I hate being male

[Judge]

I actually never meant it to sound like women are always stalked and men never are. I just meant that being "pursued" isn't always that great.

I get that. No matter what sex you are if one does everything but make actual contact with someone that can't be a good feeling for the person who could be the object of their affections. And if one is turned down, "no" means NO. No exceptions. Pursuit alone isn't necessarily a good thing.

 

[tlc]

But if I ever get married I'm only ever going to take my ring off to clean it or myself. The tradition of wedding rings is thousands of years old, but I think I remember hearing that we wear them on the fourth finger of our left hand because the vein there leads straight to the heart. IIRC, the Romans popularized that symbolism. But don't quote me on it. I need to read up on this stuff.

When I was married I never took mine off. Didn't take long for it to start getting dents and looking dull. I was told it should look better. But well anybody who knows me knows I'm always working on something, whether it be at my job or at home, pretty much every day. If I had a ring that looked shiny and pristine, you'd think I rarely wore it. So I thought it was a symbol of love in my own way.

 

[Turk]

When I was married I never took mine off. Didn't take long for it to start getting dents and looking dull. I was told it should look better. But well anybody who knows me knows I'm always working on something, whether it be at my job or at home, pretty much every day. If I had a ring that looked shiny and pristine, you'd think I rarely wore it. So I thought it was a symbol of love in my own way.

A few scratches and dents? Truely symbolic of most marriages, I would think.

 

[King_Oni]

Why can't I be a woman and just be the one pursued by people?

From my personal experience it's not that men have to do all the work. Men can be pursued as well. However, just like women who rely on this "tactic" to be pursued, at least make sure you are something worth pursuing.

I mean, why would someone pursue someone who doesn't seem a catch in the first place.

And thus I think the notion of gender does get discredited a bit. Regardless of gender, make sure you're desirable by whomever you wish to date/get pursued by.

And before anyone says "but women have it easier because men will fall for them no matter what"... well, I surely don't. If I'm going to put in effort by "chasing" someone this person needs to be interesting, and being interesting in my case would not qualify as "having female reproductive organs". The fact that some men might see that as the sole reason to chase women shouldn't make it so that everyone should go with this way of selecting a partner.

What's also worth noting is that quite a lot of these people who base their selection on such superficialities in terms of; looks hot, is of the preferred gender, might also end up being people who treat others just with these superficialities and not neccesarily as a human being but rather as an object.

 

[Peter A.]

Seen it happen at a table next to me (at an alcohol-free place), and also know many guys who openly say that's what they will do if someone talks to their girl.

Did these males also grunt, carry a club and eat raw meat? 'Their' girl implies possession, and that in turn demonstrates a tiny brain.