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Welcome, @82_Percent_Cat! I hope you find this site as welcoming and helpful as I have.

I learned to stare at the spot between people's eyebrows (the glabella) to fake eye contact. I thought I was getting away with it, but it turns out my wife can tell when I'm looking at her glabella and not at her eyes.
 
My wife & kids* (when they were little and trusted me) are easy to look into their eyes. But it varies for everybody else.

*I feel/felt connected to them and my mom and many relatives.
 
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Glad to have you with us, @82_Percent_Cat

I can relate to some of what put here. Especially with being in the dark about having ASD for a long time. Only to find out later in life that it the possibility is there and everything adding up.

Friendships are a hard to maintain thing. In most cases. People will only be acquaintances. I've never truly connected enough with people myself, to really have actual friends. Just people I know.

It's not uncommon for us ND folks to have a better connection with animals, specifically pets, more than humans.
 
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Hello & welcome.
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Hi, I'm Frank - or at least I found that to be quite humorous for my name.
I'm 52 years old with pretty severe PTSD
I just discovered that I am surely autistic. I mean I should have known ... but didn't.
I'm hoping for some connection and maybe some insights. This is a pretty tough thing for me right now. Like my attempts at healing some pain have been erased now as I have a deeper compassion (maybe) for young me which maybe leads to a deeper hurt from those that hurt me.
Anyway, I've said too much for an intro :) I look forward to getting to know people here.
 
Welcome, @FrankS

I have some PTSD related tramas myself, from childhood. Still digging through it all. But it unfortunately put me through the ringer, because I have a anxiety disorder(likely GAD), Psychosis/Schizophrenia, and possible Alexithyma on top of that.

I've lived with depression for a long time too. But that isn't as bad as it once was.

Anyway. We all are friendly folks here and are happy to help with any questions you may have. There are plenty of site resources too, if you are interested. They can help with understanding ASD and other things.
 
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Hi, I'm Albert.
I'm 16, and was diagnosed with Asperger's about 3 years ago but that information was withheld by my parents, and I only found out when I saw the files. Do you think that was the right choice for my parents to make for me.

In addition, I was wondering if anybody else with Asperger's experiences low interest in other people/not being able to maintain longterm relationships. I dont know what love feels like, and often times I just feel like a robot going through the motions. Alot of times i have trouble connecting with my friends and especially family. Is there anything anybody has found that (for a lack of better words) feel more normal sometimes? Thank you
 
Hello everyone.
I’m a 37yom recently diagnosed with mild autism and adhd combined type.
I was assessed at 3-4yo by a pediatrician for lack on initiating speech but could speak to others if they asked me questions and was not diagnosed. I always felt different from everyone my entire life, highly observant of everyone all day, concrete ways of thinking, extremely uncomfortable with eye contact, which is ongoing to this day even with family/friends (couple that I do have), however was normal/fine talking to childhood friends but became more difficult as i grew older into adolescence when topics moved away from my likes of movies video games and did not care about a lot of the typical social aspects, often don’t know what to say in conversation (not feeling anxious, just don’t know what I’m supposed to say). Depression hopelessness close to HS graduation with no hope for future, very socially isolated post HS graduation, worked isolated jobs, had to really study how others interact so I could know how to keep a social conversation going. I rarely “feel” empathy but I always want to help and do the right thing for people but I have “feel” extreme empathy for animals. I have very strong sensory reactions feeling overwhelmed needing frequent “recovery” days.
I have ended up managing to become successful healthcare professional and still live with many of these symptoms. Then after discussing with two clinicians they advised me to consider autism. Someone at my second job after high school asked if I was autistic. After seeing this trend of people thinking I may be autistic from a child to young and mid adulthood I decided to complete an assessment and finally did and was diagnosed. And now I’m here to share experiences, answer questions, and ask and learn from other experiences from all of you.
 
Hi and welcome to the forums. Or in a way - welcome home. :) You'll find a lot of stories in here about experiences similar to your own.
 
Hi, @albert_l! Welcome!


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Hi, I'm Albert

I'm 16, and was diagnosed with Asperger's about 3 years ago but that information was withheld by my parents, and I only found out when I saw the files. Do you think that was the right choice for my parents to make for me.
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That is a hard call to make. I think it’s most important to have a Growth Mindset when you find out. There are many difficulties that come with autism, but I can’t view it as a disability or it will stop me from trying things that I might succeed at.
 
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In addition, I was wondering if anybody else with Asperger's experiences low interest in other people/not being able to maintain longterm relationships. I dont know what love feels like, and often times I just feel like a robot going through the motions. Alot of times i have trouble connecting with my friends and especially family. Is there anything anybody has found that (for a lack of better words) feel more normal sometimes?
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That is a very familiar experience for me, and I’m sure for many others on this site. I recognize that I have difficulty connecting with people, so I try to make deliberate efforts to connect - one-on-one time is the easiest way to connect because I can focus on one person at a time.

I set aside time to spend one-on/one with family members. I get into whatever my kids are interested in - I read the books they’re reading. I help one son find items he needs for his collection and I have learned to play Pokémon TCG and solve Rubik’s cubes because my other son is into those things. This gives us things in common to talk about and helps me connect.
 
hi, site told me to write here and introduce myself, anyway i was looking for dating/friendship/socializing sites for autistic adults and found my self here i don't know, im 32 live in nova scotia canada am autistic am currently working part time small office janitor, hobbies are boating, kayaking and fishing
 
Hi, I'm Rarie.
I was officially diagnosed a few months ago at 22, and live in Sydney, Australia, hope to get to know a few of you guys and maybe find some relatable experiences. Nice to meet you. ;)
 
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