Things you are not good at?

[Aeolienne]

Sleeping when it's hot at night, like it is in the UK at the moment (and apparently it's going to get hotter this week )

Try wearing a wet t-shirt - the evaporation will cool you down.

I can cook a meal (so no PIP for me) but the one aspect of cooking I've never been able to do is deep-frying. Being able to judge the correct depth of fat and the temperature I find impossible. It's no great loss however, from both a nutritional and a fire safety perspective. Also I've never attempted fancy sugarcraft or used a forcing tube. Frankly any recipe that contains the words "pipe rosettes" makes me want to lie down in a darkened room!

 

[ezcare]

I can't make up a story for the life of me.

Me too. I can and have created short stories and novella in print but was never able to just tell a story off the top of my head. I tend to get into too many details or to stick too close to reality when fantasy is required.

 

[ezcare]

1. Can’t remember names unless I am involved with a person in a personal way. Can remember a few names at church sporadically.
2. Forget faces out of context unless they have made an impression or I know them well.
3. Cant remember certain multiplication tables, some 9’s, 8’s,7’s. Either add combinations to remember or count domino dots in my head.
4. Can’t do math. Can learn slowly and get through remedial class, then forget. On a good day head figuring shortcuts will show up (late in life).
5. Can’t remember phone numbers.
6. Get disorented driving even places I know fairly well. Usually double back and redo right after a turn. Can’t remember if it is right or left.
7. Can’t find address again unless I’ve been there a lot.
8. Trouble following verbal instructions.
9. Interrupt people and control conversation sometimes. Don’t know when to speak. I am learning to slow down and let others direct the conversation.
10. I don’t think like a female.
11. Low energy. But second wind at 10pm.
12. Miss social cues.
13. Some days i’m sluggish and slow minded, other days sharp as a tack, usually sharp if tons of coffee.

Same here, especially # 2,5,6,8,12. Have you noticed any improvements in these areas over the years? If so, did this just happen with age or did you work at it?

 

[ezcare]

It’s questions such as “what is the characters point of view” “how does the person feel in the middle of the story” and even “what was the message of the story” that I have trouble understanding. it’s like I have trouble deciphering those kind of parts of some stories even the descriptive questions that are more troubling at times for me.

I have had Literature teachers who could find these details in whatever story they were teaching. I suspect most of it was based on the NT's ability to speculate without the benefit of facts. Since I was usually the only one in class who failed to see the evidence that supported the teacher's contention, I always kept my skepticism to myself and parroted back the teacher's view on tests and term papers. Now in my senior years, I realize how wide the chasm is between the Autistic brain and the NT one. It has always been a Mr Spock vs Captain Kirk scenario.

 

[ezcare]

Microsoft Boss Bill Gates is allegedly an Aspie, partly hence my own staunch allegiance to the MS brand.

I never thought of it that way but I always found MS applications easier to understand than those of IBM and Sun Microsystems. I have hands-on experience with all of them but MS was easiest to master even though it was not the most dependable.

 

[I love roses]

Same here, especially # 2,5,6,8,12. Have you noticed any improvements in these areas over the years? If so, did this just happen with age or did you work at it?

Same here, especially # 2,5,6,8,12. Have you noticed any improvements in these areas over the years? If so, did this just happen with age or did you work at it?

 

[I love roses]

Same here, especially # 2,5,6,8,12. Have you noticed any improvements in these areas over the years? If so, did this just happen with age or did you work at it?

I still am terrible at it. My real problems with names started when I was thrown into a call center of 300 people. Most of the people learned everyone’s names. I never could retain but a few that I related to the most. It became a type of social anxiety from then on, 5 years later this lady said, You don’t know everyone’s name yet? but she worked in the office concerning attendance so she probably read every ones name. It is worse since getting thyroid disease and fibromyalgia. I didn’t seem to have it in school. I guess because in the beginning of school, teacher would call out names when handing back papers, plus the year book. So I knew everyone’s name. But if I join a new church or something everyone introduces themselves. You are the new person so they all remember my name. But two years later I still won’t know all their names even in a small church. It was so embarrassing. So i started reading the names when email was sent to the congregation. Reciting the names off a list helps. It is best to review names right before church.Then when in public meeting people i have started making notes about people on my phone in notes, what they look like, age, occupation, interests, where I see them or met and what we talked about. It is easier to learn about them by interaction and get used to seeing their face and features, them add the name later. But if I don’t review their names sometimes, I still might forget them. I think anxiety, inferiority complex is causing it. I’m terrified when meeting people. But today my sewing teacher swears i’m not aspergers. She says i’m too social. Well, I am talkative, but that does not mean I have friends or that I’m a success with people. When I was growing up I was in the same community for years and it was easy to learn names by context where they lived. The bus dropped us all off. But now society is different. I only see people in public and it is hard to associate them with anything concrete. It is worse with age. It is like name amnesia. I just try to be friendlier and smile more. Is there such thing as a talkative social aspie but with severe anxiety and no affinity for names and faces. God forbid if I meet Amish all dressed alike and most are all related with families of same last names. Sorry so long a post. But this is a hard ongoing problem for me.

Another problem is invading personal space. I get too close to people while talking and I notice they start backing up backwards. So I googled you tube and found out you’re supposed to stand three feet from people you talk to unless you know them well and are in deep conversation. It is considered getting intimate. Oh my! But getting close helps my darn concentration!

The math is slightly better. It seems I am making a few neuro connections there. Sometimes a new concept will pop into into my head and I’ll wonder why such an obvious thing was not obvious before. Such as 20% tip. Figure 10% and double it. 15% is 10% plus half of 10%. So with everyday use, concepts and learning gets better.

