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Year's greatest AS achievement!

Bel

Bel

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As the year is closing in it's important to pat ourselves well deservedly on the back, and I'd like to know other's best AS related achievements/experiences or things you've overcome, little or giant :D

Give me your best!
 
Oh yes, I have a huge thing that I accomplished this year. :P

For quite a few years, I've had what is known as 'selective mutism', which is where you don't talk to many people at all.
Prior to this year, I opened up to a few close friends, speaking to them, once I got to know and trust them, and did simple replies of 'yes' and 'no' when teachers asked me something. :)

In the past, there were a few times when someone at school came up to me and said, "hey, I dreamed last night that you were talking to the class!".

Well back in August, that dream came true. :D
Now I talk lots. :D
 
To those who have dicovered they are aspies there is nothing wrong with you , infact you all may have a special hidden skill that others do not know they have.

We all have our strengths and weaknesses.

I was diagnosed last year
 
Me is accepting in terms of having AS this year. I have been told by many people over the years, but have ignored it. Me losing my job in November 2013 made me decided to understand more about AS. After coming to terms with this, I had some people offered support. The main reason accepting the terms for this is I'm sick of struggling most of my life for the 15 years living on my own. I came to the conclusion if I don't change the terms of my life, things will never get better. This also includes working with organizations that let me down. It has been a huge pain fighting against a lot of people and seeking justice. I know I can do more with my life than most people just say to live on disability.
 
Thepenguin I had the same realization 3 years ago that I had to ask for help. I felt something was wrong but I did not know why. I had tried to help my self with no success. I found my aspergers had been masked by other things as well. I just thought I was just shy.
 
3 things really:

One: fully accepting I am an aspie and hope to get it officially confirmed soon. This is actually really helping me.

Two: joining what we call: our theocratic ministry school, where we learn how to be better bible teachers. I could never join, due to my extreme social anxiety and just a crushing sense of being out there! But by accident, I was put on the school and so, first became what we refer to as a: householder and then, our school overseer, after a few months, said that he believes I am ready to give talks and I did my first one, and amazingly, didn't find it too bad at all and realised how much I enjoy the "acting" aspect of it. Got my second talk in March.

Three: took courage and approached two different people who I saw, were on their own and started to chat, and it went really well and I had a sense of "interchange" rather than me going on and on and on (nerves). Also, tying in with this, our new home has a guest room now (a first for us) and two people who we had never met before, came to stay for a whole week! I was out of my mind with panic (HATE new faces), but my goodness, the more I got to know them, the more I liked them lol and they were so accommodating and helpful and the last day, I got a lovely bouquet of flowers and we both ie my husband and I, got a beautiful card. None of which would have happened, if I did my usual and ran away from situations.

I do thank you so much for posting this, because I rarely concentrate on the positive aspects, as I am always too crushed with my failures!!!
 
You have had a great year I hope it continues for you to build your self confidence.

I think we need to be reminded of the positives.
 
Taking on new students and being able to cope with the increased work load, and getting positive feedback from the students too!
 
After years of lurking on forums for Aspies, I finally joined this year. I knew I had ASD before, but only recently felt sure and comfortable enough to register and interact online. And I'm glad I did.

Anyway, my greatest achievement would have to be getting my driver's license. Mostly because I didn't think I would. No-one close around me really had much faith in the endeavor (my instructor did, but I thought he was mollifying me), because I was a bit of an emotional mess over it.
 
DogwoodTree said:
That's been a huge breakthrough for me this year, too...discovering my aspieness. Sooo much makes sense now.

Just learning how to accept it and try to work with it instead of fighting to be something I'm not meant to be.
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Aside from realizing I had (somewhat) solid evidence I was not riddled with tumors and allergies, that was the best part for me too: personal kindness. You don't realize to what degree you were pushing and forcing and criticizing yourself pre-discovery until you've got that long list in front of you that's also basically a list of things you can forgive yourself about. Here's to a good adjustment period for both of us, it's also amazing how much on that list you have to relearn how to do! My biggest was getting overwhelmed, I've had to learn how to say "enough" all over again.
 
Warwick C said:
You have had a great year I hope it continues for you to build your self confidence.

I think we need to be reminded of the positives.
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I hoped this post might show people how well we do :D not enough Aspies give themselves credit! Say it out loud and be proud
 
DogwoodTree said:
That's been a huge breakthrough for me this year, too...discovering my aspieness. Sooo much makes sense now.

Just learning how to accept it and try to work with it instead of fighting to be something I'm not meant to be.
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May your new year be full of new Aspie discoveries and happy acceptance, you'll be great x
 
Suzanne said:
3 things really:

One: fully accepting I am an aspie and hope to get it officially confirmed soon. This is actually really helping me.

Two: joining what we call: our theocratic ministry school, where we learn how to be better bible teachers. I could never join, due to my extreme social anxiety and just a crushing sense of being out there! But by accident, I was put on the school and so, first became what we refer to as a: householder and then, our school overseer, after a few months, said that he believes I am ready to give talks and I did my first one, and amazingly, didn't find it too bad at all and realised how much I enjoy the "acting" aspect of it. Got my second talk in March.

Three: took courage and approached two different people who I saw, were on their own and started to chat, and it went really well and I had a sense of "interchange" rather than me going on and on and on (nerves). Also, tying in with this, our new home has a guest room now (a first for us) and two people who we had never met before, came to stay for a whole week! I was out of my mind with panic (HATE new faces), but my goodness, the more I got to know them, the more I liked them lol and they were so accommodating and helpful and the last day, I got a lovely bouquet of flowers and we both ie my husband and I, got a beautiful card. None of which would have happened, if I did my usual and ran away from situations.

I do thank you so much for posting this, because I rarely concentrate on the positive aspects, as I am always too crushed with my failures!!!
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All too easy to think about our difficulties and not our achievements. You have done excellently and all the more luck in the new year :D remember to keep saying the good things out loud! X
 
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