On disability

[Judge]

People on the spectrum? Maybe less than two percent according to the CDC.

Abusive spouses? Infinitely more, unfortunately.

 

[Arbust]

This was kind of a strange question since normal women don't accept that kind of treatment.

Are you aristocratic? Who the hell has 14 foot high ceilings?!

I'm not an aristocrat. during the 1990's many homes in the USA were built with a very high ceiling in the entry way and living room the stairs are visible. Not great because heat gets trapped.

 

[Arbust]

I'm surprised that you have to ask. It's obvious.

So, his therapist is reinforcing his ideas that all the poor behavior is ASD and that he just needs a high level of support because of this. I have seen very similar behavior with 2 other ASD adults I know. Absolutely no boundaries about expecting other people to endlessly help.

 

[Juliettaa]

So, his therapist is reinforcing his ideas that all the bad behavior is ASD and that he just needs a high level of support because of this. I have seen very similar behavior with 2 other ASD adults I know. Absolutely no boundaries about expecting other people to endlessly help.

I am autistic and I do not behave anything like your partner. Just because you know 3 adults who display these adverse behaviours does not mean it's indicative of all autistic people.

My relationship has, so far, lasted for over 30 years so I believe that to be testament to me not abusing my NT husband.

If you're that unhappy, divorce is the answer. You don't have to stay in an abusive relationship.

 

[Schism]

Sounds like a totally abusive, controlling narcissistic pig to me. Highly unusual for someone on the spectrum. To me, it doesn't fit at all. No-one should use autism for an excuse either for this ugly behaviour to you. The fact it's behind closed doors, while outwardly an all nice, friendly chap smacks of falsehood. Walk away.