid as much as possible. Partly why I have social phobia.

I can feel myself panic as a stranger walks past, because I do not to acknowledge, but I have to acknowledge as I hate being unpolite.

If I see people walking by, I cannot go out.
It's hard. I hate being unpolite too and I also hate feeling forced to make sensitive strangers happy.
 
nope i dont feel angry when people talk to me i am polite and nice to every one i used to be very shy but i an getting better of not being shy
 

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