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Normal is an stadistic concep, so in a population of white people, being black is not normal. And in a population of black people, being white is not normal.
Same goes with being fat, the political party you like, religion, hobbies, sexuality, the way we dress, our accent, values, our country of origin, the way you dance, age, facial structure, gender... all this things can be used to messure normality in an human social group.
Many social mamals do bully those who are not normal enougth to their standards. You can see that in wolves, dogs, cows, dolphins, monkeys...
Maybe humans do have many more categories to bully others, but at the end in most mamals group there are bosses (alphas), followers, and members who are even lower that followers.
The democracy thing of all being ecuals, same rigths, respect for all, lets include minorities, etc... Has never been seen in nature, and is not part of our biology either. So its great theorical concept but most of the time what apply is biology.
About people on the spectrum, the common feature we have is that for us, social skills do not come instinctively. If we are asked "How are you doing?" we may take it in a literal way and not inderstand the social intentions behind that, or how are we spected to answer, or when to answer, or in which tone to answer, or what body behavour use while answering, or how to adapt all those if we are asked by an alpha or by a follower or by a marginated person. Normal humans do know that in an instinctive way when they get to 10 years old.
We may need years of training to understand and mimic NT instinctive social skills, we can do that paying a lot of energy and get drained. High Functionality ASD may do it better while low Functionality ASD will have more problems or being unable.
Not having social skills is very high in the bully categories of any human group. The reason is that we Clash with alphas, followers and all the social structure of the group. So in order to maintain the structure of social group that human biology demands, the only place for us is out of the group or at a lower level. Only masking and camuflating or in exchange of a lot of work value can we aspire to be accepted as followers.
There goes another wall of text with info that may be useful or not.
Normal is an stadistic concep, so in a population of white people, being black is not normal. And in a population of black people, being white is not normal.
Same goes with being fat, the political party you like, religion, hobbies, sexuality, the way we dress, our accent, values, our country of origin, the way you dance, age, facial structure, gender... all this things can be used to messure normality in an human social group.
Many social mamals do bully those who are not normal enougth to their standards. You can see that in wolves, dogs, cows, dolphins, monkeys...
Maybe humans do have many more categories to bully others, but at the end in most mamals group there are bosses (alphas), followers, and members who are even lower that followers.
The democracy thing of all being ecuals, same rigths, respect for all, lets include minorities, etc... Has never been seen in nature, and is not part of our biology either. So its great theorical concept but most of the time what apply is biology.
About people on the spectrum, the common feature we have is that for us, social skills do not come instinctively. If we are asked "How are you doing?" we may take it in a literal way and not inderstand the social intentions behind that, or how are we spected to answer, or when to answer, or in which tone to answer, or what body behavour use while answering, or how to adapt all those if we are asked by an alpha or by a follower or by a marginated person. Normal humans do know that in an instinctive way when they get to 10 years old.
We may need years of training to understand and mimic NT instinctive social skills, we can do that paying a lot of energy and get drained. High Functionality ASD may do it better while low Functionality ASD will have more problems or being unable.
Not having social skills is very high in the bully categories of any human group. The reason is that we Clash with alphas, followers and all the social structure of the group. So in order to maintain the structure of social group that human biology demands, the only place for us is out of the group or at a lower level. Only masking and camuflating or in exchange of a lot of work value can we aspire to be accepted as followers.
There goes another wall of text with info that may be useful or not.