 

[Aeolienne]

I find that I usually take longer to follow recipes than the estimated times. So I probably wouldn't be any good at Masterchef.

 

[ezcare]

I’m terrified when meeting people. But today my sewing teacher swears i’m not aspergers. She says i’m too social. Well, I am talkative, but that does not mean I have friends or that I’m a success with people. When I was growing up I was in the same community for years and it was easy to learn names by context where they lived. The bus dropped us all off. But now society is different. I only see people in public and it is hard to associate them with anything concrete. It is worse with age. It is like name amnesia. I just try to be friendlier and smile more. Is there such thing as a talkative social aspie but with severe anxiety and no affinity for names and faces.

Thanks for sharing this. Through the years I have learned how to be social without knowing a person's name. The secret is to listen to them. Most people are starving for personal attention. This has even gotten worse with the dawn of social media. Seems like everyone wants to show off their wares and are not interested in what the other person has to offer. When I was 20-something I read a book about kindness. One line I have remembered through the years is "write your name with kindness and love on the hearts of everyone you meet and you will never be forgotten." I do not believe Aspies are cold and indifferent like many NT's believe. Rather it is that we tend to reserve "judgement" of others and to look for their better self even when they may be unkind to us. BTW- my wife says the same thin as your sewing teacher. I am too social to be an Aspie. So I let her believe this in case she has issues with being married to an Aspie. If she thinks I am too social to be an Aspie who am I to contradict her;-))

 

[I love roses]

I find that I usually take longer to follow recipes than the estimated times. So I probably wouldn't be any good at Masterchef.

It is easier to screen shot recipes. save them to a file. After you prepare your favorite ones a few times you can do them with ease and even find shortcuts or tweaks you like.

 

[Aeolienne]

I was rubbish at school sports. I especially loathed rounders - which, incidentally, I would not call the English equivalent of baseball. It isn't the equivalent of anything - it's just a stupid game with incomprehensible rules IMVHO. Seriously, as it has no professional league and isn't shown on TV (no great loss there) it doesn't really pass comparison with baseball.

Incidentally, there is a baseball league in the UK - albeit not a professional one.
Why isn't baseball more popular in the UK? (from 2013)

 

[BoltzmannBrain17]

I'm bad at:

• Any sort of endurance exercise. In P.E. I usually score as well as the morbidly obese kids on the running part of the PACER test.
• Reacting to things quickly and making quick decisions. I have a pretty slow reaction time and a pretty low processing speed. I think I scored around 80 on the PSI of the WISC-V.
• Sustaining effort consistently. I have trouble staying with any sort of routine for more than a few weeks.
• Losing... I'm a really really really sore loser. Not so much when my team loses, but when I lose and get beaten.I remember one time a few years ago I flipped off and cussed at an annoying crowd after a baseball game that I had pitched poorly in. I also called the other teams coach a "f***face" when we had to shake hands with the other team. Another time after a dodgeball game I punched this one guy in the face after the game because he had been talking trash relentlessly and hitting me with the ball after I was already out. I'm just extremely competitive and prone to explosive anger.
• Video games. I love playing video games but I'm not very good compared to most people. Most people get better than me after a week of playing even if I've been playing for over a year.
• Doing work I don't see the purpose of. Each school year I usually finish with 100+ missing assignments and I only pass due to test scores.

Other than those things I'm not bad at much else. But I'm not good at anything either. It sucks not having any real strengths but I can't really change my genetics so worrying about it doesn't really do me any good.

 

[Soleil]

I'm bad at making decisions where there's no clear better choice. Bad at conversations and socializing in general. Bad at remembering people's names and recognizing faces. I'm bad at finding symbolism or deeper meanings in works; I tend to see movies and books just at face value. I'm bad at getting things started. I can see details, but I'm bad at imagining them (for example, I can only draw very plain clothing). I find it extremely difficult to manipulate 3d objects in my head and imagine what they look like from another angle.

 

[Gracey]

Not good at:

Being told 'I can't'. full stop.
- tend to believe 'if there's a will, there's a way'

telephone calls,
I've made a conscious effort to practise and try to improve but I still struggle to quickly process what's been said and give an appropriate, timely response.
- I rely on email, texts or face to face information.


A more recent discovery is not always understanding partly muffled speech through a face mask.

Not always remembering to wear the correct facial expression to match the script.

 

[aspieoutlaw89]

I know what i'm not good at:being found a girlfriend because of how unattractive i appear to them,as well as severely awkward,upon eye contact.

 

[Trophonius]

1. Life itself.

 

[RESleight]

Many things. Of those, job interviews are probably the absolute worst and always have been.

"Soooo, tell me about yourself".

(5 minutes later....)
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[Crossbreed]

I know what i'm not good at:being found a girlfriend because of how unattractive i appear to them,as well as severely awkward,upon eye contact.

(There are weird girls [with no sense of aesthetics ] out there...)

 

[Gift2humanity]

I'm no good at

• Sport. (especially team games)
• Physical contact.
• Gross motor skills.
• Verbal communication in real-time.
• Written communication in real-time.
• Thinking on my feet.
• Thinking of the right thing to say.
• Using my common sense.
• Seeing the big picture with all of it's components.
• Recognising faces of people I know, especially if I see them somewhere I don't expect to (nearly missed my own Dad in a shopping centre).
• Spotting when someone is trying to pull a fast one or exploit me.

 

[Aeolienne]

Although I've attended more than one course in basic first aid I can't remember how to do the recovery position. Yet I have no trouble remembering how to wire a three-pin plug, despite probably having had fewer hours of instruction in that.