Agreed.
I was a young man once myself.
What I do realise now, beyond being driven by hormones, is the desire for most ppl to want to have a purpose, a sense of meaning in life.
The usual road to this is finding a partner/mate, building a nest, and starting a family.
Our autistic community, especially, doesn't always have the psychological/biological "equipment" to achieve these person-made constructs easily, and for some, unfortunately, the cost can be devastating.
However, until we try, we don't really know in which camp we fall into.
Agreed.
But also, there is no binary here.
Lucky?
In the sense that an organism fulfills its evolutionarily inspired instinctual needs, perhaps.
But not everyone is driven purely by their inherent urges/desires towards attaining psychological comfort.
Sometimes some ppl have no choice but to decide on the best worst option in the direction they take.
It can be quite a juggling act.
As individuals, we each have our own unique priority system.
Some fall into line with the person-made arbitrary social constructs, and some don't.
Some are confronted with environmental circumstances beyond their control that makes "the happy ending" unachievable unless they kowtow to the dominant power group.
Some have never had the option in the first place.
There is no "Perfect" in this universe.
For some, defiance is really the only option despite the emotional costs.
It depends on an individual's character-shaping experiences, in addition to their intellectual and emotional capacity.
Having a loving, caring soulmate may be the ideal circumstance, but the problem is, this is no inherent loving, caring life system.
It is a fantasy...
It is "The Matrix", Neo.
Some are happy to live their lives with their eyes wide shut...
And some are not...
Sorry for changing the tone of this discussion into something more serious.
I am aware that I hijacked your context, but it was a natural progression for me, and an ideal opportunity to voice my differing philosophical position.
