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Is having children wrong or not?

Aspergers_Aspie said:
Is having children wrong or not? As they have no say whether they want to be born or not?
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I think it depends on the parents' condition. They're wrong for having a child if they're clearly not stable financially or mentally (like my parents, lol). I hate my life, and I don't want to be born at all, but mostly, it's because of my early life, like how the parenting style and environment that my parents are make. My peers who don't want to be born at all mostly have the same opinion about their parents.

However, parents who can make a good environment for their child are more likely to have a happier child who thinks life is a blessing.
 
Having my kids was the bet thing I ever did, same with my siblings four of us are Aspies ten children among us,
All of them university or college educated, they are all doing well starting to see grand children now. Wish I could show many on here how to improve their lives, Can lead horse to water cannot make it drink.
 
NB79 said:
No children no humanity. Kind of bleak to think is wrong to have children.
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Yes there is a misanthropic streak to that line of thought, hardly a surprise with all the modern doomsday merchants out there. Whose going to look after us when we're old and frail, without children to prop up the system.

When thinking about our current inevitable demise, it might be good to think what ever became of the last apocalypse and the one before that. We found a way because necessity is the mother of all invention.
 
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Aspergers_Aspie said:
Is having children wrong or not? As they have no say whether they want to be born or not?
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I don't think there is a simple answer to this question, it is really complex and it depends on so many factors on different levels...

Having a child or not isn't a real choice for all, if having a child isn't a real choice in a given situation, then I don't think there is any purpose in judging if it is right or wrong.

For the people who are lucky to have a real choice, I think the question should be, if they think they can give the child they want, a life that they, themself, would want to have - if the answer is yes, then I think it is right to have the child, if the answer is no, then they probably should reconsider wanting a child.

I'm not saying that things can't change, and people thinking they can't take care of a child, can't grow and be the best parents and/or raise happy children, nor that people thinking they will be the best parents, later can't realize they aren't.

Personally I don't regret having a child, I kind of wish I had a chance to correct the many mistakes I made raising her, but I also believe I did some things right :)

A question I do have, is if the world I pass on to my child is better than the one I got passed on - but then my child might be making this world into a better place than I could, I think she is, bc she is a good person that wants to help others on a whole different level than I ever could... which makes me proud, but that is a different story :)
 
I wonder if people thought the same thing at the end of the baby boomer generation. Like how is the world gonna sustain? Going from having tons of kids, to the 2.3 kids or whatever of Gen X.

As far as the original question, some others said it well. If you want to bring kids in the world to love them, and are in a position to care for them, then great.

But if you’re in no position to care for them, mentally, financially, healthwise, then I say no. A post was made about selfish people unwilling to sacrifice, but some people are already living down to the bone to begin with. Also for the people who simply have kids to use as cash cows, I also say no.
 
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Before the 1960's their was no choice you had sex you had kids. Maybe condom could have been used., My mother planned on four kids, Birth control failed she got six first four were boys number five was a girl. Wife's mother had four girls, birth control failed. fifth kid was boy. Are we trying too hard to control nature, at our peril. My son just had a baby girl boy does he like her, deciding whether they should have a second. Society currently not set up for raising families, most notably for woman.
 
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Aspergers_Aspie said:
Is having children wrong or not? As they have no say whether they want to be born or not?
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I'm trying to decide if you're serious or a troll.

My daughter is very happy to be alive, I know this much. So is my cat, but he spends a lot of his time washing himself inappropriately, meaning his judgement is suspect.
 
I just realized that my family brackets the baby boomer generation oldest cousin is 80 I'm 70 youngest brother is 60.
 
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