Next Door Neighbor Went Ballistic On Me

[Gerontius]

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I just had a terrible situation that occurred that I’m extremely upset.
I have a next door neighbor at my apartment complex who invited me to have a couple drinks and chill as friends or so I assume. I do not drink that much at all maybe like twice a month but I decided to have one drink. When I was finished I held it in my hand and was about to set it in the trash but my hand was spamming due to having a both a flu and pneumonia shot earlier today from a medical appointment in which one of the symptoms was having chills and shaking. The can accidentally fell on to his patio and my neighbor went ballistic on me saying how disrespectful that was and if I ever tried to do that again that he was going to f&$k me up.
I tried telling him that I have symptoms from a couple shots I had from the doctor but he wouldn’t listen. Instead he goes on a long rant about how older people like him are treated sooo disrespectfully and because I have less real world experience than him that I do not know any better. Also mentioned I should stay in my lane and respect other peoples property.
Now after that talk I feel like I am such a bad guy.
I am now afraid to go outside of my house without my neighbor seeing me.
Am I in the wrong here??

There are a few things here.
One: He's either "all hat and no cattle" (talks a lot but won't actually do anything) in which case he will not be an actual threat to you. This is either Yes or NO.
If Yes: Keep a stern front and if he tries to bother you, ignore him.
If No and he is a threat, inform building management and/or appropriate law enforcement authorities.

I have had a few creepy things from people trying to attack me so I keep a gun in the house at this point. (Yes, legally here. I did not keep one when I was dealing with suicidal depressive tendencies but as those are virtually gone now, I have decided to arm myself just in case.)

 

[Progster]

Sometimes people have mental health problems. I know someone who I no longer talk to, who can be perfectly happy and all-smiling the one minute, and the next suddenly gets angry with little provocation. Her reactions are like those of that guy, sudden with no warning and completely over the top. I suspect she might have borderline personality disorder or something like that, or just severe anger management issues. Not an excuse for the behaviour but an explanation.

 

[Forest Cat]

I'm guessing he thought you threw it on the ground on purpose? Disposing of your trash. That would have been very rude. If not, I don't know why he became so angry, no one should go crazy because someone accidentally drops something. It makes more sense if he thought you threw it on purpose, he reacted too hard either way but it would make more sense why he became upset.

 

[Dillon]

I'm guessing he thought you threw it on the ground on purpose? Disposing of your trash. That would have been very rude. If not, I don't know why he became so angry, no one should go crazy because someone accidentally drops something. It makes more sense if he thought you threw it on purpose, he reacted too hard either way but it would make more sense why he became upset.

The whole thing is just silly heck I’m literally teaching elementary students the importance of not dumping your trash and the harm it can cause to the environment. If I did it on purpose then that tells him oh I’m a jerk and I don’t even care about his boundaries. He never cared that it was on accident nor did he care it was a medical reaction that made me drop the can. He only cared about “me,me,me” (himself) and comparing himself to me in terms of experience and how classism is a thing assuming I don’t treat older individuals with respect which that is so untrue. He doesn’t know me as well as I know myself and yeah I know to “stay in my own lane” like he mentioned to me.

 

[Forest Cat]

The whole thing is just silly heck I’m literally teaching elementary students the importance of not dumping your trash and the harm it can cause to the environment. If I did it on purpose then that tells him oh I’m a jerk and I don’t even care about his boundaries. He never cared that it was on accident nor did he care it was a medical reaction that made me drop the can. He only cared about “me,me,me” (himself) and comparing himself to me in terms of experience and how classism is a thing assuming I don’t treat older individuals with respect which that is so untrue. He doesn’t know me as well as I know myself and yeah I know to “stay in my own lane” like he mentioned to me.

So he invited you over to his house for drinks, you accidentally dropped a can on the ground and he then lost it and just raged? Did he have one too many drinks perhaps. I don't know what happened, if someone dropped their trash on the ground on purpose in my yard I would tell them to pick it up and not do it again, but I wouldn't lose my mind over it. I don't know what he was doing.

 

[Dillon]

So he invited you over to his house for drinks, you accidentally dropped a can on the ground and he then lost it and just raged? Did he have one too many drinks perhaps. I don't know what happened, if someone dropped their trash on the ground on purpose in my yard I would tell them to pick it up and not do it again, but I wouldn't lose my mind over it. I don't know what he was doing.

That’s the thing he never told me to pick it up. I would’ve been totally fine if he would’ve just said “hey you dropped the can on my patio can you please pick it up” but no instead he gets combative with me and makes a huge fuss over it and starts going over how people like him experience what is known as “classism” which I had never even heard of until now.

He didn’t have anything to drink at all but rather he was bitter. I accidentally dropped the can on his carpet because I had a medical reaction to a flu and a pneumonia shot which caused me to have chills and body aches and my hands were trembling but that didn’t occur until he invited me over.

 

[MNAus]

Just to check, you DID pick it up straight away, right?

 

[Dillon]

Just to check, you DID pick it up straight away, right?

Yes I did it was only on the ground for a brief second.

 

[Yeshuasdaughter]

He's just a mean drunk maybe.

Some people get like that.

 

[The Pandector]

I just had a terrible situation that occurred that I’m extremely upset.

I have a next door neighbor at my apartment complex who invited me to have a couple drinks and chill as friends or so I assume. I do not drink that much at all maybe like twice a month but I decided to have one drink. When I was finished I held it in my hand and was about to set it in the trash but my hand was spamming due to having a both a flu and pneumonia shot earlier today from a medical appointment in which one of the symptoms was having chills and shaking. The can accidentally fell on to his patio and my neighbor went ballistic on me saying how disrespectful that was and if I ever tried to do that again that he was going to mess me up.

I tried telling him that I have symptoms from a couple shots I had from the doctor but he wouldn’t listen. Instead he goes on a long rant about how older people like him are treated sooo disrespectfully and because I have less real world experience than him that I do not know any better. Also mentioned I should stay in my lane and respect other peoples property.

Now after that talk I feel like I am such a bad guy.
I am now afraid to go outside of my house without my neighbor seeing me.
Am I in the wrong here??

Yes. You are wrong to allow this fruit cocktail to inhibit your freedom. You tried, and now know not to hang with them. At this point, they might be feeling pretty silly, but this is a clear case for social distancing.

 

[The Pandector]

People can be strange I took A night school classes one got passed over for promotion so decided to take courses on leadership to understand why I could not get promotion even though my skill level would easily qualify me, after class I asked teacher what I thought was simple question, why so few women in class, she got very angry went into feminist ran on how they as a college tried everything under the sun to encourage female enrolment and how nothing worked in front of whole class. What do you say about something like this I touched a real nerve. All I had done was state the obvious.

Basically a hardware guy, took a programming course to learn newer techniques. Had a project at work and wondered about the value of a conversion scheme I was working on, asked teacher. He said it was moot, because impossible. I said possible, but maybe not profitable. He went whack and announced to the class that I would be teaching on Monday, demonstrating with full handouts and my chrome pointer. Monday, I had overheads, handouts, and my boss’s silver pointer. Halfway through my presentation, he went intercontinental, calling me foul names and ordering me from his class.

His second semester in that series was very poorly attended, and he gave me an incomplete for not taking the final. Short version, whacko was out a job and the college agreed to issue me an A, as work and skill warranted. Later heard several students had complained over the vile name calling.

I suppose we all have fond memories of school.