Irritated at myself for getting irritated

[Jojo_LB]

He just seemed so relaxed, I assumed that he did.

Oh he is very relaxed. I envy how it takes a lot to annoy him. This is why I need him.

 

[Jojo_LB]

Well, since I didn't have anything to do, while my friend took a nap all there was to do was watch tv which is high on the wall so those few hours of looking up at the tv was horrible for my neck. And I never just sit and watch tv without doing something else. And the tv shows that were on was these court tv shows that I hate, that also tends to give me meltdowns inside.

Oh... court TV. How is that even still a thing?

 

[Fridgemagnetman]

Oh he is very relaxed. I envy how it takes a lot to annoy him. This is why I need him.

BE CAREFUL.

If a relaxed person takes up crocheting there is a risk of coma.

 

[Jojo_LB]

BE CAREFUL.

If a relaxed person takes up crocheting there is a risk of coma.

Good to know.


But sometimes I think I'd actually want to be in a coma though.

 

[Pats]

Okay - now I'm irritated and not irritated at myself for getting irritated. So, yes, I give my daughter in law the benefit of doubt when I sat at the hospital with her mom which ended up being an all day thing. She says she didn't know it was going to be an all day thing. Now, in the same week - she asked if I wanted to ride over to this place to get plants Saturday and I say yes, so it's a plan. Sat morning I see her leave - thinking when she gets back we'll go. I waste half the day waiting to go to the plant place. I did text her at one point but never heard back until she got home. Her sister called that morning and wanted to go over to the plant place so they went. She's apologetic, and, as always, I'm like, it's okay. So she says we'll ride out to Big Lots Sunday and I say okay. So she first is meeting her sister at her mom's to fix this little area on her porch - wouldn't take long. Again, I waited all day, she gets home in the evening saying how tired she was and she didn't mean to be that long, but her and her sister went to Big Lots and did more in her mom's yard. She apologizes for standing me up twice in a row and I mention it's to go where we had planned to go. Yesterday she knew I was bothered. It's not the change of plans - it's the 'not letting me know so I can go on and do something else' thing. I didn't want to start anything and have to stop in middle so I basically just waited. THAT's what I have a problem with.
You know, I've always told people to tell me things - even if it's something I don't want to hear. I'll get over it, but I'd rather know and work around knowing then not know and not really know what's going on. Just tell me!!!
I dreamed about zombies last night (and I don't watch zombie shows). But it included animal zombies coming in through any opening in the house.

 

[Fridgemagnetman]

So she says we'll ride out to Big Lots Sunday and I say okay.

You said okay.

Mistake.

'busy'.
'no'.
'head amputation that day'

The 3rd one I call the 'listening test'

Next time you say 'okay'
Go off and do something else that day.

One thing lots of people do -
She realised she missed out realised you feel bad.
Says something to make you feel better
(The 2nd offer)
Not to be taken literally - the plan wasn't the plan. It was the meaning behind the words, communicating placatory words so you could 'feel' better.

Obviously,unthinkingly,making the mistake even worse.

dreamed about zombies last night (and I don't watch zombie shows). But it included animal zombies coming in through any opening in the house

I once dreamed I was reading a book.

My life is that exciting.

 

[Pats]

You said okay.

Mistake.

'busy'.
'no'.
'head amputation that day'

The 3rd one I call the 'listening test'

Next time you say 'okay'
Go off and do something else that day.

One thing lots of people do -
She realised she missed out realised you feel bad.
Says something to make you feel better
(The 2nd offer)
Not to be taken literally - the plan wasn't the plan. It was the meaning behind the words, communicating placatory words so you could 'feel' better.

Obviously,unthinkingly,making the mistake even worse.



I once dreamed I was reading a book.

My life is that exciting.

I will heed your advice. And I literally laughed out loud at your dream.

 

[Progster]

Things like this happen to me a lot too, and make me so, so angry. Unfortunately I can't keep my cool with it and it often leads to rows. There are certain people I just won't arrange things with because I know that they will stand me up.

One thing lots of people do -
She realised she missed out realised you feel bad.
Says something to make you feel better
(The 2nd offer)
Not to be taken literally - the plan wasn't the plan. It was the meaning behind the words, communicating placatory words so you could 'feel' better.

