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Eating together as a date

Mary Terry said:
I'm sure you thoroughly wash everything before you blend it but don't you worry about eating all that raw produce all the time? Cooking kills e-coli and other bacteria that can exist inside the food as well as on the surface of the food.
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Nope. Don’t even always wash the produce. I should, but don’t when in a hurry, or I buy it already washed. . I even eat stuff growing in the back yard or in forest preserves where theRe is wildlife all around. Sometimes brush dirt off. It’s not washed. Have had perceived food poisoning only twice in my life decades ago, in different Indian restaurants. I have a great immune system and iron stomach I guess.

It seems the picky eaters of the world get the food poisoning’s. I hear people getting food poisoning all the time. I very very rarely eat in restaurants anymore, and I don’t eat much meat. Maybe I am just lucky with the veggies and fruits?
I shop at Asian and world grocery stores, as well as Walmart, and Trader Joes. I eat greens while in the prairies and woods as I walk along. I eat dandylions out of my expansive back yard. I am a modern gathers as indigenous people in the old days.
 
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BraidedPony said:
There are so many awkward quiet moments
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Indeed. If you're not much of a talker, and your date's not much of a talker, then that. Is. That.

Fortunately that's not always the case. Unfortunately, there are lots of guys* who go on dates and just prattle nonstop about how great they are, what kind of car they drive, how much money they make, how well-read they are because they read a book this year, how sophisticated their taste in music is, how good their golf game is, etc. I would personally prefer silence to prattling self-aggrandizing nonsense, but that's just me.

*and yes, it's usually men who do this

I'm also a question asker. Whenever there's a lull in the conversation, I'll ask a question to keep the conversation going. Of course, learning the right questions to ask takes practice, and if all you're getting is monosyllabic responses, your date just isn't into you and you can't fix that.

BraidedPony said:
and then if there is conversation the waitperson comes to the table
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I can't stand overly intrusive waitstaff. Stopping by the table every couple minutes to ask if we're enjoying everything, if everything's tasting okay, if I'm still picking at that*, or take the plate away from me while I'm still eating because they assume I'm done.

*Of course I am, you walnut, every time I try to eat something I keep getting interrupted! Besides, the whole point of eating in a restaurant is to enjoy the experience. If I wanted to shove food down my face and hit the road I would have eaten at McDonalds, or at a gas station somewhere.

tducey said:
I can see cooking together as being a fun activity.
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Cooking together is indeed a fun activity, if both of you enjoy cooking. Otherwise, if both of you don't normally cook, you won't understand the experience. If only one of you does, then it really depends.

It's not romcom at all, at least the way I do it. There is nothing cute about the way I cook. If I'm cooking, I'm trying to solve the problem of transforming bland, unpalatable raw ingredients into a tasty meal. It is goal oriented, and can be rather intense. Anyone who can cook with me is compatible with me.
 
Uniforms sometimes give some impressions, but the fact is in terms of clothing (or looks) there isn't anything i significantly like, including sparse clothing and other advertised stuff.
 
Graphin said:
Uniforms sometimes give some impressions, but the fact is in terms of clothing (or looks) there isn't anything i significantly like, including sparse clothing and other advertised stuff.
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I don’t like nudity or sparse clothing either. It’s the uniforms that make the experience...and boy have I had some!
 
LearnedCoward said:
Size 49

...European. Equivalent to a 15 US or about a 13 UK.

You know what they say about guys who have big feet:

We wear big shoes. Get your mind out of the gutter.
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I WILL tell you that is not true. That myth is not always true - not even remotely. Some of the shortest scrawniest men...ahem...contradict that myth. I personally know it to be true many many times.
 
Mary Anne said:
I WILL tell you that is not true. That myth is not always true - not even remotely. Some of the shortest scrawniest men... ahem...contradict that myth. I personally know it to be true many many times.
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Did you click the spoiler?

But yes, the myth isn't true.

Not sure what being scrawny has to do with anything. I'm pretty scrawny myself, I just happen to be tall. It's not like weightlifting has any benefits in that department, and overeating actually has a negative effect.
 
As amusing as anyone may find the tangential innuendo,
the topic is activities suitable for a first date. Cooking,
in particular.

To quote OP:
"I have no idea about dating, never have done it, not planning to,
and dislike the often sexualized nature of it.
But wouldn't cooking together be a more interesting and useful way
to date than eating together?"
 
tree said:
As amusing as anyone may find the tangential innuendo,
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Oops, sorry! :oops:

tree said:
the topic is activities suitable for a first date.
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tree said:
I have no idea about dating, never have done it, not planning to,
and dislike the often sexualized nature of it.
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So, I guess sex is out... especially for a first date activity.

Back to cooking it is.

tree said:
But wouldn't cooking together be a more interesting and useful way
to date than eating together?
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I would say:

Interesting, potentially. For values of interesting approaching frustrating.

Useful, no, not compared to eating together. You can get someone else to do your cooking for you if you have to eat, but what's the use of cooking together if you're not eating together? Eating together, no muss no fuss, is a lot more practical than cooking a full dinner, colliding with each other in the kitchen, getting in a big fight because you're incompatible in the kitchen, then eating dinner all by your lonesome because you've chased your date away.

Also, definitely not a first date idea. You don't want some rando in your house with a knife and fire on your first date.
 
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