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GhostPrinceRi

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Hi, I'm Riley! I'm a 20 year old trans man who loves succulents. I am currently self diagnosed with Asperger's (my mom's friend who teaches special education thinks so too) because it's so expensive to get evaluated and because my parents said when I was younger that they wouldn't have an kid on the spectrum. I don't really know how to handle things, especially when my partner, who I live with, also has ASD. Neither of us learned how to deal with things when we were younger, so we are struggling greatly in the adult world. We both go nonverbal, but thankfully it hasn't happened at the same time. Right now it's 3:18 am and I can't sleep because I need lots of weight on me, but I don't have anything to achieve this. I've been obsessed with dinosaurs since I was little. We have dinosaur bed sheets, stuffed animals, a chewy necklace, and a blanket. I also read an encyclopedia of dinosaurs. I've also always loved astronomy. I could keep going, but I guess I better stop.
 
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Ha, the first sentence of your introduction made me think of the comics of Adam Ellis and his obsession with succulents :D

Anyway, welcome! Dinosaurs are the best. And becoming a functional adult tends to take a little more time for the Aspies among us than for our NT counterparts. I'm 31 now and I've finally gotten to a point where I feel like an adult and I feel in control more often than not.
 
Hello Riley :)
Welcome to AC!
Me and my partner are both ASD and didn't discover this till adulthood.
Yes I too think we miss out on valuable coping strategies with a later diagnosis.
This place is great for adivice and is full of friendly supportive people.
You could also get books from you local library or look things up online about ASD.
I have insomnia too, it sure does suck!
You could try a weighted blanket, but there very expensive. I want one but can't afford it right now.
I was only diagnosed 2 months ago and so far I've learned to try and accept myself the way I'm and try keep onto of sensory issues.
Me and my partner sometimes go mute and go through times when we stay in, shut all the blinds, disconnect the phone and ignore the world. Hey if you need to do it, to deal with the world, so be it!
Hope you enjoy your time here!
 
Welcome :) my husband and I are both on the spectrum.

Bolletje said:
becoming a functional adult tends to take a little more time for the Aspies among us than for our NT counterparts. I'm 31 now and I've finally gotten to a point where I feel like an adult and I feel in control more often than not.
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I'm 31 and do not feel at all like an adult :rolleyes::p
 
Bolletje said:
Ha, the first sentence of your introduction made me think of the comics of Adam Ellis and his obsession with succulents :D

Anyway, welcome! Dinosaurs are the best. And becoming a functional adult tends to take a little more time for the Aspies among us than for our NT counterparts. I'm 31 now and I've finally gotten to a point where I feel like an adult and I feel in control more often than not.
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I love Adam Elliis' comics. I love crystals too and really want his shirt that says "Crystal Daddy" :p It does take more work. There are definitely things I love about being ND, but it can be so exhausting in a NT world. I usually try to hide my flappiness and stimming, but I'm not sure I care too much anymore. I'm a big chewer and don't have anything to really chew on just yet (just found the site stimtastic), so I've been eating things when I need to chew :eek:
 
Soona45 said:
Hello Riley :)
Welcome to AC!
Me and my partner are both ASD and didn't discover this till adulthood.
Yes I too think we miss out on valuable coping strategies with a later diagnosis.
This place is great for adivice and is full of friendly supportive people.
You could also get books from you local library or look things up online about ASD.
I have insomnia too, it sure does suck!
You could try a weighted blanket, but there very expensive. I want one but can't afford it right now.
I was only diagnosed 2 months ago and so far I've learned to try and accept myself the way I'm and try keep onto of sensory issues.
Me and my partner sometimes go mute and go through times when we stay in, shut all the blinds, disconnect the phone and ignore the world. Hey if you need to do it, to deal with the world, so be it!
Hope you enjoy your time here!
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My mom has a friend who "cured" her kids and I feel so bad for them and now says they're "normal". She made them go through really intensive therapy and forced them to do things they had no interest in doing whatsoever.
I really want a weighted blanket, but like you said, they're very expensive. I saw somewhere that showed how to make them with rice, but I don't know where to get fabric in my area, nor do I want to sew it by hand
 
xudo said:
Welcome :) my husband and I are both on the spectrum.



I'm 31 and do not feel at all like an adult :rolleyes::p
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Haha, well I should clarify: I feel like an adult sometimes for remembering to pay my bills on time, for making myself eat healthily instead of indulging my ever-present craving for junk food, and for thinking about my career. I'm still stupefied that I've legally been an adult for 13 years, but only recently feel like I'm even remotely qualified to take care of myself.
 
GhostPrinceRi said:
My mom has a friend who "cured" her kids and I feel so bad for them and now says they're "normal". She made them go through really intensive therapy and forced them to do things they had no interest in doing whatsoever.
I really want a weighted blanket, but like you said, they're very expensive. I saw somewhere that showed how to make them with rice, but I don't know where to get fabric in my area, nor do I want to sew it by hand
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Omg my word Riley, that women did an awful thing to her children, poor things. We aspies should not have to change ourselves just to suite the NT world. It really gets on my nerves with this 'cure autism' attitude.
I think you can get cheap fabric off ebay? But can't give you any advice on making one, I gave my sewing machine away, I'm so terrible at it.
 
Welcome, Riley :)
I too need lots of weight on me to sleep so I often end up sleeping with a heavy comforter in the summertime.
We have quite a few succulents and other sorts of plants in my house. I love Adam Ellis's comics as well.
 
hullo riley =) love your succulentic dinosauric sympathetic saying-hello.. made me smile much =))
also very cool: thumbs up for trans man :cool: out of interest because you say diagnosis is very expensive: which country are you from?
 
Welcome to AC Riley! You will find a lot of insight on Asperger's on here. I've learned so much by only a mere month of membership; my psychologist recently "diagnosed" me, though not formally and suggested I join an online community - so here I am. I should have gone to see a professional years sooner instead of sweeping my struggles under the rug, as I've been struggling for years.

I'll be turning 30 later in the year so it took me almost 30 years to finally get help. I felt different throughout my entire life and I've constantly struggled with OCD/general anxieties and social interaction; I also have a lot of trouble controlling my emotions. I suffer from low self-esteem and I've hardly ever had any friends. I'm glad you have a partner and at 20 years old; I've never dated in my entire life, ever. I used to not even be interested in it; I've been a lone wolf by choice up until my early 20's. I did have one childhood friend who was too socially awkward.

Then I suddenly grew tired of the solitude and wanted to make a lot of new friends in college, but failed at it miserably, becoming more alone than ever before. I regressed into my "lone wolfdom" and concentrated more on work after graduating; I do software development for a living. You said you're into dinosaurs? Well, I'm not 100% into dinosaurs but I do like some specific dinosaurs - like Tyrantus, a dinosaur featured in WoW/Hearthsone that I coined my username after.

I have been obsessed with other things like streetlights, sprinklers, construction sites, Isuzu tow trucks, and 4-digit numbers that start with 9. I used to be more artistic as a child; I used to write stories, poems, songs and even a few plays; I used to also draw a lot. For some reason I hardly ever read books. I read a lot of hearthpwn because it discusses cards from the video game I'm currently obsessed with, Hearthstone.

I have some stims that I'm not proud of. I used to chew on my shirts, and now I often fidget and peel skin off of my fingers and lips; I also clip my fingernails without using clippers, sometimes to the point of bleeding. I do that whenever I'm nervous and I'm pretty much always nervous. I also exhibit numerous facial tics for the same reason.

Anyway, enough about me. I'll let someone else take the driver's seat. :D
 
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