This can happen. For me, arranging to do something with me when they have given a specific day and time for this to happen, unless cancelled, is a firm promise and if someone says they are going to do something, I then expect them to carry out the promise. Sometimes people say that we should meet up sometime and leave it vague, then I know that they don't really mean it. We're back to ememes, one of those things that people say where the emotion is important but the words don't count. A bit like going to the job interview and they say "don't call us, we'll call you" and you know that they won't. I just find it irritating and pointless and it really doesn't make me feel better to say this because I know it's fake.

Also sometimes people say they are going to do things fully intending at the time to carry out the plan, but then when it actually comes to doing it, something better comes along and they decide to drop me, or they get distracted and forget their original arrangement...again, not cool, extremely irritating and disrespectful.

 

[Fridgemagnetman]

Also sometimes people say they are going to do things fully intending at the time to carry out the plan, but then when it actually comes to doing it, something better comes along and they decide to drop me, or they get distracted and forget their original arrangement...again, not cool, extremely irritating and disrespectful.

A world filled with vapid flibbertigibbets.

We're back to ememes, one of those things that people say where the emotion is important but the words don't count. A bit like going to the job interview and they say "don't call us, we'll call you" and you know that they won't.

I missed a chance to say ememes? Darn.

I have to learn not to take things at face value, but at the same time, learn to say something so that it is clear that they will NOT be coming round,nor will I , or whatever the negative is relative to whatever is being suggested.

 

[Pats]

Things like this happen to me a lot too, and make me so, so angry. Unfortunately I can't keep my cool with it and it often leads to rows. There are certain people I just won't arrange things with because I know that they will stand me up.

This can happen. For me, arranging to do something with me when they have given a specific day and time for this to happen, unless cancelled, is a firm promise and if someone says they are going to do something, I then expect them to carry out the promise. Sometimes people say that we should meet up sometime and leave it vague, then I know that they don't really mean it. We're back to ememes, one of those things that people say where the emotion is important but the words don't count. A bit like going to the job interview and they say "don't call us, we'll call you" and you know that they won't. I just find it irritating and pointless and it really doesn't make me feel better to say this because I know it's fake.

Also sometimes people say they are going to do things fully intending at the time to carry out the plan, but then when it actually comes to doing it, something better comes along and they decide to drop me, or they get distracted and forget their original arrangement...again, not cool, extremely irritating and disrespectful.

Yea, I think it was the something better came along thing. And the day I sat at the hospital - she was also apologetic about and said she didn't realize that her sister had to work and wasn't coming back. Her mom had already told me that her sister was at home resting. I didn't say anything that I knew her sister wasn't working.
And I feel the same as you do - you make specific plans it needs to be carried out period - unless there's an emergency of some kind or you cancel with adequate warning - not just a not show up. It's rude, yes. And next time she asks if I want to do such and such I won't mind telling her to ask me that day and if neither of us are doing something else, maybe.

 

[Fridgemagnetman]

Yea, I think it was the something better came along thing. And the day I sat at the hospital - she was also apologetic about and said she didn't realize that her sister had to work and wasn't coming back. Her mom had already told me that her sister was at home resting. I didn't say anything that I knew her sister wasn't working.
And I feel the same as you do - you make specific plans it needs to be carried out period - unless there's an emergency of some kind or you cancel with adequate warning - not just a not show up. It's rude, yes. And next time she asks if I want to do such and such I won't mind telling her to ask me that day and if neither of us are doing something else, maybe.

If you want to guarantee a day to yourself - ask everyone over for a crocheting lesson....

 

[Progster]

I missed a chance to say ememes? Darn.

I'm always on the look out for opportunitues lol

And next time she asks if I want to do such and such I won't mind telling her to ask me that day and if neither of us are doing something else, maybe.

It's a good idea to ask people to confirm it the day before - or send them a text message asking them to confirm it.

 

[Pats]

You said okay.

Mistake.

'busy'.
'no'.
'head amputation that day'

The 3rd one I call the 'listening test'

Next time you say 'okay'
Go off and do something else that day.

One thing lots of people do -
She realised she missed out realised you feel bad.
Says something to make you feel better
(The 2nd offer)
Not to be taken literally - the plan wasn't the plan. It was the meaning behind the words, communicating placatory words so you could 'feel' better.

Obviously,unthinkingly,making the mistake even worse.



I once dreamed I was reading a book.

My life is that exciting.

Hey - I just remembered that I also dreamed I was at the grocery store buying eggs. lol