Not sure if this thread is allowed or not (I read the rules and it did not say "do not make threads about double standards") and it isn't hurting anyone, so here goes. I'll start:-
Aspie: I told my NT partner my favourite meal is curry, now he's been making it every day since!
What others would say: Quit complaining, your partner obviously cares about you, and he can't read your mind so perhaps just very politely tell him that you love his currys but to perhaps cook a curry every other day or a couple of times a week
Conversely...
Aspie: My NT partner told me his favourite meal is curry, and I care about him a lot so I've been making him a curry every day since!
What others would say: That's not appropriate, just because someone likes a meal it doesn't mean they want it every day. You obviously have very black and white thinking and lack theory of mind
Love these double standards. Keep 'em coming!
Please note this example did NOT actually happen, it's just a made up example. I have no communication difficulties in my relationship.
Aspie: I told my NT partner my favourite meal is curry, now he's been making it every day since!
What others would say: Quit complaining, your partner obviously cares about you, and he can't read your mind so perhaps just very politely tell him that you love his currys but to perhaps cook a curry every other day or a couple of times a week
Conversely...
Aspie: My NT partner told me his favourite meal is curry, and I care about him a lot so I've been making him a curry every day since!
What others would say: That's not appropriate, just because someone likes a meal it doesn't mean they want it every day. You obviously have very black and white thinking and lack theory of mind
Love these double standards. Keep 'em coming!
Please note this example did NOT actually happen, it's just a made up example. I have no communication difficulties in my relationship.
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