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Party invite
- Thread starter thejuice
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"I'm going to have a prior commitment that day, but thanks." If the humor doesn't work, and it usually doesn't, I just say I am not a party person. People that know me know that's true.
I only do close family stuff like mother and sibling birthdays, Thanksgiving and Christmas.
I only do close family stuff like mother and sibling birthdays, Thanksgiving and Christmas.
Just say no. You don't need to give an explanation.
No excuses! Be honest if possible and explain, but don't lie about it. Because if you need to lie to them, what are you actually doing? Pandering to them in a different way to make up for not pandering to them by coming? It'll only at best cause them to continue inviting you rather than understanding your own nature as you're trying to understand theirs? Just maintains a negative status quo.
But I guess it depends on your relationship with them and the threads that bind the two of you (or don't).
But I guess it depends on your relationship with them and the threads that bind the two of you (or don't).
I don't mind going to parties, takes a while to start talking, wife needs it as she is NT. I'm a closet extravert. Others like my company when I do start chatting. My way of masking.
He's my brother's friend so I see him every so often. He can be a borderline bully, whens hes drunk. My parents and his parents used to be friends but they've fallen out. They're rude about my dad behind his back.
I just say, thank you for the invitation, but I really don't do well with parties.
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Generally, I agree with @Misty Avich, you don't owe an explanation.
However, if it's someone you generally like and you wish to not be rude, you could either be honest ("I appreciate the invite, but I just don't feel comfortable on parties. Maybe we can hang out another time, just the two of us") or use a white lie, such as you already have plans, are invited elsewhere, say you got sick shortly before (especially acceptable if it's a large party and you won't be missed extremely, otherwise it's not very kind to cancel with such short notice with a lie).
If it's someone you don't know well or don't care what they think, you can just say no. Or use the white lie and say you already have plans.
However, if it's someone you generally like and you wish to not be rude, you could either be honest ("I appreciate the invite, but I just don't feel comfortable on parties. Maybe we can hang out another time, just the two of us") or use a white lie, such as you already have plans, are invited elsewhere, say you got sick shortly before (especially acceptable if it's a large party and you won't be missed extremely, otherwise it's not very kind to cancel with such short notice with a lie).
If it's someone you don't know well or don't care what they think, you can just say no. Or use the white lie and say you already have plans.
I also agree with Misty and Boogs. Never make excuses for yourself. And be very careful with telling lies no matter how "white" you think they are, most people can see straight through them.
"Thanks for the invite, I really appreciate it, but I don't enjoy that sort of thing."
"Thanks for the invite, I really appreciate it, but I don't enjoy that sort of thing."
Hmmm, doesn't sound like you'd be terribly obliged to have to pretend then? (without being nasty)
If I care about the inviter, I may say something along the lines of "I love to see you, but I don't like crowds" or similar, which is true, but hopefully not taken the wrong way, and if I care about them it's usually because they wouldn't take it the wrong way! 
I went to a relative's birthday party when I was probably about 3 or 4. The only thing that I remember about it was being chased with a toy sword my an older cousin. I was terrified because I thought I was really in danger. 
A few years later the child who lived across the street had a birthday party that included some kind of little tram ride or something. I was probably around 7 or 8 at the time. I got on it and had loads of fun yelling "faster faster" but had to go home when it stopped because I was not a friend and apparently I was intruding on another child's birthday party or something like that.
When I was around 14 I was at the birthday party of a relative again.
Besides these 3 events, I don't recall ever going to a party or even being invited. I have been told about there being one year that my parents tried to have a birthday party for me but people wouldn't come. I was too young to even remember that.
A few years later the child who lived across the street had a birthday party that included some kind of little tram ride or something. I was probably around 7 or 8 at the time. I got on it and had loads of fun yelling "faster faster" but had to go home when it stopped because I was not a friend and apparently I was intruding on another child's birthday party or something like that.
When I was around 14 I was at the birthday party of a relative again.
Besides these 3 events, I don't recall ever going to a party or even being invited. I have been told about there being one year that my parents tried to have a birthday party for me but people wouldn't come. I was too young to even remember that.
If it's a relative party I definitely would not go. I been to those and they are the worst of course with my parents which is even more of a disaster.
But even with my so called friends I tried to socialize at few and far between parties and social events I randomly invited to I or ones I look for I attended I find but 90% of the time I end up sitting by myself with earbuds in a corner listening to my favorite songs saying "I'm bored" then usually leaving unoticed.
But even with my so called friends I tried to socialize at few and far between parties and social events I randomly invited to I or ones I look for I attended I find but 90% of the time I end up sitting by myself with earbuds in a corner listening to my favorite songs saying "I'm bored" then usually leaving unoticed.
Can I have your invitation? I have not been invited to a party since high school (50+ years ago), and even then, I was invited the Monday after the party happened. I probably won't enjoy it, but I WOULD like to know what it is like.
i already upset him by leaving a whatsapp group..
In that case why hold back? It sounds like you really don't want to go.
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