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Would you marry an immigrant woman who just wants a Visa?

No, not some random person.

However, my sister has a close friend who was born in South Korea and then moved aged 2 to Israel (her father was a Christian Missionary). They were removed from Israel when she was around 10, but were able to go back there not long after. When she was 12, they came to the UK and she started at high school and became friends with my sister. She went all through high school, did her GCSE's and A-Level's and then applied to get indefinite leave to remain here when she turned 18, as she would no longer be a dependent of her parents.

She filled in all the forms, paid the fee and waited for a response. Her brother and mother both received theirs back and are allowed to live here for the rest of their lives if they wish. She heard nothing, and eventually had a reply saying she'd sent the wrong form. So, she fills out the form they say she should have sent and returns it. Eventually another reply, the first form was the correct one all along, and we've lost your fee. So she send the original form again, and the fee again.

She then gets a reply that says that the form wasn't sent in time and she will be deported from the country on a certain date. Bear in mind, she would be deported back to a country that she hadn't lived in since she was 2. She can speak Korean, but not as fluently as you would expect (she actually speaks Hebrew better). So she left and went back to Korea as she had no other choice and she had to live there for 2 years before she was allowed to apply for a visa to come back here as a student. She went to uni here, and obviously, being classed as an overseas student, had to pay far more in fees and was restricted in the work she could do to pay for this.

She recently had to leave for South Korea again for 4 weeks so she could reapply at the embassy there to come back and do a masters degree.

She lived here for over the 10 years required for her to be able to claim indefinite leave to remain, and her family are here (her dad isn't, the marriage broke up and I'm not entirely sure where he lives now). It wasn't in any way her fault, but oh no, the immigration service don't see it like that. She did seriously consider finding one of their friends who might be happy to marry her so that she could stay here. As far as I know, she's given up on this as one male friend they had was up for doing it, until mu sisters boyfriend talked him out of it.

In this situation, I honestly don't blame her for her desperation. She didn't want money or anything else, just the right to live in the country that she sees as her home, with her family.
 
Well, I suppose if I knew and liked the person and we could come up with some sort of mutually beneficial housemate type arrangement and they take responsibility for all the legal arrangements then I might.
 
I made that terrible, terrible mistake 14 years ago! I was so gullible and naive back then. But I honestly was just trying to help someone who had helped me by giving me a place to stay. He soon turned violent towards me...held machete to my throat and threw me around. I'm glad God got me out of that situation.
That's horrible I'm very sorry you went through that:(
 

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