Thinking About Living As Hermit

[The Penguin]

I'm progressing well with my goals. I'm continuing paying off bills while putting $100 into savings each month. In a few months, a bank might approve a loan that 3% lower than a competitor bank which will help me pay off my debts faster.

In a few months I will do my first camping trip. Looking forward to it as a way to get away from many people.

The way I'm progressing with my job, it looks very likely I will get a higher bonus next year with a higher salary.

The way I'm progressing, I feel confident I will be able to leave Nova Scotia before the end of this decade. From there is finding a location suited for me to live as a happy hermit.

 

[Jennacide]

Ive been a hermit for 6 months now... I love it, but im a bit of a walking contradiction, im a loner that doesnt want to be alone... as in i want that one special someone to hermit with me, except for when i get the craving to go nature walking, camping, fishing and beaching lol

 

[Alaska]

It is fun seeing other people who dream of being hermits. I have had this dream a lot of my life.

I would still like it. I have done a lot of research on things that would make this sort of lifestyle more possible. I guess this site is a good place to share such information. It seems my next subject is ready for blogging.

 

[The Penguin]

I think about conversations I witness around both online and offline. It seems no matter what going on in both worlds, I still feel I can't connect with most. I understand it could take lots of time and energy to connect with someone. However, it is not the time I'm willing to invest right now. Instead, I rather invest first making the highest income I can and maybe connected with someone later. Reason being, I rather have enough to support myself and have very little need to depend on people compare to finding someone can help me but might be too dependent on people. I learn being dependent on people cause conflict in life and broken relationships that will never be repaired. Also, I have debts I need to pay off which is why money is more important to me.

I'm starting to understand many of these people have different values than me which relate to the conflict. That said, I'm can't see much value connecting with people. Well I'm kind of lying to myself as there a few people I connect with that I still speak to.

Outside those few people, it seems no one else I can connect with. I find the only solution works for me is tune out as much people as possible as I don't like witnessing many people having things I don't have. Local friends, good relationships with family, dating, etc. Sometimes a person say hello to me and I'm thinking what the hell the person want? My attitude now is having lack of interest interacting with people due to events happen to my life. I will happy once I have the money I need saved with the higher salary to get the hell away from people and live in peace with nature.

 

[hiraeth]

Thank you for sharing. I really appreciate examples of people who live successful solitary lives in general, on the grid or off, with "socialising" in a casual sense or not.

I used to think a lot about this, how am I going to live the rest of my life being the way I am, I need to figure out a way that actively works for me and makes me feel empowered so I don't slip into the "I am alone and therefore a loser because I have failed to integrate socially in the way that normal people do" trap that some people do. Rather than - I live this way because it's what works best for me, and what allows me to thrive - which is the truth. But I don't worry about it - or I guess any other long term planning things - very much anymore. It will be figured out. By doing what feels right in the present, I am also taking care of the future. I think that the whole focus on "what I want" and by corollary "why I want it" is all rather exhausting and it's easier to focus on - "what works for me" in my most natural state of being. That may or may not equal what I "want" at a given point in time. And it doesn't really have a "why", it just is.

Being dependent on people is just weird. I don't think I'm averse to it because of negative experiences as much as it just feels weird and unnatural. People can be dependable, for specific things / circumstances, but "being dependent on" is totally different. It feels unfair to the other person, first and foremost, because they too are only human and have to take care of themselves first. I agree that financial independence is a foundation for other kinds of independence; that's what I have experienced in my life as well.

 

[The Penguin]

It feels unfair to the other person, first and foremost, because they too are only human and have to take care of themselves first.

I don't expect to be dependent on people to do many things for me. Though I thought parents suppose to help their children. There was a period of my life I had no income and stayed with my father for a bit. I did manage to get a job within a few months. However, living with him resulted to a lot of conflict and he did a lot of bad things to me. The biggest thing pissed me off is him talking about giving up his independence yet he gave up on me at age 15 and placed me in a foster home. Anyhow, since he caused enough pain in my life, I decided to cut him out. It was very hard at the start as I was on welfare. However, I was able to get off welfare in a few month.

Since I have a stable income, is me working on keeping a job, and making it easier to get jobs in the future by building my connections.

 

[The Penguin]

Doing some thinking today after doing my daily walk to get in shape for hiking, I realized living as a hermit, it is important to in shape to reduce the odds having health issues while being in isolation. So this will be one of the things on my list living as a hermit to stay in shape.