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  1. DesertRose

    Grown children

    My grandson, was just diagnosed with aspergers. I really knew nothing about it until recently. With all the research I've done on this topic lately, I now can say almost without a doubt, his mother is autistic/aspie. I had no idea back then, it was 30+ years ago. I've also seen a lot of the same...
  2. MrsPB

    Breaking Rules You're Unaware Of

    So guys, I have this habit of pushing people to their limits without being aware of it. For example, my managers are frustrated when I arrive 5 minutes late for work, but I don't see why. We have a 10-minute grace period to clock in. That's the rule. Another: I tend to ask too much of my...
  3. F

    Understanding AS ex-boyfriend

    Hello, Thank you for this space, and for supporting those in relationships with AS individuals. I am NT with anxiety traits. I have an AS father and brother, both of whom were recently diagnosed. My question is about my ex. He is undiagnosed (we never talked about AS, although he often told me...
  4. The Gentle and Brave Writer

    The potato bazooka

    I have two friends who used to be a couple, who were friends of my ex and I when we were a couple too. We don’t live in the same country anymore, but when I learned that they separated more or less at the time than we did, I contacted them (separately). What she said about their separation was...
    • Sabrina
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    • Category: Day to Day Life
  5. The Gentle and Brave Writer

    Feeling physically safe with a man

    I feel safe with my date of these days. What I mean by “safe” is the physical part of being safe, and I’m not referring to the lack of fear of being abused by him (that’s another horrible fear, but not the subject of this post. To clarify doubts, I feel safe with him in that aspect too). I mean...
    • Sabrina
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    • Category: Day to Day Life
  6. The Gentle and Brave Writer

    I need to love again

    Today, May 10th, is Mother’s Day in México, there’s no school, and it’s a national holiday for many, except for restaurants. The ex didn’t take the kids to buy me a present and I resent him for that. He didn’t do it for my birthday either… after 18 years of me always doing something for him to...
    • Sabrina
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    • Comments: 1
    • Category: General
  7. sisselcakes

    Needy NT’s

    Hi everyone. Looking for some perspective here. So, my boyfriend who we suspect is Aspie, and I have slowly been overcoming our communication barriers. One thing that became pretty apparent to me is that he doesn’t often validate my point of view or give compliments. In my NT world...
  8. p3rverseimp

    26 NT and 36 AS- mixed messages.

    Hi guys, I’ll try my best to keep this as short as possible. In August, I started dating an aspie guy who I really liked (let’s call him Joe). He was very forthright with his feelings for me; however, he has issues with drink. I told him I didn’t know whether I could handle that because I have...
  9. M

    Dating someone on the spectrum

    Hi, I'm dating someone who thinks he might be on the AS spectrum. I was talking to someone at work last fall about some stuff we were dealing with at home and she casually suggested he may be somewhere on the spectrum. I didn't' say anything to him about it, but observed his behavior and...
  10. savi83

    Using Social Media

    Hi everybody, I've been thinking about social media a lot recently and was wondering if and how you use it? Most of the people I know add people that they have just met, people that they shared a class with at school (but never spoke to), their colleagues and bosses. I'm quite a private...
  11. The Gentle and Brave Writer

    Little Red Riding Hood no more

    I.. connect… the… dots…late… but I do. I found the “mystery” of why my ex husband didn’t want a wedding ring. For you, my dear reader, it might be obvious: because he doesn’t want women to know he’s married, right? But not for me. I can have something in front of me and still not be able to...
    • Sabrina
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    • Category: General
  12. The Gentle and Brave Writer

    Changing how a man looks good on my paper

    I now have a map with all the places with hidden mines that I have to avoid in my love life. These mines are charming, exciting, intelligent men, that had unloving mothers. I also have in my map a destination: a man with his feet on Earth, capable of love, (since he received lots of it when he...
    • Sabrina
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  13. The Gentle and Brave Writer

    Good bye my Peter Pan, with love, your Mary Poppins

    As I promised, I am not trying to make you come back to me. You flew, and I just want to say good bye from the distance. First of all, I want to say thank you. Only you and I know how much you saved me, how much you changed my life: there is a before you, and an after you. You were my Peter...
    • Sabrina
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    • Category: General
  14. The Gentle and Brave Writer

    The men of my dreams

    I remember, a couple of weeks ago, that we both had a good day. That was not the norm, you being without a job, me, recently separated from my husband. The following day you told me you had had a very vivid dream. You were in a building, which collapsed, and you were standing there, unscathed...
    • Sabrina
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    • Category: General
  15. Sabrina

    Relationships with men with bad mothers

    I’ve had a variety of relationships: -The teenage boyfriend -The husband -The virtual man-friend. They are incredibly smart, handsome, kind and exciting. But they all had an awful relationship with their mothers while growing up. I feel like they are all the same guy, and that I have to stop...
  16. The Gentle and Brave Writer

    Feeling ugly

    I’m very emotional. I separated from the person that was my couple for 18 years (married for fifteen years). I connected the dots of what was going on this week. I was disappointed. All these years looking for a reason. Elaborating the most complicated theories. And the answer is so vulgar, so...
    • Sabrina
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    • Category: General
  17. W

    Boyfriend says he can't be with me because of Asperger's

    Hi there, About a year and a half ago my boyfriend was diagnosed with mild Asperger's, which is what he told me. He is 24 and I am 25 years old. We have been together for 6 years and we have had ups and downs in our relationship, of course. During the rough times he has done detrimental...
  18. Chris Russell (The Talentless Liar) Blog

    Abused Amoebas and Career Correlations (First published Nov 2017)

    I was reading an excerpt from a zoological textbook the other day about the reactions of different types of amoeba to stimulus. (Yes - this is the sort of thing you will find in my web surfing history. Shut up.) It seems that amoeba, generally, rarely move because of a positive stimulus...
    • Chris Russell
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  19. T

    Should I tell a Potential partner I have Asperger's ?

    In September I started dating a girl I've been friends with for a while. Things are going well and I'm thinking of asking her to officially be my girlfriend, however I'm not sure whether i should tell her about my diagnosis of Asperger first. Some context: I was only diagnosed at the end of...
  20. onlything

    Romantic interest

    So, today about finding a romantic interest or rather - about how not to find it. Literally. What I'm asking for is how to be friendly, to males especially, while not invoking their sexual interest, or simpler - how to be nice, look neat but without any sexual appeal at all. It was easier when...
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