Social Situation: Wrong or Right and if Wrong, PLEASE help me understand why.

[tazz]

But... as demonstrated, people are going to get the actual real world and the pretend joke world mixed up - so that's also something to take into account when you're thinking of telling a joke.

Even if there's nothing wrong with it - maybe people will misunderstand and think there is.

 

[Stubbrn]

The way you've described it doesn't imply an incestuous relationship at all. I really think (with respect to everyone here) that's just a misunderstanding.

If you were thinking to say "I'm his sister and this is our baby" then that would imply incest and I think that would quite rightly be in very bad taste - so don't do that! But pretending to be someone else who is not related and making a joke about this being his baby is not anywhere near implying anything incestuous.

Yeah I definitely agree and would never imply or think that. I think I didn't really think this was anything more than a funny story when I told it to them and obviously some people think it's more serious than that and maybe it is. The amount of times my lack of filter and just saying whatever I'm thinking has gotten me into trouble could fill a boat so I'm thinking this is another situation where it was better left unsaid and in my head and I just didn't truly think it through from every angle.

 

[Stubbrn]

But... as demonstrated, people are going to get the actual real world and the pretend joke world mixed up - so that's also something to take into account when you're thinking of telling a joke.

Even if there's nothing wrong with it - maybe people will misunderstand and think there is

But... as demonstrated, people are going to get the actual real world and the pretend joke world mixed up - so that's also something to take into account when you're thinking of telling a joke.

Even if there's nothing wrong with it - maybe people will misunderstand and think there is.

Yeah that makes sense and it's definitely something I need to account for in the future

 

[tazz]

The amount of times my lack of filter and just saying whatever I'm thinking has gotten me into trouble could fill a boat

ha - I think a lot of us have this problem also.

 

[Hypnalis]

@Stubbrn

Some of the replies are missing the point.

Perhaps it wasn't entirely polite, but you were called psychotic for a reason.

This isn't about whether the joke might have been ok in other contexts, or ok because it's your brother.
Nor is it about whether you went through with it, or went with "wouldn't it be funny if ..."
And as described it carried no weird undertones.

Women cannot make jokes about paternity, especially falsely attributing paternity, to men.
It can never be funny. No part or aspect of it can ever be funny.

M-to-M or F-to-F might work, but I'd (M) never do that with another guy. let alone to strangers about a common contact.

 

[AdamG]

@Stubbrn

Some of the replies are missing the point.

Perhaps it wasn't entirely polite, but you were called psychotic for a reason.

This isn't about whether the joke might have been ok in other contexts, or ok because it's your brother.
Nor is it about whether you went through with it, or went with "wouldn't it be funny if ..."
And as described it carried no weird undertones.

Women cannot make jokes about paternity, especially falsely attributing paternity, to men.
It can never be funny. No part or aspect of it can ever be funny.

M-to-M or F-to-F might work, but I'd (M) never do that with another guy. let alone to strangers about a common contact.

Normally I would agree, but this was her brother. Plus it very much matters, I think, that it was a story, not actual practical joke.

 

[Stuttermabolur]

To build on what @AdamG said, in-jokes and types of humors can be very strange and unfunny to outsiders. For instance, in my mother's side of the family people have very black humor often involving other members of the family. We think it's funny, but I'm sure it wouldn't to most other families or complete strangers. My mother once made a suicide joke regarding her sister while the two of them, me, and their father were all in the car, and we laughed about it. Sometimes when she jokes the same way with strangers however, they don't share her sense of humor which can make things awkward.

 

[RemyZee]

Ok thank you

I have a similar issue: I love to joke around and give belly laughs, but always am getting it wrong and at times people tell me it's hurtful. When I'm trying to be funny I usually work it out beforehand, which I think can make jokes a little strange or contrived. Thanks for the post