Hi. So I'm really confused.
I've had a crush on this girl for that I met a little over two months ago. I understand that it's important to just be friends at first, so I've made sure not to tell her about my feelings.
I've tried as hard as I can to get to know her. I've asked her how frequently she wants me to call her. She said I can call her whenever because we're friends and, but she later said I wasn't giving her enough space. When she asked me to give her more space I asked how much and she said maybe text her once a week.
So I texted her about a week later and she didn't get back to me for a few days. So I got impatient and sent another message. That was about a week and a half ago. Since then I've sent seven or eight more messages through facebook messenger and texting and I've tried to call a couple of times.
My mom says that I should stop so that it doesn't seem like I'm harassing her or anything. At this point I'm feeling confused as to why she's stopped responding to me all of a sudden and frustrated that I'm being ignored instead (I would much rather someone get mad at me than straight up ignore me) and anxious because if she won't tell me what I did wrong than there's no means for me to prevent history from repeating itself.
The sort of messages I sent her a couple of weeks ago were "how were finals?" and "Thank you for your open and honest communication about needing space". Earlier today I got upset and I messaged her "How did I alienate you?" and "What did I do wrong? Have I caused you to have an anxiety attack?" (she has problems with social anxiety).
And please note, I don't use profanity or name call or insult or make threats or anything. When I say I get upset I more mean that I get anxious and start to contact her too much. I also think that it's pathetic that I can't maintain a friendship for two months before things start to fall apart. And her brother has Asperger's so I thought she'd be understanding about me needing help socially.
I know I need to stop contacting her, but every time I think about her I start to feel upset that I'm being ignored and that she hates me all of a sudden. I don't understand why neurotypicals don't just tell people what's on their mind. I mean, if she didn't want to be friends than why wouldn't she just straight up tell me. That would make things a whole lot simpler.
I've had a crush on this girl for that I met a little over two months ago. I understand that it's important to just be friends at first, so I've made sure not to tell her about my feelings.
I've tried as hard as I can to get to know her. I've asked her how frequently she wants me to call her. She said I can call her whenever because we're friends and, but she later said I wasn't giving her enough space. When she asked me to give her more space I asked how much and she said maybe text her once a week.
So I texted her about a week later and she didn't get back to me for a few days. So I got impatient and sent another message. That was about a week and a half ago. Since then I've sent seven or eight more messages through facebook messenger and texting and I've tried to call a couple of times.
My mom says that I should stop so that it doesn't seem like I'm harassing her or anything. At this point I'm feeling confused as to why she's stopped responding to me all of a sudden and frustrated that I'm being ignored instead (I would much rather someone get mad at me than straight up ignore me) and anxious because if she won't tell me what I did wrong than there's no means for me to prevent history from repeating itself.
The sort of messages I sent her a couple of weeks ago were "how were finals?" and "Thank you for your open and honest communication about needing space". Earlier today I got upset and I messaged her "How did I alienate you?" and "What did I do wrong? Have I caused you to have an anxiety attack?" (she has problems with social anxiety).
And please note, I don't use profanity or name call or insult or make threats or anything. When I say I get upset I more mean that I get anxious and start to contact her too much. I also think that it's pathetic that I can't maintain a friendship for two months before things start to fall apart. And her brother has Asperger's so I thought she'd be understanding about me needing help socially.
I know I need to stop contacting her, but every time I think about her I start to feel upset that I'm being ignored and that she hates me all of a sudden. I don't understand why neurotypicals don't just tell people what's on their mind. I mean, if she didn't want to be friends than why wouldn't she just straight up tell me. That would make things a whole lot simpler.