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Feeling sorry for myself

I’m also sorry you’re in pain, Suzette :(
There’s not much I can do medically, obviously, but I’m here if you need some cheering up :)

And also, I don’t look my age either, I look about 10 years younger. Which comes with its own challenges :confused:
I never looked my age until about 10 years ago. Age and life sins just catch up I guess. Right now, being so exhausted and still suffering a few lingering covid effects, I look patricularly old.
Do you recall @ForestGumpett? She suggested I might have a version of Ehler Danlos due to some hyper mobilty traits that I have. That would be a convenient excuse to looking saggy wouldn't it?
 
I have an old whiplash injury. Who knows which vertebra it is but I can feel a bulge mid neck. I've had the injury for 42 years. I had it xrayed when I was in my mid 20s. There was calcification of the vertebra then but, for the most part, I have just had a stiff neck every now again.

But this summer I injured my shoulder and now I have pinched nerve that keeps me from sleeping more than 2 hours at a time. I've been doing so exercises to relieve the nerve and that does help. But once I lay down, even with the best bed posture, pillow and mattress I can get, I still get nasty pain.

I look exhausted. Oh, I feel that way too. But my face...I look like my face is sliding into my socks. Dark circles under my eyes too. I am not really vain but I look for older than my age.

I've had a similar issue last autumn. It lasted for about 2 months with symptom free episodes, the pain grew worse when laying down, I couldn't sleep at night. Attempting to sleep by sitting up.
Then, it was gone- fortunately.

I've had an mrt-scan, everything was alright. Doctor believes it was a pinged nerve. I know that this can be awfully painful. You should try to rule out any possible physical causes, best option would be an mrt scan. I'd recommend looking for an osteopath, they can work miracles.

My issues did resolve on their own but at the time it felt like it would become chronical and never go away. During the, no pain at all. Lying down triggered it.
 
I've had a similar issue last autumn. It lasted for about 2 months with symptom free episodes, the pain grew worse when laying down, I couldn't sleep at night. Attempting to sleep by sitting up.
Then, it was gone- fortunately.

I've had an mrt-scan, everything was alright. Doctor believes it was a pinged nerve. I know that this can be awfully painful. You should try to rule out any possible physical causes, best option would be an mrt scan. I'd recommend looking for an osteopath, they can work miracles.

My issues did resolve on their own but at the time it felt like it would become chronical and never go away. During the, no pain at all. Lying down triggered it.

Also, if you have hypermobility syndrome, you might want to look into vojta therapy (reflex locomotion). It is typically used on children and babies to replace physiotherapy as their motoric skills still need to develop. It can also be effective in adults who suffer from hypermobility issues, bad muscle tone or have a physical disability (like paraplegia).

I have plenty of experience with physiotherapy, this has been the therapy that benefitted me the most- instant results and improvement of my scoliosis. I also have been diagnosed with hypermobility syndrome, I could always perform weird tricks to freak out others like popping out my shoulder (which aggravates the condition, I don't do it anymore).

Building up muscle mass is very important. Endurance training on a regular basis is enough. It trains every single muscle of your body and more muscle mass means better protection of your joints and spine, which is even more important if you have hypermobility syndrome. I don't know about fitness centres and Covid in your area, but cross trainers are perfect for endurance training of all your body. If you swim, do back swimming. Riding is also supposed to be good. Any sport at all (although sports that require symmetrical motion sequences are best).
 
I appreciate the advice to see doctors. But I am not going to unless I can't resolve the pain on my own. The nerve pain has only been with me a week and there is a lot that can be done without doctors.

I am very skeptical of doctors in general. I have yet to meet one that is interested in my health. Some people will have different experiences and will disagree with me regarding doctors. But I don't have infinate money to find a good one.

But this is a pinched nerve not cancer. And there are concerte steps to take before I need a doctor.

First up, posture correction, sleeping position and an ergonomic assessment of my work habits. Next, exercise is used to relief pressure on the nerve. N.s.a.i.d.s can be used to relieve inflamation along with with heat therapy to relax tense muscles. Temporary use of muscle relaxant creams are also helpful. The t.e.n.s. machine may also be helpful.

This is a temporary condition. However, if my assessment is incorrect these therapies will offer little in the way of relief and I will go see a doctor.

Thank you all for your comments and encouragement!
 
@Aneka, thank you for these suggestions!

Exercise wise we are on our own here as the local shops closed during lockdown last year and did not reopen. When we were anchored in the bay getting enough excerise was always a problem. But we are on the dock now and can at least get in a good walk or hike until it gets too hot!

