Update: this man told me that he just kept dating me every time because he "panicked" and needed safety. I finally found the help and strength to dump him for good and remove him everywhere. 3 years of lies, it was so hard to get myself to believe what he was telling me was true, that he just dated me to use me. But he didn't want to break up or lose me. But here I am, without the jerk in my life. I'm not a toy for cowards and pretenders. I'm free.