8 Reasons Straight Men Don’t Want To Get Married...

[AloneNotLonely]

Your situation is the exact reason why you don't get married. If you didn't get married you would have:
1. Been able to focus on functioning on your own in the real world (and thus not live below the poverty line)
2. Not have brought a child into the world that is now living in poverty without a father

Marriage didn't protect you from any of this. It doesn't matter if women or men need this or that. What matters is that your spouse can pull the rug from under your feet at any moment, and totally wreck your life as you know it. This is how marriage ended for you, so why are you recommending this disaster to other men and women?

My life is great. Because I was smart (Or autistic enough?) to not get married. I knew guys that had far better jobs and income than I did. I have more money than them now, because they got married and standard story: wifey slept around and suddenly decided to change the locks. Now they pay 70% of their paycheck in spousal and child support.

Society is nothing more than the collective of people. And the people living right now are crap. We are at the point where it's every man (and woman) for themselves, because as a decent person marriage just opens you up to complete destruction of your life at the hands of these people. The best thing to do to "help" society is to stop being a cog in the machine that keeps it going. Marriage keeps these people going, because they are parasites and parasites only survive with a host. Avoiding marriage is the one thing that everyone can do right now, and should be doing.

Having children just provides the system with more cogs for their machine. If you have your standard little family, chances are you are going to send your children to public school where they will be indoctrinated and turned into more people for society. The only way to change the future is to do things differently, rather than continue to do the same things that got us in this mess in the first place.

But you want to completely erase the fact that yes, I absolutely am oppressed in other areas. I am privileged that I have someone who can give me health insurance, so that must mean I have hit the jackpot! Yes, I am sitting on a ton of gold here.

You live in one of the richest nations to have ever existed in the history of the world. You have a personal slave that's taking care of all your finances, food, shelter and at no point can he refuse because you can just divorce him and take his stuff anyway. You have the spare time to babble on about oppression and privilege and the exact oppression to privilege ratio that you are currently experiencing. It seems like it to me that you are not oppressed. You are just a privileged girl that thinks that any setback to life is the result of scheming evil white men that have devised the entire system to destroy poor innocent little girls like you. In actuality you are just weak and can't take care of yourself, not even in the cushy existence that we have now. And that's fine, just don't whine endlessly about how you are oppressed in order to explain it and start sending the blue mafia to cut off our balls and take our wallets because you can't handle the real world like the rest of us can.

Maybe instead of whining about oppression, you should be thankful there's a poor sap that cared enough about you to sign a contract that puts his entire future at your whim. Maybe treat him well and, you know, don't cut off his balls and steal his wallet in the future? It would certainly mean there's 1 less angry man in the world.

 

[Jojo_LB]

I didn't even read that crap. It's just edgelord BS.

Interesting that I trigger such an angry response from someone who doesn't know me at all. Says a lot about people like you.

 

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[Mary Terry]

I didn't even read that crap. It's just edgelord BS.

Interesting that I trigger such an angry response from someone who doesn't know me at all. Says a lot about people like you.

Yes, the rant does indeed shed light on the poster. Sometimes people rant about marriage because they are incapable of attracting someone who is willing to date them, let alone marry them. Sour grapes.

 

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[Jojo_LB]

Yes, the rant does indeed shed light on the poster. Sometimes people rant about marriage because they are incapable of attracting someone who is willing to date them, let alone marry them. Sour grapes.

Yeah, totally agree with you here. It's not anyone's fault but their own that they're so bitter and resentful. *shrug* No use talking about marriage, or anything at all for that matter, with them. Best leave these discussions to the rational and logical.

Anyway, I like @Skids response. I agree with pretty much points 1 and 2. I get why people are so into the whole thing.. they love the ceremony, the planning and family togetherness and celebration and all that. I personally could never take it that far. I feel that too many people attach too much symbolism to marriage and the ceremony itself, and there are a lot of reasons for that but talking about those things would make this post way too long lol. They end up spending SO much money. And then a lot of them end up getting divorced.

The whole City Hall/Town Hall quickie ceremony is quite underrated.

 

[AloneNotLonely]

There is a difference between being angry/bitter/resentful and being realistic.

Marriage is a gamble that has no real upside and huge downsides. Except for those that need someone to pay their way, of course. For those people marriage is an instant way out of the rat race.

The "Oh people like that can't attract anyone!" is standard shaming language. I've heard it so many times the best it gets out of me is a "meh" at this point.

How does my, or anyone else's capability of attracting a mate affect the legal, emotional and financial ramifications of a marriage gone wrong? It's not even pertinent to the issue at hand, you are just dismissing the facts I mentioned in case they come from someone that cannot attract a mate. So if I cannot attract a mate because, for instance, I was born with a very unattractive face that would somehow bend the reality of our world and completely shift marriage into a perfectly safe situation to be in, despite the numerous people whose entire lives and futures were destroyed by a marriage?

I much prefer being called an edgelord as it at least gets a good chuckle out of me, and primarily because this is the first time I've ever been called an edgelord. So at the very least it was original.

 

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