I've been doing isometric and body weight resistance exercises. I need to get some resistance bands. We really don't have room for dumb bells but I can use canned goods, my sewing machine hand wheel (it weighs 7 lbs) and our water jugs. I will get it figured out!
 
@Aneka, thank you for these suggestions!

Exercise wise we are on our own here as the local shops closed during lockdown last year and did not reopen. When we were anchored in the bay getting enough excerise was always a problem. But we are on the dock now and can at least get in a good walk or hike until it gets too hot!

I've been doing isometric and body weight resistance exercises. I need to get some resistance bands. We really don't have room for dumb bells but I can use canned goods, my sewing machine hand wheel (it weighs 7 lbs) and our water jugs. I will get it figured out!

Glad I could help somewhat. I hope the pain will go away quickly, get well soon.
Yep, be creative, I've done plenty of home workouts during lockdown :D
Gyms are open now where I live but you need to be both fully vaccinated and tested. It's pretty empty.
 
Have you ever tried acupuncture?
 
Maybe the medical system where you are is very different from the NHS we have in the UK? We don't pay directly for seeing a General Practitioner and we are all able to register with a General Practice. It sounds very tricky to get a reliable practitioner who is governed by a robust ethical and professional code?

Re cancer, most issues are not cancer, and on the other hand, some cancer goes undetected at early stages because of people not always following up on seemingly routine/ minor issues.

Sounds like you have some useful ideas to try, I hope you feel better soon.
 
Hi @Thinx
The cost of heathcare is a hot topic. I am from the U.S.A. and no, we do not have the equivlent of the N.H.S. for the general population.

Here is a rough outline:
If you are poor, and that is very, very poor, you can apply for Medicaid. Medicaid is medical program paid for and administered by the state you live in, with subsidies and grants given to each state by the federal government. Therefore, each state has it's own rules regarding who qualifies for coverage and the benefits recieved. This program and it's eldercare cousin, Medicare is the closest thing the U.S. has to the N.H.S.

Medicare is for retirees reciveing Social Security benefits. Very roughly S.S. is a federally administered eldercare safety net. Anyone recieving a paycheck in the U.S. pays into the program with a contribution taken from every check. Medicare is a complex subject all by its self. But one is not eligible until ine takes Social Security beginning at age 62. (I think it's 62)

For everyone else there is private health insurence and paying out of pocket. And this is where the whole thing falls apart. The insurence is rediculously expensive and so most people recieve insurence coverage through work. Their employer pays a portion of coverage and the remainder is deducted from your pay check.

If you do not work you pay for your insurence all on your own. And it gets crazy! Crazy, stupid expensive.
Recently my husband and I went shopping for private insurence. Due to more stupid regulations one find their insurence from state exchanges. Our state is Colorado. We were graciously offered "low cost" insurence due to our low income. For this exercise we reported our income (for 2 people) as $22,000 per year.
The "low cost" insurence offered to us was $24,000 per year.:eek:. Keep in mind, insurence only lowers your costs but you still pay out of pocket for a portion of your actual doctors visits, proceedures and medications.

Now Colorado might allow us to sign up for Medicare but the income threshold is just over $23,000 per year. and our actual income is closer to $24,000 per year.

Thankfully, we really are largely healthy. Aside from my recent pinched nerve and a brief brush with Omicron, we have had no complaints.

Out of pocket medical expenses are even more complex. Sadly we do not have a universal set of stadards of care or costs. And it is the wild, wild west. Since most folk have insurence, which is supposed to lower costs and negotiate lower costs for the insured, actual costs for the uninsured are stupidly high in most cases.

I don't have any real costs to show you because I haven't been to the doctor. But one teeny tiny example of how bizarre it is comes from my son. He was not insured when he reported this to me. He went to the doctor for an unpper respitory infection. The doctor charged him $200 bucks for the 15 minute office visit. He then had his precriptions filled at a Walgreens pharmacy. They charged him $40 for an antibiotic and $90 for an albuterol inhaler. But, unknown to him (and he didn't ask mom) he could have had both precriptions filled at Walmart for a total of $8.00.

Are you shocked, dismayed or outraged? o_O

When I was working I paid $350 per month for insurence to cover both myself and my son. This was about 10 years ago. Anway, when I broke my leg I still had to cover part of the medical costs as some things weren't covered by insurence. My out of pocket expenses were about $2,000.
 
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@Suzette, if you get a diagnosis for your ASD, you may be able to get on disability/Medicare/Medicaid somewhat sooner. My disability attorney said it was easier after 50. (I was 51.)
 
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@Suzette, if you get a diagnosis for your ASD, you may be able to get on disability/Medicare/Medicaid somewhat sooner. My disability said it was easier after 50. (I was 51.)
Thank you for the tip. Right now that probably won't happen due to the high out of pocket costs of diagnosis. But there may be opportunity to participate in ongoing A.S.D research through the University if Kansas that may lead to an actual diagnosis. But that is a big if and in the future.
 
