This made me laugh, but is true.

[Jimbo]

When I was a kid we lived in a neighborhood with lots of other kids, but after playing outside a little while I was ready to get back into my bedroom and play by myself with my Star wars action figures.

 

[skate1995]

lol

 

[clg114]

Also,for me, I don't drink anymore. Not a drop for at least 10 years.
I've learnt that in my case, aspergers and alcohol don't mix!!

I agree, I didn't quit but I average about six beers a year now, one at a time. In the old days, alcohol was how I fit in. I was pretty good at socializing when I was drinking. However this is hard on your health and I did a lot of really stupid things while drinking. This is just one of many things that my wife saved me from.

 

[Ste11aeres]

Then my therapist asks me weekly: "So, what did you do this weekend?!?" expecting an answer I suppose that I went out shopping, to dinner, on a date or some such thing. I always answer: "I did nothing. I read some. I played some video games a bit. I wrote some code a little. I slept a lot." She just looks at me not knowing what to say next. She of course is an NT and I'm sure her weekend was full of wondrous adventures!

I don't think all NTs have exciting weekends. I've asked plenty what they did or were going to do, and many of them said they just stayed home and rested (i.e. did what you did).

 

[Datura]

Then my therapist asks me weekly: "So, what did you do this weekend?!?" expecting an answer I suppose that I went out shopping, to dinner, on a date or some such thing. I always answer: "I did nothing. I read some. I played some video games a bit. I wrote some code a little. I slept a lot." She just looks at me not knowing what to say next. She of course is an NT and I'm sure her weekend was full of wondrous adventures!

That actually sounds like a pretty productive weekend. Why should ones weekend activities be social? I would just delete that first sentence. "My weekend was great! I read, played some games, wrote some code, and caught up on my sleep."

 

[Kaylee]

love this comic, love this comic creator, she has long been one of my favorite web comic creators although she has not been doing comics lately which seems to be her instead making her books

 

[Karma]

I'm more prone to go out in the winter

oh that's me , no need to shave the legs ,wear the bra and perfectly acceptable to ware a beanie to cover the messy hair, not like I do those things to often in the summer anyway

 

[Larisa]

Oh, I'm so grateful you've picked out this theme!

I remember when I was being tested for aspergers and one of the questions was " would you rather go to a party or go to a museum ?"

I live in 'the city of museums' and I'm ashamed to confess that I feel overwhelmed by museums. After being dragged into them as a kid, I really feel scared to go there. There are too noisy crowds of people and a lot of guides speaking at once.
There are interesting sculptures and exhibitions but they are too crowded as well: there are too many of them in each hall so I can't focus and feel disoriented and dizzy.
I'm so angry at myself sometimes that I have such a great opportunities but I'm just not able to use them.

I would often make alot of trips to the bathroom/toilets at parties/social events as it was the only place that there weren't alot of people and it would be quieter.

Yes, that's my "safe heaven" in public places - ironically.
When I was invited to anniversary of my best friend's mother, I had to leave party every so often to get air to breathe by walking around the place in silence before returning to party and posing like I'm fine. Thankfully the family have been knowing me for more then 20 years so they'd gotten used to my weirdnesses.

On reading all the responses to the silly/funny/sad/pathetic pic I posted, as someone who has suffered with this wretched aspergers all of my life, I really feel we all need to recognise our differences from nts. We are not failures, as I've believed I am all my life, we are just different. We can't expect nt people to ever really understand us, let's face it, we struggle enough to understand ourselves. Life can be incredibly hard for us but we have to accept ourselves and not allow ourselves to be pressured into doing anything that might put us in a potentially difficult situation.
We have to say NO, and people will have to accept it.

I totally agree with what you said, Baz. I went a long road in life with humbly expressing my profound "sorry" for being a failure to everyone who noticed and poked me at my differences. It's only for that price of my dignity and self-respect what I was not shunned too much and was mostly 'tolerated' by others to be able to exist and learn near 'normal' people..

