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Things that sabotaged me in terms of romance and more

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Steelbookcollector217 said:
about which crap? about you saying you are glad that God made you a man, human male?
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No about women. I was just at an apartment with a women with all make friends. She treated me like crap always on her phone even though we were supposed to do a meetup study. It ended up being an COD game hang with her guy roommate and other guys even though they were not registered. What I am saying is she had no problem making guy friends.

Also many of those chill type of guys who pretend to be introvert kick me out of shy groups when I actually communicate with a shy girl then they get her. Then I end up friends with old fat single guys and granny's.
 
tree said:
I believe people have been assuring you of that for several years,
on this forum. The point is to keep at the process. And, to stop
dwelling in the realm of non-rational evaluations of events.
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Are you saying the fears I have about running out of time/not being able to catch up are non-rational?
 
Markness said:
Are you saying the fears I have about running out of time/not being able to catch up are non-rational?
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Putting yourself out there is a waste of time a you and I experience with the competition from certain alpha chill Gen z type men that always win. Unless you want to hang out with grannies.
 
Markness said:
Are you saying the fears I have about running out of time/not being able to catch up are non-rational?
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I am saying that many times your interpretations of events are examples of
non-rational thinking.

1. I must have love or approval from all the significant people in my life.

2. I absolutely must be thoroughly competent, adequate, and achieving or the idea that I must be competent or talented in some important area.

3. Other people absolutely must not act obnoxiously and unfairly, and when they do, I should blame and damn them, and see them as bad, wicked, or rotten individuals.

4. I have to see things as being awful, terrible, and catastrophic when I am seriously frustrated or treated unfairly.

5. I must be miserable when I have pressures and difficult experiences; and I have little ability to control, and cannot change, my disturbed feelings.

6. If something is deemed dangerous or fearsome, I must obsess about it and frantically try to escape from it before it happens.

7. I can easily avoid facing challenges and responsibilities and still lead a highly fulfilling existence.

8. My past remains all-important and because something once strongly influenced my life, it has to keep determining my feelings and behavior today.

9. People and things absolutely must be better than they are and it is awful and horrible if I cannot change life’s grim facts to suit me.

10. I can achieve maximum happiness by inertia and inaction or by passively enjoying myself
 
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