I didn't see this recommendation. But I bought bought https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B086JYNHNY/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

I am not sure if the link will be handled right. My appologies if it gets ugly :)
No I could see the link,clean them they will last longer,do all your mindfulness things anxiety \panic makes pain much worse most tens last 20 mins turn off then you can immediately turn back on again mine can last 50 mins but I've never done that long
 
I am still exploring this but it looks like it might work! I did not know about such a thing. Thank you so much!
That astounds me, I thought it was an American invention ,I used one 30+ years ago, I'd never seen one, before then never forgot it!
 
That astounds me, I thought it was an American invention ,I used one 30+ years ago, I'd never seen one, before then never forgot it!
Maybe American but I have had no reason to need one, so why would I know? They don't sell them in the super market.:)
 
I`m just curious, how much does that cost in the US? It varies a little here, depending on how many times you visit the specialists before they have everything they need. How many hours. For me it cost $626. Or that`s what I paid as a deductible, it costs more but the state paid the rest. Good luck with the pain and everything.
I don't really know but I have heard that it can be as much as $10,000 depending on assessment type.
 
Holy guacamole that is a large number!! Much more than I thought it was. If it was $3000 it would still be crazy expensive.
It all depends on who, what part of the country and what kind of assessment. $3,000 is probably about right at the low end for a basic assessment that is the equivlent of a professional opinion.
 
Wow it's complicated. I feel we are very lucky in uk in comparison. Though state pension doesn't start till 66.
 
Hi @Thinx
The cost of heathcare is a hot topic. I am from the U.S.A. and no, we do not have the equivlent of the N.H.S. for the general population.

Here is a rough outline:
If you are poor, and that is very, very poor, you can apply for Medicaid. Medicaid is medical program paid for and administered by the state you live in, with subsidies and grants given to each state by the federal government. Therefore, each state has it's own rules regarding who qualifies for coverage and the benefits recieved. This program and it's eldercare cousin, Medicare is the closest thing the U.S. has to the N.H.S.

Medicare is for retirees reciveing Social Security benefits. Very roughly S.S. is a federally administered eldercare safety net. Anyone recieving a paycheck in the U.S. pays into the program with a contribution taken from every check. Medicare is a complex subject all by its self. But one is not eligible until ine takes Social Security beginning at age 62. (I think it's 62)

For everyone else there is private health insurence and paying out of pocket. And this is where the whole thing falls apart. The insurence is rediculously expensive and so most people recieve insurence coverage through work. Their employer pays a portion of coverage and the remainder is deducted from your pay check.

If you do not work you pay for your insurence all on your own. And it gets crazy! Crazy, stupid expensive.
Recently my husband and I went shopping for private insurence. Due to more stupid regulations one find their insurence from state exchanges. Our state is Colorado. We were graciously offered "low cost" insurence due to our low income. For this exercise we reported our income (for 2 people) as $22,000 per year.
The "low cost" insurence offered to us was $24,000 per year.:eek:. Keep in mind, insurence only lowers your costs but you still pay out of pocket for a portion of your actual doctors visits, proceedures and medications.

Now Colorado might allow us to sign up for Medicare but the income threshold is just over $23,000 per year. and our actual income is closer to $24,000 per year.

Thankfully, we really are largely healthy. Aside from my recent pinched nerve and a brief brush with Omicron, we have had no complaints.

Out of pocket medical expenses are even more complex. Sadly we do not have a universal set of stadards of care or costs. And it is the wild, wild west. Since most folk have insurence, which is supposed to lower costs and negotiate lower costs for the insured, actual costs for the uninsured are stupidly high in most cases.

I don't have any real costs to show you because I haven't been to the doctor. But one teeny tiny example of how bizarre it is comes from my son. He was not insured when he reported this to me. He went to the doctor for an unpper respitory infection. The doctor charged him $200 bucks for the 15 minute office visit. He then had his precriptions filled at a Walgreens pharmacy. They charged him $40 for an antibiotic and $90 for an albuterol inhaler. But, unknown to him (and he didn't ask mom) he could have had both precriptions filled at Walmart for a total of $8.00.

Are you shocked, dismayed or outraged? o_O

When I was working I paid $350 per month for insurence to cover both myself and my son. This was about 10 years ago. Anway, when I broke my leg I still had to cover part of the medical costs as some things weren't covered by insurence. My out of pocket expenses were about $2,000.

Medicare isn't available until 65. Wife retired at 62 and has to pay for a COBRA plan until she hits 65.
 

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