PATILYN
Active Member
Hi all, I am new. I am in a lovely friendship with an undiagnosed aspie man. I would like it to be more; however, it is new. About 8 months. We are now in a LDR. As it stands, we don't define ourselves as more than friends.
I have fallen in love. I believe he loves me but by his own admission he has told me he has trouble with his words.
I would very much appreciate some insights for me.
I have let him know that I love him. We have kissed on the lips, if not with passion (from my perspective), at least as close friends. He is not adverse to me touching him or being close to him physically but we have yet to discuss more intimacy. He seems a bit timid on the subject of intimacy. He has made a couple of odd remarks about women who have approached him in the past. He did have a long term relationship that ended several years ago.
When I left him at the airport, I got an immediate text "I miss you already". He has confided/reassured me on more than one occasion, "I am always thinking about you". If I was in a NT relationship, and guy told me this, I would know exactly that he thought of me in a romantic way.
Recently when I told him via text that he was in my heart and that he was very very special to me, his response was "right back to you". I rather thought this was sweet; and I assume means "I echo the sentiment".
He gladly talks with me weekly, and answers my texts very quickly, however, I have to initiate things and set it up.
I am very aware that my expectations need to be in line with what he is capable of and I accept this.
So my questions are this:
1. Is it likely that he has any feelings for me in a romantic way? I know the easy answer is to ask him, but at this point, I would like some brotherly advise without actually having to do so?
2. If he thinks of me all the time, and said "he misses me already", why is it that I need to make all the arrangements for us to communicate?
3. Any advice for making my friend comfortable with the idea that we could be more?
thank you all so much.
I have fallen in love. I believe he loves me but by his own admission he has told me he has trouble with his words.
I would very much appreciate some insights for me.
I have let him know that I love him. We have kissed on the lips, if not with passion (from my perspective), at least as close friends. He is not adverse to me touching him or being close to him physically but we have yet to discuss more intimacy. He seems a bit timid on the subject of intimacy. He has made a couple of odd remarks about women who have approached him in the past. He did have a long term relationship that ended several years ago.
When I left him at the airport, I got an immediate text "I miss you already". He has confided/reassured me on more than one occasion, "I am always thinking about you". If I was in a NT relationship, and guy told me this, I would know exactly that he thought of me in a romantic way.
Recently when I told him via text that he was in my heart and that he was very very special to me, his response was "right back to you". I rather thought this was sweet; and I assume means "I echo the sentiment".
He gladly talks with me weekly, and answers my texts very quickly, however, I have to initiate things and set it up.
I am very aware that my expectations need to be in line with what he is capable of and I accept this.
So my questions are this:
1. Is it likely that he has any feelings for me in a romantic way? I know the easy answer is to ask him, but at this point, I would like some brotherly advise without actually having to do so?
2. If he thinks of me all the time, and said "he misses me already", why is it that I need to make all the arrangements for us to communicate?
3. Any advice for making my friend comfortable with the idea that we could be more?
thank you all so much.