 

[Spiller]

Then my therapist asks me weekly: "So, what did you do this weekend?!?" expecting an answer I suppose that I went out shopping, to dinner, on a date or some such thing. I always answer: "I did nothing. I read some. I played some video games a bit. I wrote some code a little. I slept a lot." She just looks at me not knowing what to say next. She of course is an NT and I'm sure her weekend was full of wondrous adventures!

I think the depressing thing, at least for me, is knowing that other people have the choice, they can stay in or go out anywhere and meet anyone, using their Socialising superpower as they wish, or not, while I'm stuck being alone without that ability and with my sensory and anxiety issues.
I do find it odd that people (especially therapists who, supposedly, have experience dealing with AS/ASD) don't seem to understand what I mean by isolation and loneliness. I described it as being alone in a prison cell with no hope of release and my councellor asked me what my relationship with my mother was like I'm unable to see how any issues there could be resolved and suddenly enable me to understand social conventions, any more than I can understand why she can't understand the Triad of Impairments..

 

[amusic20]

True for me, sometimes. Though people so infrequently ask me to hang out that when they do, I usually say yes.

 

[Suzanne]

Somebody has to be either very special (I like them) or very twisted (they're blackmailing me) for me to hang out with them. Because they are boring, the place is boring, and I'll have to wear a bra (if it's spring, summer, or autumn). I'm more prone to go out in the winter, but that's when my seasonal job is in, so I don't hang out any then either.

Oh my, yes, the blasted bra; hate wearing them!

 

[Suzanne]

Then my therapist asks me weekly: "So, what did you do this weekend?!?" expecting an answer I suppose that I went out shopping, to dinner, on a date or some such thing. I always answer: "I did nothing. I read some. I played some video games a bit. I wrote some code a little. I slept a lot." She just looks at me not knowing what to say next. She of course is an NT and I'm sure her weekend was full of wondrous adventures!

Well, what video game? There are some great ones that get your brain working. A fav of mine are escape the room. Reading: again what? Wrote some code? Sounds intriguing. Slept a lot. There is nothing to be ashamed about. Personally, what you describe doing, sounds like an adventure to me and going out shopping and dinner etc, sounds awful lol but mmm, guess I am an aspie lol

Don't feel shame.

 

[Suzanne]

I think the depressing thing, at least for me, is knowing that other people have the choice, they can stay in or go out anywhere and meet anyone, using their Socialising superpower as they wish, or not, while I'm stuck being alone without that ability and with my sensory and anxiety issues.
I do find it odd that people (especially therapists who, supposedly, have experience dealing with AS/ASD) don't seem to understand what I mean by isolation and loneliness. I described it as being alone in a prison cell with no hope of release and my councellor asked me what my relationship with my mother was like I'm unable to see how any issues there could be resolved and suddenly enable me to understand social conventions, any more than I can understand why she can't understand the Triad of Impairments..

Reminds me before I even heard of aspergers and I saw this one therapist who would just stare at me; I guess it was to gauge what was going on, but all she managed to do, was freak me out and when I asked her not to share, she came out with: why, do you fancy me? What lol. I said, sorry no and good bye and walked out

 

[Tia Maria]

For the record, NTs do exactly what Aspies do on the weekends.

They do whatever it is they feel like doing on that specific weekend, & it varies weekend to weekend depending on their mood, energy, time of year, weather, general unique preferences & possibly budget. Or they do the things they need to get done which they had no time to accomplish during the week. Those who work full time often try to squeeze in some extra rest or sleep.

Younger people (more energy, less responsibilities & desiring to meet a possible future partner) tend to be more socially active; while older folks tend to be more family (& responsibility) orientated. Younger people tend to worry about what other people are doing & that they might be missing out on something. Older people don't give a ****.

Sound familiar?

My own personal recommendation - as some others have already stated: Do whatever it is you personally enjoy & don't worry about it. Also, don't compare yourself to anyone else or others in general. It's all a matter of personal preference & there is nothing better or worse about the myriad of ways people like to spend their free time. Something is only "fun" if the person sincerely enjoys doing it.