Datura
Well-Known Member
... or trangender, for that matter.Consider some other ways you could have been born in which finding a partner would become very unlikely. Imagine you were deformed or hideously ugly, a "little person," born without legs, a disease making your bones to fragile to make physical contact possible, mentally retarded, mute...
My point is, the girl you (AidenMaccullagh) went on that date with was just trying to find love, the same as you . Of course, you have no obligation to feel attracted to her, but try to have some compassion. There is no reason to be scared, or to question your sexuality, or anything like that. And, one way or an other, a girl thought you were worth kissing. In hindsight you may not feel the same way about her, but with persistence you will find the right person.
Also; from her position there are some very good reasons not to disclose her transgender status to prospective dates. There are people out there who specifically target trans women online for harassment, doxing, and sometimes even physical violence. It is also the case that some people fetishize trans women, and most of us want nothing to do with those guys. We would rather people get to know us for who we are before applying preconceived notions to us. And yeah, dating while trans can be dangerous, so often we will get a feel for somebody before disclosing.
I am sorry you are having such a difficult time. Good luck in the future.