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Would you marry an immigrant woman who just wants a Visa?

Mr Allen

Mr Allen

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I wouldn't, especially someone I've never met beyond Facebook chats.

The story of this is I just had a very weird chat with an immigrant woman on Facebook, she messaged me last night, she wants to come to the UK but needs to get hitched to get a working Visa! I don't believe in that kind of marriage and even if I did I'd still run several miles from this kind of arrangement.

If you're from the UK avoid a woman called Rosemary Rosemary on Facebook, she wants a man and she's not bothered how she gets him.
 
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Well I'm a straight female but I have past experience of being targeted by men after a visa, I think they realised I was very naïve and trusting and that is why they tried to con me. I then stipulated to friends trying to set me up, and on sites with my profile online that I would not consider anyone unless they had a uk passport or at the very least permanent residency and were on their way to getting a passport. I then had a very quiet life as none of the chancers even bothered to try anymore. I also know an epileptic and autistic man with mild learning difficulties where some man tried to get him to marry his sister for visa purposes. The guy thought my friend was stupid and could be conned into doing that, my friend gave him what for.
 
Astroganga said:
Well I'm a straight female but I have past experience of being targeted by men after a visa, I think they realised I was very naïve and trusting and that is why they tried to con me. I then stipulated to friends trying to set me up, and on sites with my profile online that I would not consider anyone unless they had a uk passport or at the very least permanent residency and were on their way to getting a passport. I then had a very quiet life as none of the chancers even bothered to try anymore. I also know an epileptic and autistic man with mild learning difficulties where some man tried to get him to marry his sister for visa purposes. The guy thought my friend was stupid and could be conned into doing that, my friend gave him what for.
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|Even if I was NT I still wouldn't touch that kind of arrangement with a 10 foot Bargepole, I don't believe in that kind of marriage.
 
Not at all, especially as I've heard stories of women coming into the U.K while pregnant and having their baby while here, so they can take advantage of the 'second citizenship' law (birth by soil) - meaning that any baby born on that country’s soil automatically has a right to citizenship and so gives the mother a chance to stay in the U.K.
The benefits of that then include greater freedom to travel, less tax liability, access to more affordable health care or college education, and more employment and investment opportunities. Basically, an opportunity to take advantage.

I've heard of similar but more humorous scams, like some woman claiming to be desperately in love with you but been stuck in Russia and wanting money to be sent to her so she could reach you.
That one had me in fits of laughter just reading it.
 
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Rich Allen said:
|Even if I was NT I still wouldn't touch that kind of arrangement with a 10 foot Bargepole, I don't believe in that kind of marriage.
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I wouldn't either but these men pretended to be genuinely interested in me, some of them lied about their immigration status as well, luckily I had people looking out for me and they soon got rumbled. This was the real life ones. The online ones, I usually figured them out more quickly.
 
My one "friend" IRL married an immigrant. They've always projected being a happy couple with a nice young son. It works for them IMO.

But then this doesn't negate those who seek marriage just as a means of remaining in another country. In all fairness my friend's wife comes from a nation where this is known to happen.
 
I made that terrible, terrible mistake 14 years ago! I was so gullible and naive back then. But I honestly was just trying to help someone who had helped me by giving me a place to stay. He soon turned violent towards me...held machete to my throat and threw me around. I'm glad God got me out of that situation.
 
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I made that terrible, terrible mistake 14 years ago! I was so gullible and naive back then. But I honestly was just trying to help someone who had helped me by giving me a place to stay. He soon turned violent towards me...held machete to my throat and threw me around. I'm glad God got me out of that situation.
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Oh gosh sounds horrendous :(
 
Good thinking. That path is hazardous and likely only to turn out badly. Possible very badly.
 
I think the point is, did she truly love you, or simply looking for a visa.
As a girl, honestly, if I fall in love with a man wherever he is from, and he won't like me because I'm not having the same citizenship with him, I'll be very disappointed and get offended.
I personally don't think distant relationship work for me, and HongKong here doesn't suit me either.
Well, whatever, if a guy isn't a real gentleman, he definitely won't be my cup of tea, or, the term you guys used, "target". :)
 
If I had a close friend whom I trusted well and had either solid references or a long period of time to observe how they have exhausted all the other available channels to get / stay in my country, and they asked for my help, I would be quite open to helping them. Accountability is the key.

Except I am not living in my country of citizenship and am not sure when the next time I would again, is, so as it stands it's more likely for me to end up on the other side of this table. :p
 
See I would consider doing this but I wouldn't see it as a relationship, If I were to do it then it would purely be business to allow a needy person (probably an asylum seeker) a visa, of course I'd have to be sure they genuinely have no other option and are trustworthy, I wouldn't live with them or spend time with them/date, they would have their visa and could go of to live their life and I would live mine. I am unlikely to ever do this though as probably will never come into contact with someone who so desperately needs a visa.
 
I think the biggest gotcha here is that many marriage based immigration applications are scrutinized quite a bit and you would need to produce proof that you and the other person are spending an "appropriate" amount of time together, and especially if you're not living together that would turn up as a big red flag.

I happen to fall into both the "migration experience" and "non traditional relationship preference" categories so I wouldn't be surprised if I have to seriously consider stuff like this at some point, because people who are similar tend to gravitate after all. So it's very interesting. And I have heard of people who have done it, but don't know of any personally. I do think that I have arranged my life in such a way that I should really never need to resort to marrying someone as my only option to stay in a country.
 
Bad idea. A few years down the line they might need extension of visa or apply for permanent visa. The headache at this stage is awful. Explaining why you don't live together etc is almost impossible. Stay away. It's too much stress.
 
I have wondered if there might be a rush of marriages of convenience come Brexit for those UK citizens who believe in ever-closer union with Europe (in more ways than one)! Perhaps there's an app for that.
 
Rich Allen said:
The story of this is I just had a very weird chat with an immigrant woman on Facebook, she messaged me last night, she wants to come to the UK but needs to get hitched to get a working Visa! I don't believe in that kind of marriage and even if I did I'd still run several miles from this kind of arrangement.
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Yes, run. Fast! This woman is a scammer.
 
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