Unusually bothered by people's differences

[rollerskate]

I'm not actually asking for a debate or anything here

So let's respect the OP. Open a new thread if you want to debate this topic...

 

[Kuribo]

Flaws in people's understanding of my interests don't anger me. To my mind, getting angry with people over innocent mistakes like these is just as bad as when Neurotypicals treat Autistics badly for their lack of social understanding. What angers me is when people resist my attempts to help them correct these flaws, and continue to argue in favor of a point which I know to be wrong.

 

[Fallingforesttree]

Understanding expanded when I worked for a guy also on the spectrum with extreme focus on his ares of interest that featured reaction issues mentioned by the op. Thing is, I am the same way but on my area of knowledge. We just had different focus targets. Realizing how much it meant to him helped a lot. Nt have different blind spots, as do ppl that advocate illogical things, they are doing the best they can. Even if they're not, it neutralizes the interaction to focus on that.

Getting upset about something that is potentially preventable is not wrong...how could it be? I have tried to cultivate neutral ways to express that. If somebody says something considered to be just an opinion by most people but for some on the spectrum has been an element in a Pavlovian conditioning schedule of behavior outcomes in the form of punitive losses with negatively significant effects that can lead to fear and fight or flight.

Also, I have learned to think the bad thing perceived is outside of me and the other person. Avoiding the fundamental attribution error and thinking of at least three separate non intentional reasons why the other person is continuing to do wrong has helped as well.

 

[bentHnau]

I don't necessarily condemn people for their religious beliefs. I usually just mock and make satires about their beliefs when I'm around them.

Aren't mocking and satirizing merely creative condemnations?

 

[Granta_Omega]

Aren't mocking and satirizing merely creative condemnations?

I don't think I get what you mean.

 

[bentHnau]

I don't think I get what you mean.

I meant that it seems contradictory to state that one mocks and satirizes beliefs rather than condemning them because the whole purpose of mocking and satirization is to condemn, but I looked back at your comment and I see that you actually said that you don't condemn people. My mistake.

 

[Granta_Omega]

I meant that it seems contradictory to state that one mocks and satirizes beliefs rather than condemning them because the whole purpose of mocking and satirization is to condemn, but I looked back at your comment and I see that you actually said that you don't condemn people. My mistake.

What I was trying to state that attacking a religious belief isn't attacking everyone who believes it. If I make a joke about religious doctrine, that isn't the same thing as insulting everyone who believes it.

That's basically what I meant. People get all worked up over anyone critiquing their religion as if it is a crime against nature.

 

[Grumpy Cat]

What I was trying to state that attacking a religious belief isn't attacking everyone who believes it. If I make a joke about religious doctrine, that isn't the same thing as insulting everyone who believes it.

That's basically what I meant. People get all worked up over anyone critiquing their religion as if it is a crime against nature.

Maybe NT's see it a different way. If someone "attacks" or says something negative about a religion, it shows a disrespect for that religion and in turn also disrespects the people who have chosen to believe in that religion. It's all seen as being connected (IMO as coming from an NT point of view). Aspies might see it differently.

 

[Granta_Omega]

Maybe NT's see it a different way. If someone "attacks" or says something negative about a religion, it shows a disrespect for that religion and in turn also disrespects the people who have chosen to believe in that religion. It's all seen as being connected (IMO as coming from an NT point of view). Aspies might see it differently.

That would be their problem then, so that means it is them that need to change.

 

[Sheogorath]

I don't want to sound arrogant, but my opinions are usually thought through and well balanced. That is because I do a lot of research and debating before I decide to have an opinion on a topic. Only recently I finished months of research and reading books about religion.

With all the work I put into informing myself and being objective, any "lazy" or "weak" opinion irks me. I can't stand it when people's deduction, arguments or motives are flawed. Nor can I stand it when their opinions are "wrong". Of course I know opinions can't be wrong because they are subjective to begin with. But I find some things so unbelievable that I can't do anything else but think they are just wrong.

It really stresses me out to the point where I start "disliking" the people a little bit. I know my thoughts and opinions aren't better than other people's, but it annoys me so much.

 

[wyverary]

Every one of us is, in the cosmic perspective, precious. If a human disagrees with you, let him live. In a hundred billion galaxies, you will not find another. - Carl Sagan

If one's views lead to someone's life being in danger, or they are harming themselves or others? Do something about it. And you can debate all you want about what constitutes "danger" or "harming." But focusing on other people's flaws is a complete waste of time and gives them more attention/credit than they're worth. For me, I have my own issues to grapple with, without letting others get the better of my anger.

Then again, that's just from having been around a wide variety of people, and learning the harsh lesson that it's best to pick my battles.

 

[bentHnau]

Every one of us is, in the cosmic perspective, precious.

But focusing on other people's flaws is a complete waste of time and gives them more attention/credit than they're worth.

Interesting contrast there.