Belated happy 21st birthday to you. I spent my 21st birthday in hospital. I can understand what you are going through. I want to tell you that you really do have time on your hands though and that your life has really just ony begun. I thought mine was over at 21, but it had really it had only just begun. I would say try and do the things that you want to do from this point on. That will help you. Now they are saying youth goes up to 25 or 24 in terms of support as they know some people are a bit delayed with their mental health etc. The world is your oyster now. One of my nephews just turned 21 as well. My life began at 21, unfortunetly I still wanted to please other people so where I could been ok....the pleasing of others through my choices impacted on me. At 21 at least where I live it can be easier to access university without the necessary qualifications. I don't know if that is the case where you live.
I have written and I wrote this about my early 20s and I am sharing it here so you can see that I experienced it as well and I am 51 today. I wrote the below about four years ago.
Good luck with your life. You can make a go of it.
"Things spiralled at 21, I felt the weight of the world's expectations on my shoulders. I felt like I hadn't measured up to my expectations. I had hopes, for one I wanted to be married with children by then. My A level results were also extremely disappointing to me. I didn’t take the subjects I wanted to as they were not available. I would have chosen a different route myself. I was forced to take A levels and did not apply myself as I was not very motivated. However, the impact of the results affected me. I saw my classmates go off to university, and it was the beginning of the spiral for me at that time. I wanted things to stop, my eating disorder at that time was almost like an escape exit. With hindsight today, I still had time on my side in my early 20s."
I have written and I wrote this about my early 20s and I am sharing it here so you can see that I experienced it as well and I am 51 today. I wrote the below about four years ago.
Good luck with your life. You can make a go of it.
"Things spiralled at 21, I felt the weight of the world's expectations on my shoulders. I felt like I hadn't measured up to my expectations. I had hopes, for one I wanted to be married with children by then. My A level results were also extremely disappointing to me. I didn’t take the subjects I wanted to as they were not available. I would have chosen a different route myself. I was forced to take A levels and did not apply myself as I was not very motivated. However, the impact of the results affected me. I saw my classmates go off to university, and it was the beginning of the spiral for me at that time. I wanted things to stop, my eating disorder at that time was almost like an escape exit. With hindsight today, I still had time on my side in my early 20s."
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