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Do you have a partner?

Do you have a partner?

  • Currently have a partner

    Votes: 21 32.3%

  • Previously had a partner

    Votes: 25 38.5%

  • Never had a partner

    Votes: 19 29.2%
  • Total voters
    65
:cry: I've had a few close encounters... but none of them went far enough for a real relation. Come to think of it, I'm still waiting for my first kiss... Oh, the shame... That happens when you study and work all your life and put aside your social life...

:confused2: However, I have realized something lately. Even though I'm uncomfortable around people almost enough to be considered sociophobic, I don't seem to have any problems at all letting loose my mind via Internet. And since I don't really judge people by physical appearance, chances are that I'll find my first love that way...
 
NightHawk877 said:
I had a girlfriend for a year before we split up when she went to college out of state. Now I have another girlfriend and we are much happier together. We've been together since last January.
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If your avatar is a picture of you and your girlfriend, you look very happy :)
I wish you the best!


I've only had one girlfriend. Last year, I caught her cheating on me and naively forgave her. A few weeks later, I caught her again and we broke up :( </3
I'd really like to have a girlfriend, but it's very difficult for me to find one.
I do have a date next week though, and I'm very excited! Well... About 30% excited, 70% nervous :P
I'm surprised she even agreed to go to dinner with me, considering the way I asked haha.
/*
Me: "Excuse me, miss. Would you like to accompany me to dinner next Friday?"
Her: "Ummm... Yeah, sure!"
*awkward silence*
Me: "Okay, awesome!"
*more awkward silence*
*/

Hahaha.
 
Grey Fox said:
If your avatar is a picture of you and your girlfriend, you look very happy :)
I wish you the best!


I've only had one girlfriend. Last year, I caught her cheating on me and naively forgave her. A few weeks later, I caught her again and we broke up :( </3
I'd really like to have a girlfriend, but it's very difficult for me to find one.
I do have a date next week though, and I'm very excited! Well... About 30% excited, 70% nervous :P
I'm surprised she even agreed to go to dinner with me, considering the way I asked haha.
/*
Me: "Excuse me, miss. Would you like to accompany me to dinner next Friday?"
Her: "Ummm... Yeah, sure!"
*awkward silence*
Me: "Okay, awesome!"
*more awkward silence*
*/

Hahaha.
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I don't think that ex is really a girlfriend material if she has been caught cheating twice, it's obviously clear that she wasn't happy with something.

And by the way, congrats on your date. :)
 
Now I'm in a awesome relationship again that I will most likely be the happiest in, it already feels just right for me.

She's practically the only person I can strangely talk to without feeling like I'm gonna screw up yet I love her so much, I wonder if she could see that?
 
It often seems like everyone in the world had or has a girlfriend and sex except me.

Yet girls don't even notice me or acknowledge me and it has been this way ever since I was in high school.

I can't even get a hug from a cute girl because they tend to see it in a bad way.

I'm turning 60 in a couple of month and I'm still a pathetic hugless and kissless little virgin.

I think this means that I'm too ugly for any girl to love. It also means that my genetics are no good.

I'm probably just genetic garbage and too afraid to admit it.

Yes handsome looks and good genes is everything to pretty young women and ugly guys are usually not supposed to have girlfriends and sex and the fact is that they usually don't.
 
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Yes I have a partner. We're not officially married yet but I still call him my husband here because it just feels more sophisticated than "boyfriend", and "partner" is genderless. But we're hoping to get married once we are more sorted with money.
 
Uri said:
It often seems like everyone in the world had or has a girlfriend and sex except me.

Yet girls don't even notice me or acknowledge me and it has been this way ever since I was in high school.

I can't even get a hug from a cute girl because they tend to see it in a bad way.

I'm turning 60 in a couple of month and I'm still a pathetic hugless and kissless little virgin.

I think this means that I'm too ugly for any girl to love. It also means that my genetics are no good.

I'm probably just genetic garbage and too afraid to admit it.

Yes handsome looks and good genes is everything to pretty young women and ugly guys are usually not supposed to have girlfriends and sex and the fact is that they usually don't.
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It's not because you are "ugly" (whatever that means). A few men here have shown me photos of themselves and they're very good-looking but can't find partners. Unfortunately autism seems to be a turn-off to a lot of NT women. I don't know why. It doesn't mean every man with autism is ugly though.
 
No. I don't have a partner. I have had two girlfriends for around half a year to a year or two in the past (First was half a year and we were going to marry but she suddenly cut all contact. Turns out she was dating others at the same time. Second was distant dating where we met about twice a year but I sort of ended it after a year and a half because deep down I didn't feel right?)
But as for sexual relationships... Got a bit close with kissing and cuddling with the first but we didn't have sex. Second was non-contact as she was on the spectrum and did not like physical contact, so I only once kissed her on a rare event when she once let me).

I have to be honest, and say I am really glad I didn't have sex as what I found out about the first GF would have caused me so much trouble! Word to men. Don't do it unless one is 100,000% sure that things will last. Too many broken men out there with children they can't see. Too many broken hearts! One gets to hear of women victims but never the men whos lives were wrecked by bad decisions. Best advice is never rush in. It takes a good six months to a year before the love blinkers fall, and if one survives that, where one has argued once or twice and then one realizes one can't be without each other, then one knows that it is for real. If one reaches that stage and one or the other walks away, then it hurts for the other, but at least it did not involve more than a broken heart...
Anyway. Is up to the individual how they live their life, but that is my advice.

Secondly. Long distant "Online" relationships rarely ever overcome the hurdles put by governments to prevent it taking place. It was difficult enough when a long distant relationship is in the same country! But between countries is not easy. I WILL NOT say it is impossible. But I do say it is not easy. Have known someone who had to divorce as she lived in the USA and he lived in the UK and they could not find any English speaking country in the world where they were both allowed to live and work, and they spent two years trying, and both of them were in good jobs. It was sad.
 
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We waited for two years before we had our first child, another two years before 2nd. Only issue birth control is slowly causing bone loss in one hip. No drug is truly safe, recreational or prescribed.
 
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Misty Avich said:
It's not because you are "ugly" (whatever that means). A few men here have shown me photos of themselves and they're very good-looking but can't find partners. Unfortunately autism seems to be a turn-off to a lot of NT women. I don't know why. It doesn't mean every man with autism is ugly though.
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Many ppl on the spectrum have a lot of problems, and our social disability is often the major one.

Mystery solved.
NEXT! :cool:
 
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