Social Downward Spiral

[Tarragon]

And I've also realized that at least 50% (maybe even more) of being a successful musician is being very nice, interesting and outgoing person. Not only on the stage (which I can do, it's kind of playing a role), but also in rehearsals, lunch breaks, house parties, etc - the places you should just be yourself and relax. And that's really demanding for people with AS.

Oh yes, I can relate to this. I don't do the social thing, which for a musician means I'm scuppered trying to work with other people. I don't do bands, and only gig solo. And I find that even though I'm mostly always a hit with my gigs as a performer, I find it really hard to get follow-on bookings because I can't do the sociable side with the organisers to get more work. They must sense there's something "different" about the way I act - usual aspie story.,,

 

[tlc]

Yes I play music too and have experienced the struggle of trying to fit in. They were always impressed with my playing (when I think I am just so-so), but they always expected me to drink and smoke with them. So I guess it's just part of the culture which I don't want. So even though I've been playing for 22 years, the last 15 I have settled for practice at home.

 

[Fox]

My adventures in the land of socialization have been more of a roller coaster ride than a downward spiral. I was terribly awkward and found it really hard to keep friends. When we moved to where I currently live I did exceptionally well in terms of socializing. I was pretty popular and well liked. Once we moved back to my hometown I realized I had no idea how to do the whole friends thing from scratch, especially since the people in my new school had a vast scape of different interests that were completely opposite mine.
Now in my early 20's I've hit the bottom of this rollercoaster. I have problems making small talk at my job as a grocery store cashier (which is a big deal considering I work in a small town where everyone knows each other), I'm easily over stimulated, and it feels like any friends I ever did have forgotten about me. I have 0 real friends. The only person I'm ever really comfortable being with and speaking to is my boyfriend who is also aspie.

 

[Stacey]

I scored 24% on a NT test.
Still not sure how I feel about it. I guess I was hoping it would be a higher percentage.

 

[Joel I]

I really feel anxious about the future. I imagine myself at 40 living alone in a forest and totally forgot how to talk to human beings…

I am loving this idea, where do I need to sign up!!!

I have gone though a similar thing but I have a partner who I can't do without. I hardly talk to many others I am scared by many so I don't trust too much. I move around quite a lot when I was a kid so friends where always temporary. I have always proffered the company of animals then humans & love being in rainforests.