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Look but don't touch.

Progster said:
I can relate to @Ezra 's being behind a plexiglass wall more than the fishbowl, but my term for it before I knew I was on the spectrum was "watching TV" Look, watch, but don't participate. Can't participate.
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I did not think of it as watching TV. However the only difference is that if you don't like what is on you can change the channel or now with streaming change the program. However in the "real world" all you do is leave the place well I guess its like changing the channel or stream.
 
I have a different perspective on that, I have always been a person that "watches" the world without getting super involved, even people around me as I move through life, but I believe that has been a benefit to my photography, that I have strong skills of observation... My photography is rarely very personal as such, very much me observing the world, and quite possibly me dissecting the world in terms of "that scene has strong composition" and being very analytical

Ultimately I have embraced that skill of observation, over many years... Yes, I do have friends who I spend "some" time with... And the strange part of me that even does stranger portraits, in many ways the camera is the buffer between myself and people I meet when I take a stranger portrait...
 
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Tony Ramirez said:
Is that how your life seems like having Asperger's ASD. Your afraid to say the wrong thing when talking to people.

It is like living in a fish bowl where you see people doing things that seems impossible for you. Going back to if you try to do what others do you are shamed. Or if you margenly succeed like making friends something bad happens like they coupleaup or lose interest in and ou slowly lose it all. Then your back to square one being lonely.

Then you are known to always have a negative attitude but they don't understand.
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I experience this also, but if you do something that someone finds funny or odd, if helps if you just laugh along with them. Just say something like, "yeah you got me. I"m an airhead sometimes. I don't know why I say or do things like that". Then try to be attentive, listening more than you talk. And don't take over conversations if you do that.

One thing I learned is that when people laugh at something you do, it doesn't mean they don't like you. When people stop laughing is when you know they don't like you
 
Sherlock77 said:
I have a different perspective on that, I have always been a person that "watches" the world without getting super involved, even people around me as I move through life, but I believe that has been a benefit to my photography, that I have strong skills of observation... My photography is rarely very personal as such, very much me observing the world, and quite possibly me dissecting the world in terms of "that scene has strong composition" and being very analytical

Ultimately I have embraced that skill of observation, over many years... Yes, I do have friends who I spend "some" time with... And the strange part of me that even does stranger portraits, in many ways the camera is the buffer between myself and people I meet when I take a stranger portrait...
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I am afraid to take pictures of people and try to avoid it as I am afraid they might approach me negative.

I do take pictures of signs, buildings and plants. Also my cats.
 
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Tony Ramirez said:
I am afraid to take pictures of people and try to avoid it as I am afraid they might approach me negative.

I do take pictures of signs, buildings and plants. Also my cats.
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And what you do is observation as well, just looking at the world, we all look at the world in different ways... I know what you mean about people, I've learned to be careful, and I still have my moments of struggle
 
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Ah, i thought this would be a thread about literally "look, but don't touch."

Ive had a NT "friend" smack my hand away because i touched his plant... i said go expletive yourself and ran out. :(
 
sometimes I have this feeling, it's relatable,like you have to say something but you're afraid that people will misunderstand
 
When I am out I listen to music so I am literally in a look don't touch mentality. The only human interaction I have is with the cashier when I get a soda or at the checkout line unless some guy bothers me for money or some grandmother asks for directions literally the only interaction type of people.
 
Also most of the music I listen to is my favorite and about 80% after careful listening to the lyrics as I got older as I use to listen to the beat only I find out is rejection, breakups, loneliness and sadness.
 
Tony Ramirez said:
Is that how your life seems like having Asperger's ASD. Your afraid to say the wrong thing when talking to people.

It is like living in a fish bowl where you see people doing things that seems impossible for you. Going back to if you try to do what others do you are shamed. Or if you margenly succeed like making friends something bad happens like they coupleaup or lose interest in and ou slowly lose it all. Then your back to square one being lonely.

Then you are known to always have a negative attitude but they don't understand.
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I have always been on the outside looking in.
It doesn't bother me these days.

You might have better luck in making friends with other enlightened aspies, meaning people who understand what it means to be on the spectrum.

I'm an older person, btw.
 
l have always felt like you can look but that's all you get with me. Maybe it's a female thing though. l have felt outside of the bubble but it didn't really bother me. But l don't place much on social interaction. l wasn't raise in a group of people and enjoy independence immensely. So social interaction isn't a requirement or much of a need. People have a right to privacy and space and we don't need to infringe on these rights. Maybe l can ask the poster if they are comfortable with themselves and comfortable spending time alone or does it feel better to be constantly near other people? Did they grow up with a big family?
 
I grew up in a moderate family. I have all male cousins which is why I had very little exposure with females growing up. My sister is fully autistic. My uncle, mother and father criticize me and say I have a bad attitude. The only one that partially understands me is my grandmother.
 
I also grew up somewhat like this never knew the difference till later.To day even my wife helps me keep things on track.
 
Just about to go out for a walk that the girl from life group text me asking if we want to talk. We talked for about 20 minutes. I felt better that I had a friend to talk too.

Then when I was out just now two Jewish man asked me if I was Jewish "60/100 odds strike again" I said I am Christian and thru said have a good day.
 
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