I'm trying not to make enemies in a new place. What I said is true, though.You really, really didn't want to say what?
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I'm trying not to make enemies in a new place. What I said is true, though.You really, really didn't want to say what?
Because it's not all or nothing. You may have some autistic traits, but not others. I also have some and I doubt that I have autism right now, because it doesn't reflect my interpersonal experience. I have trouble recognizing people, but I nwver had to learn facial expressions either.But how do we know what's instinct and what's learned? I've never sat down and read books about facial expressions, body language, etc. Of course I've made some mistakes and have learnt from them, but that's more my behaviour, not the behaviour of others.
But what did you say?I'm trying not to make enemies in a new place. What I said is true, though.
This is probably going to get me in so much trouble for being honest.You really, really didn't want to say what?
I don't see what is wrong with anything you said.This is probably going to get me in so much trouble for being honest.
Nursing skin-to-skin is not by pump, in skin-to-skin nursing the baby is observing the social expressions of the mother which becomes instinct over time. If that goes on for a year and a half, the baby has by instinct a vast library of social information obtained... as opposed to pump or formula. This social information is compounded by brothers and sisters interacting, by the time the child is seven and off to school, the vast library of social information gained by the child is immense. If you look up milk from nursing, the more recent science you'll find it literally changes chemistry at any moment during nursing, it is custom made for the child by the mother in skin-to-skin nursing, which means it actually grows to be more custom over time as the mother nurses the same child.
Honestly, though, some kids have more talent socially. This enables them to get over that methods that social instinct most naturally comes before seven years of age.
I'm saying it's related. Socially awkward is not socially paralyzed. There's such a gamut(range) to all of this stuff. If one happened naturally well, like the siblings, and the other did not, like the nursing, you probably don't end on the spectacular social instinct end. You probably end up feeling like there's something wrong, but you can still socialize with people easily some days depending on how things go, and so forth and such.I don't see what is wrong with anything you said.
So what you're saying is, my social awkwardness can be a result of being bottle fed as a baby? I wasn't an only child though, and I was close to my siblings and cousins. Very close.
That's actually pretty interesting. Thanks for your input.I'm saying it's related. Socially awkward is not socially paralyzed. There's such a gamut(range) to all of this stuff. If one happened naturally well, like the siblings, and the other did not, like the nursing, you probably don't end on the spectacular social instinct end. You probably end up feeling like there's something wrong, but you can still socialize with people easily some days depending on how things go, and so forth and such.
Still, natural talent plays a part in this as well. So does the environment you grew up in.
Yeah, samealways know when someone is bored or uninterested, my instinct tells me from their body language and reaction, but for some reason I sometimes impulsively choose to ignore it, which is more due to ADHD.
YeahI do see NTs ignoring things like that too, as quite often I've seen someone looking bored or disinterested but the other person is still rambling away, and I wonder if they've actually noticed and are just ignoring it.
Me too. But I don't remember faces in as much detail as most people do, although I remember other distinct details about people such as the way they move, their posture, way of being, gestures.I don't have face blindness, as I can remember exactly what people look like, I always have been able to.
how do I know my OCD tendencies aren't just a combination of all 3?
My OCD isn't the paranoid sort. It's more like overthinking and becoming troubled by perhaps a behaviour or reaction of somebody else and me obsessively analyzing and worrying and needing reassurance or closure before I can move on. I didn't know that was a form of OCD but when I spoke about it to my therapist he said it sounds like an OCD. But sometimes I just wonder if it's a combination of ASD symptoms and ADHD symptoms.
My disorganised, chaotic mind makes me a disorganised, chaotic person, and I don't have an urge to line things up neatly in the cupboard or the fridge (but my husband does). Even my art supplies are in a chaotic mess. It starts off as an organised mess but then turns into a disorganised mess, but if I put things away neatly then I have major trouble finding them again, because my mind is too chaotic to cope with neat and tidiness.
I remember one time I was given an old coin, like an antique sort of thing, and I made a point of putting it somewhere safe, in a little box in one of the drawers in the living-room. Time passed, and I had totally forgotten where I had put the coin, so I ransacked the apartment looking everywhere for it, and feeling like I was irresponsible for losing such a precious gift.
Then, when I was looking for something else, I found it just where I had safely left it - in the little box in the drawer in the living-room. The safest and most sensible place to keep it, but because it was a safe and sensual place, my chaotic mind was thinking of all the places it was less likely to be.
What do you mean by "paranoid sort"? Just wondering.My OCD isn't the paranoid sort.
https://www.treatmyocd.com/what-is-...s-paranoia-how-therapists-tell-the-differenceI just meant I don't have the common sort of OCD where I need to keep checking something like the door being locked.
I think any number of neurological conditions can be manifested in different ways. That there's no such notion of generic OCD any more than generic autism relative to traits, behaviors and symptoms.It was just a way of describing the most common sort of OCD, it's not paranoia exactly. My OCD seems to be less...stereotypical, if that's the right word.