Was this rejection it seems like it?

[paloftoon]

If you know those women are single, and probably people know who you are at the church at this point, you probably know enough to be able to sense that these women are not interested in you. They probably know that you are looking for a partner- some people can sense that.

Your friend who says you are not ready for a relationship is totally on the mark.

If you want a partner, you need to be able to care of yourself.
Do you cook your own food? Do you have a job and live independently?
Do you exercise regularly? (this is something I need to do more myself)

 

[Hypnalis]

Tony

Your friend is right.

You want a relationship, and you can make yourself ready. But you have some essential personal development to work through before you can hope for a successful relationship.

And please don't underestimate the downside of pushing too far too soon. It's hard to reconnect with people that have been driven away by inappropriate behavior.

(NB: This post isn't comment on paloftoon's above. "For the record" I agree with everything in that post.

 

[Tony Ramirez]

Now you are giving me mixed messages. First you tell me to go up to girls I don't know how to talk to them. I did so and now you are saying not to do it. Really make up your mind.

 

[Gerald Wilgus]

Are You not ready for a relationship?

Perhaps. What value do you bring to a relationship? Are you able to entertain the thought of being vulnerable even when you have anxiety approaching a woman? I do not see you being comfortable with yourself and enjoying life single.

I too had been frustrated at finding a relationship and when I saw myself harboring negative thoughts about couples and women, that is when i decided that change started with me.