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Therapy and what you got out of it

I didn't mean that in a way that I'd refuse to get a job. Being not constructive as in low expectancy to land a job.

But is that expectancy predicated on your own opinion of yourself or the ebbing and flowing of economic conditions? One a therapist might address....the other not so much...
 
But is that expectancy predicated on your own opinion of yourself or the ebbing and flowing of economic conditions? One a therapist might address....the other not so much...

That expectancy is predicated by the folks over at the disability income services, therapists and the economy (though that might be partially also my own expectation based on current world events). If there's someone with a positive attitude towards it all it's me. Otherwise I'd be spiraled into a deep, deep depression (or worse) long ago.

Before I turn this topic into a big pity party about myself, which wasn't my intention (since I rather just wanted to hear experiences of others and started off with a short notion why I was interested and someone picked up on my personal story. Nothing wrong with that, just, it's becoming my thread rather than a generic thread about this), I'll leave the thing below, in relation to employment. I might blog about it at some point as well.

The final thing I'll add here; Currently I have documented that I'm not fit for the regular jobmarket and am on a waiting list for a disability workplace program that is funded by the government. A social worker as well as a therapist both have concluded that the list of "demands" is so contradictory they doubt any employer can offer me something like that (even with the financial incentive the government grants). I will see what they have in store though, I'm not the extreme cynic about it.
 
That expectancy is predicated by the folks over at the disability income services, therapists and the economy (though that might be partially also my own expectation based on current world events). If there's someone with a positive attitude towards it all it's me. Otherwise I'd be spiraled into a deep, deep depression (or worse) long ago.

Before I turn this topic into a big pity party about myself, which wasn't my intention (since I rather just wanted to hear experiences of others and started off with a short notion why I was interested and someone picked up on my personal story. Nothing wrong with that, just, it's becoming my thread rather than a generic thread about this), I'll leave the thing below, in relation to employment. I might blog about it at some point as well.

The final thing I'll add here; Currently I have documented that I'm not fit for the regular jobmarket and am on a waiting list for a disability workplace program that is funded by the government. A social worker as well as a therapist both have concluded that the list of "demands" is so contradictory they doubt any employer can offer me something like that (even with the financial incentive the government grants). I will see what they have in store though, I'm not the extreme cynic about it.

In other words, what you are really describing is that you perceive yourself as "being between a rock and a hard place" not actually relative to health issues. Not too far removed from my own situation. I'm there. I get that.

Except in my own case I have no benefits and must rely entirely on my own resources to stay alive in what financially may amount to be living in a "decaying orbit", short of the economy making a real recovery. Basically something that no one in the mental health field can help me with.
 
My experience with therapy has been a positive one in the end. At first, I shrank from the idea of seeing a psychiatrist to get diagnosed, but when I was recommended to go to a mood management group at the Royal Inland Hospital, I had no choice. Either I had to get my life rolling or it would be a complete mess. After failing Pharmacy Tech school, I had to go seek professional help after the course coordinators told me that the way things were going for me, there would be no hope for my successful completion.

My first therapy session was uncomfortable, nerve-racking and awkward. However, our class therapist was a super-talented woman who cheered up the place, like someone who could lift a thick fog with a simple look at us. Never have I seen such a wonderfully warm and bubbly personality in my life. I think she was a godsend!

So, week after week, I felt more comfortable with the ten or so others in my group. We shared our "emotional weather reports" at the beginning of each session. Frequently I gave vivid descriptions of my weather like, "I see a black cloud and lightning on the horizon, and heavy rain and wind to come" at the anticipation of psychological testing and having to swallow the negative results. The testing was hell, but the psychologist gave me some hope. "You definitely are not stupid," he told me. He suggested to go on persons with disabilities benefits, and so I applied. Therapy became enjoyable after a while, and I made good friends with one woman who had severe anxiety attacks and I reached out to give her some comfort. From then on we become close friends and I phone her once a month. I have never had a negative experience with her ever - every phone call was most enjoyable and I expect my future contacts with her to be a pleasure as well. Though she is married her husband is very understanding and I have had phone conversations with him too. They just came back from Mexico last week or so, so it is good that she is enjoying her life too.
 
I often talk to myself. I'm the best listener I know, always deeply interested in my own problems and ever attentive to the turns and twists my mind takes.
 
I often talk to myself. I'm the best listener I know, always deeply interested in my own problems and ever attentive to the turns and twists my mind takes.

If you can "work the problem", more power to you. ;)
 
So, time is closing in on me and it's almost my turn to visit a psychologist/therapist/psychiatrist and whatever experts we have in that field nowadays to look at my "issues" and eventually get a bit of support there. I'm reluctant to get therapy over the fact that I can't be bothered to end up with large bills that don't do anything at all. If I were to get some kind of therapy program it would have to be super beneficial for myself... and I don't see that happening. It's not that I don't acknowledge personal issues, but I don't see them as a bad thing, just as someones personality traits don't need fixing. From a more "arrogant" perspective; I don't need fixing, people just need to learn to deal with me. As well as "this machine is inherently broken, you want me to function in the same lacking manner". So anyway;

This raises the follow question with me, and it might be directed more towards adult aspies rather than parents and aspies of whom parents still have a say in how they function.

Did you need/get any therapy, and if so, what did you actually get out of it?

I'm still convinced that I'm not inherently broken and need fixing nor adjusting and my issues are (for a big part) a sign of the times. I mean, with the increasing numbers of people having some kind of "mental illness" and seeking treatment and/or medication one can wonder how much of an individual problem it is that needs fixing.

So, anyone have any experiences to share?


Might be an Aspie trait, but I don't want to be bothered with therapy. Actually I hate it very much, always think there are more important and better things for me to accomplish, feels like the math lessons I never wanted. Everything inside of me stems against therapy, it makes me very very mad.
 

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