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Sharing

I'm ok with sharing food or resources where I have plenty to go round, it's experiences and emotions that I don't share much. I'm quite a private person.

When I was a kid, I once entered a drawing competition without telling my parents. It didn't occur to me that I should mention it to my parents. I didn't think I had won anything and fogot about it until a couple of months later I received a parcel in the post - it was a runners up prize!

Then, when I got my O level/GCSE results (UK school exams), I had the envelope in my hands, but my parents were crowding over me to see what results I had, this was too much so I fled and locked myself in the bathroom. I wanted to open it on my own without my parents looking on, it was a private thing to me.

Money is a resource, one that, in this day and age, is necessary in order to survive and live comfortably. It is food and shelter all rolled into one. So yes, I want to gather and store it, if I'm not able to secure it, I feel insecure if I don't have a reliable supply. But I don't need to be super-rich to achieve financial security or loads of possessions, just have those things I need to live in reasonable comfort and have a bit put by for the future. What would be the point of accumulating more and more possessions? Don't have anyone to pass them on to. You are born with nothing, and with nothing you will return.
 
There is more to sharing than just things. I could never share physical things easily, but that was probably more about growing up poor in the city. But then there is intellectual sharing.

I noticed in my work that many NTs, especially at management level, rarely shared their expertise and experience, holding onto it like it was treasure that gave them an advantage and to share meant a loss to them. I thought by sharing my skills, knowledge, and experience, I could gain something better; influence. Also I thought that was the ethical thing to do. It makes me feel connected when some who I shared with have thanked me for teaching them their craft. That is good enough, especially coming from a NT. Making one small change at a time.
 

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