It could be a great date, could be a terrible one. Depends on what you and your date are like in the kitchen.
Sounds like a good date idea then, although maybe not a good
first date. It's a good way to get to know what someone's like, how they handle stress, how they work with you toward a goal. It's like a microcosm of the relationship... or something like that.
I like cooking together, but I am very particular about following recipes and doing things according to my plan. I also cannot abide chaos in the kitchen. I’ve literally had a few heated arguments with my boyfriend because he decided to throw in an ingredient we hadn’t initially discussed, without consulting me.
I have this thing about confused-tasting food. I don't mind if food is flavorful or spicy, but everything should taste like it should go together. So, no combining hot peppers and rosemary, please
It is a better date to cook together especially for someone on the spectrum as that presents an activity to participate in and probably cuts down on the need for pragmatics. However, it is probably not good for a first date unless you already know the person fairly well, because if the date is not going well then there is no escape option as the person is in your house.
Yes, this. It's a good date, but not a good
first date. I mean, some rando is in your house, and they're holding a knife...
Why not “just eating?” That is a pretty normal thing.
Plenty of escapability that way. If you don't like the way the date is going, you can just bail. Technically, you're not even beholden to finish the meal, or to pay for anything.
Just eating can be stressful and uncomfortable. It seems before I met my wife the norm was becoming meeting at a coffee shop for coffee.
Yeah, coffee shops seem to be the preferred first date. Everybody pays their own way, nobody is waiting on anything, and the date lasts for exactly as long as you can maintain conversation.
Of course, if food and/or drink are something you know something about, you can always talk about food or drink on a dinner date if all else fails.
When he cooks (rare event), I leave the kitchen because I know I'm going to get stressed out watching him screw stuff up.
I should be way more patient in the kitchen than I am. It would do me a lot of good as a person to patiently explain cooking to someone. They would become closer to me, and I would become a better, kinder, and more patient person than I am... which really isn't saying much.
Instead, I just do it all myself, because I would much rather do something and do it right than waste my oxygen explaining some stupid crap that would take one tenth the energy if I just did it myself.
Unhealthy mindset, I know, but it's where I'm at.
