my family isn’t supportive

[madisen622]

so, a little bit of context here.

i recently got offered a job that i took, it’s for a barista at a children’s hospital. it’s 36 minutes away with traffic. i felt deep down i really wanted this job, i felt as if i was making a difference.

my family wants me to reevaluate my decision, they aren’t supportive of me taking this job because of the distance. the only people that have been supportive are my dad and my boyfriend.

i guess i was just wondering if anybody else has faced similar issues with their family not being supportive?

 

[Rodafina]

36 minutes doesn’t sound like an especially long commute. Is that by car? Is someone driving you there and picking you up?

 

[TBRS1]

so, a little bit of context here.

i recently got offered a job that i took, it’s for a barista at a children’s hospital. it’s 36 minutes away with traffic. i felt deep down i really wanted this job, i felt as if i was making a difference.

my family wants me to reevaluate my decision, they aren’t supportive of me taking this job because of the distance. the only people that have been supportive are my dad and my boyfriend.

i guess i was just wondering if anybody else has faced similar issues with their family not being supportive?

I originally come from the Detroit (Michigan USA) and a 30-45 minute drive was pretty normal.

I'm fortunate that my family was supportive (to the point of being pushy ), though.

If you begin with the idea that "30 minutes is common for many people", and can offer up some evidence of ability (like, " I've had my license for 3 years and have never had a problem"), that might help.

 

[blitzkrieg]

I am sorry that your family are not being supportive of you performing this job, because of the distance.

It sounds like a good opportunity for you.

 

[madisen622]

36 minutes doesn’t sound like an especially long commute. Is that by car? Is someone driving you there and picking you up?

i thought the same thing. it is by car, yes! im taking my moms car, we share it. i totaled mine a few months ago unfortunately.

 

[madisen622]

I originally come from the Detroit (Michigan USA) and a 30-45 minute drive was pretty normal.

I'm fortunate that my family was supportive (to the point of being pushy ), though.

If you begin with the idea that "30 minutes is common for many people", and can offer up some evidence of ability (like, " I've had my license for 3 years and have never had a problem"), that might help.

thank you for your advice! i think i’ll try that.

 

[madisen622]

I am sorry that your family are not being supportive of you performing this job, because of the distance.

It sounds like a good opportunity for you.

thank you!

it is a good opportunity, im excited to work there truly.

 

[Judge]

There may be more to your mother's perspective.

Apart from your mother's concern over your own safety, as a "permissive user" in the household, it likely means the insurance on the car you and your mother share will likely increase in premium due to the added commute exposure, and possibly a big surcharge if the accident you had was at-fault. Then add gasoline and maintenance expenses on the car.

When I was an insurance underwriter handling private passenger autos, our company placed punitive surcharges not on the vehicle you may be driving, but rather the vehicle with the highest rates in the household. Kind of a "double-whammy" to persons having an at-fault accident, if you live in a state that doesn't have no-fault considerations.

I once had a 60 minute commute by car, but given the pay, it was worth it. Yet very expensive not to mention it was a sports car which carried an added premium in itself.

If your mother keeps track of family expenses, her concern wouldn't surprise me. Auto insurance where I live has skyrocketed in cost in just the last 15 months.

 

[Masked Man]

so, a little bit of context here.

i recently got offered a job that i took, it’s for a barista at a children’s hospital. it’s 36 minutes away with traffic. i felt deep down i really wanted this job, i felt as if i was making a difference.

my family wants me to reevaluate my decision, they aren’t supportive of me taking this job because of the distance. the only people that have been supportive are my dad and my boyfriend.

i guess i was just wondering if anybody else has faced similar issues with their family not being supportive?

Before I make a judgement, I would need to know who is paying for the gas, the insurance, and how exactly you totaled your car.

 

[madisen622]

Before I make a judgement, I would need to know who is paying for the gas, the insurance, and how exactly you totaled your car.

fair enough lol. i’ll get back to you on that.

 

[Rodafina]

i thought the same thing. it is by car, yes! im taking my moms car, we share it. i totaled mine a few months ago unfortunately.

Sorry to hear about your car. I hope you were not hurt.

It's odd to me that some people in your life would openly disapprove of you having a job that you like and feels meaningful because of a 36 minute commute.

Maybe this is just a situation where you meet disapproval head on and do what you want regardless of what others are telling you. And, you do have the support of your father and your boyfriend. If you have a steady job, then you can save up money to get your own car sooner than if you quit, so it seems like a good thing that you are happily employed.

 

[Masked Man]

I think it might also be important to know how many days per week you would need the car and does it conflict with any arrangements/jobs your mother has.