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Super Emotional?

You're only thirteen years old. It's normal.

Ignore the people on here talking about weird mental health diagnoses. They don't know about teen and child development. Or they assume you're a boomer or something. I am a mom, and I have also worked as a scout troop leader, a teacher's assistant, and a nanny. I've known dozens of kids your age. I assure you that you sound like a totally normal, healthy kid.

Online people can be kind of sus sometimes.

Maybe find a hobby offline. Do you like the idea of larping or writing fan fiction? Maybe find a club at a community center or at school to join.

I think you'd have fun if you auditioned for a play. My daughter loves the performing arts. Archery is a fun one too.

Get into art and writing. Science and history books are absolutely fascinating.

One way to burn off yucky emotions is with exercise. I used to like taking my bicycle on dirt roads, and learning to jump potholes and little rocks. I got a few "road pizzas" (cut up my knees), but it was so worth it. I had so much fun.
 
Prometheus said:
I dont really get that super emotional. Most of time I can be just calm, and be relaxed. Doing my own thing. But yeah, sometimes, maybe when Like i reach out to say hello, to somebody, i might have known at one point, who I admired and respected, and they treat you with scorn, that can hurt, Like if you pass somebody by in the street, and they dont even look at you. It's like okay, I was just passing by, But some people just make it up in their minds, that they don't like you in any way anymore. And sometimes, there is no rebuilding bridges with some people, despite how much you want to make some kind of amends. It becomes impossible. And you know i can take that hrd sometimes. And I'm not even talking romance, I'm talking platonic friendships. I dont like to destroy friendships. Cause i like to make a favorable impression, and so when i like somebody, I hate to see it go south. It's hard to accept, so I can get "super emotional" . Now if its a complete unknown, a stranger, and I get into a argument with, or some kind of drama, and they hate me, thats different. A big difference. There are no emotions involved there. That's like, night and day. Then I can be quite unemotional and detached.
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Bro, literally same. I'm very relaxed a lot of the time and ocassionally show my true emotions, usually at the end of the week or even during a phone call with anyone. I also make jokes and say awkward things that make people laugh, sometimes awkward things are a very good type of comedy!

I totally agree with friendships, I used to take that personally too and sometimes I still think, "they're ignoring me because they think I'm weird." But I've had enough of that!

Aww man, strangers must be pretty strange. I hope you find ways to make socialising more easy for you. If people don't look at you back when you're out, maybe they just need personal space like we all do sometimes. People are often quite stoic when they're in public, but I like to make observational jokes <3
 
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It's important to remember that part of this will also be because of your age, you have hormones running rampant through your body at the moment and it's very easy to get over emotional about things. This will start to settle down a bit as you get older.
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Same for me *blushes embarrassingly*
 
It doesn't happen on just downvotes, everything bad, like green tinted windows that are an arch trend here or marble floors. It can't be that Histrionic Personality Disorder
 
Yeshuasdaughter said:
You're only thirteen years old. It's normal.

Ignore the people on here talking about weird mental health diagnoses. They don't know about teen and child development. Or they assume you're a boomer or something. I am a mom, and I have also worked as a scout troop leader, a teacher's assistant, and a nanny. I've known dozens of kids your age. I assure you that you sound like a totally normal, healthy kid.
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No, I am not healthy, I have been told again and again about what I do, I don't talk and others find it weird, I am a bit analytical and many other things, this falls into autism,, I see again and again.
 
Oh dude, don't go reading all that crap by neurotypicals that have never had to live it.

I think you're a pretty switched on kid, far more mature than I was at your age. Life is pretty bloody rough at your age even for NTs, or at least it was in my day. We were all trying to figure out who we were.

Talk to people here and let them advise you, but remember that we are all only people too and never take our words as gospel. You need to find your own path, but lots of people want to help you along that path, most of us are benign.
 
Sensory (tinted windows & marble floors) and social issues (talking) can leave us pretty fried, so it can be harder to have moderate emotions. It makes sense you feel this way and it’s okay that some people won’t understand. Others will. Sensory issues can be intense.

Do you know about autistic meltdowns?
 
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I think you're a pretty switched on kid, far more mature than I was at your age. Life is pretty bloody rough at your age even for NTs, or at least it was in my day. We were all trying to figure out who we were.
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Yeah, everyone around my age feels dumb.
 
No I have a meltdown from orange sunlight, which I have been trying to improve and it works slightly
 
Oh. Got it.

I have a hard time with bright sunlight in my eyes. My brain goes all fuzzy and my heart starts racing. Then, sometimes I have nightmares.

That’s good you noticed small improvements.
 
Rodafina said:
Oh. Got it.

I have a hard time with bright sunlight in my eyes. My brain goes all fuzzy and my heart starts racing. Then, sometimes I have nightmares.

That’s good you noticed small improvements.
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No not like that my brain goes fuzzy and heart races, I just go into a bad mood.
 
Also, it sounds like there’s a bunch of challenges tied to memories for you. Is that true?
 
It's a very common, almost universal, existential angst that we go thorough at about your age. Some of us later than others.

Who am I ? Who do I want to be? If I want to be this sort of person how can I make that work and how will other people respond to me.

At least those are thoughts of mine from back then, you might be completely different.

The trick that most people never work out is that you get to decide who you want to be. And if you want later on you can change your mind and be someone else. Personal identity is exactly that - personal.

My advice is to be the best you that you can be and anyone that disagrees can just go to buggery.
 
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