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Friend is pressuring me to read a religious book.

tree said:
How do the two differ?

What do they have in common?
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The Late Bloomers book is based in secular thought and isn’t limiting itself to a female Christian audience. The author of the latter even states so that the book is targeted towards Christian women and that’s also a criticism it is getting on review sites.

They both present food for thought but the former is meant for multiple audiences while the latter is for a specific one.
 
I'm just wondering about something, I realized that in your post you didn't ask any questions or ask for any advice. Are you just venting or do you want some kind of response from people? You often don't reply or say anything to people who try to be helpful or give advice or write in your threads. It's ignored. And I was thinking maybe you don't want advice or answers, maybe you're just venting, I don't know.
 
Markness said:
They both present food for thought but the former is meant for multiple audiences while the latter is for a specific one.
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Aside from being aimed toward different audiences, what do they
share as far as useful material?
 
Believe it or not @Markness I actually prayed for you at my Thursday life group. I am a Christian, but I struggle a lot with my faith. Because of my phobias, there are times I don't believe in God. I also left the church for 15 years because of the phobias and feeling betray by my so call friends back then who just wanted to hang with couples.

Since coming back, I made friends with mostly couples, even though there are a couple of possible single women I talk to. I can message them anytime. I feel better doing things like yoga which keeps me busy for the week and writing in my personal journal. Not only that, but I do feel lonely sometimes, and I do pray I would be in a relationship with a nice woman. I just don't want to give up.
 
In this woke kind of culture going on lately, I have found that the easiest way to turn down being religious or such advances from those folks is to tell them that you don't feel right adopting whatever religion because it seems like the ultimate form of cultural appropriation.
 
Markness said:
My friend is pressuring me to become religious again because he thinks I “lack God” in my life. At Target today, he wanted me to purchase a book called “Get Out Of Your Head” where the author really pushes building a relationship with “God.” I told him I could rent it from the library I work at instead but he kept insisting I buy it and finally purchased it himself for me. He told me to promise him to read it.
Given my life and what I’ve read around here, you are fortunate to have a friend that cares enough to bother. Unfortunately, it can be difficult as a Christian to find the balance between offering and forcing. As well, younger believers tend towards zealotry.
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Your friend is in an uphill battle anyway.

My advice is that you keep foremost in mind the value of a friend that cares enough to share and buy you a gift. Another point: going back to your faith means absolutely Not going back to how you were.

Best to you.
 
Every religion is true one way or another. It is true when understood metaphorically. But when it gets stuck in its own metaphors, interpreting them as facts, then you are in trouble.”

Joseph Campbell
 
Tony Ramirez said:
Believe it or not @Markness I actually prayed for you at my Thursday life group. I am a Christian, but I struggle a lot with my faith. Because of my phobias, there are times I don't believe in God. I also left the church for 15 years because of the phobias and feeling betray by my so call friends back then who just wanted to hang with couples.

Since coming back, I made friends with mostly couples, even though there are a couple of possible single women I talk to. I can message them anytime. I feel better doing things like yoga which keeps me busy for the week and writing in my personal journal. Not only that, but I do feel lonely sometimes, and I do pray I would be in a relationship with a nice woman. I just don't want to give up.
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That’s very kind of you. :)
 
Magna said:
Here's the great thing about life: Your friend is free to spend his own money on whatever he wants. He gave you the book and "told you to promise him that you'd read it". You're free to: Decide not to even open the book and also free to tell him you're not interested, will not read the book (if you don't want to) and ask him if he wants it back. Life is a beautiful thing. Also, if your friend continues to pressure you after you tell him (if you do) that you're not interested in his version of "having God in your life" again, showing that he doesn't respect you or your boundaries...you're also free to back away from that friendship. I think it's an important realization that if a person continues to pressure you to adopt their beliefs (whatever they might be) after you tell them you're not interested, that person does not respect you.
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Honest observation: I was not expecting this kind of post from you.
 
I am starting to lose faith in God and drifting away. He already blessed two people from life group with a pregnancy. I also have to keep hearing from couples on how they meet. Every woman I encounter is hitched with a man.

So @Markness you can tell your friend to pound sand. Things do not improve to you if you come back to God. They will for him and whoever else that might follow him but you will still get the bumb rush.

I am focusing more on yoga and journal. Even though all I encounter are old woman, women who are hitched and sometimes men I feel like I can focus better unlike at church or lifegroup where I have to keep seeing new relationships and babies being born.
 
It has nothing to do with their particular religion. People of all faiths, and even atheists evangelize. They feel their philosophy gives them a worldview and a hope that has transformed their lives. They love you, so they want you to have that same joy.

That's all. Be flattered. If you're interested, read the book. If you're not interested, be kind. They just mean well for you.
 
Tony Ramirez said:
I am focusing more on yoga and journal. Even though all I encounter are old woman, women who are hitched and sometimes men I feel like I can focus better unlike at church or lifegroup where I have to keep seeing new relationships and babies being born.
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I think you're feeling less negative in the yoga group because you're not telling
yourself so many bitter stories about how you won't ever have a relationship
or offspring.

You are gaining some rewards of improved physical health from the yoga.

And the journal is the place for the complaints.
 
Thanks. Just church is so difficult to attend and the Thursday life group was so bad with couples, relationships and a pregnancy I actually got a headache.

Yoga is so much more calming.
 
Tony Ramirez said:
I am focusing more on yoga and journal. Even though all I encounter are old woman, women who are hitched and sometimes men I feel like I can focus better unlike at church or lifegroup where I have to keep seeing new relationships and babies being born.
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This sounds like a great idea and it seems to be working better for you. More power to you.
 
That is why I was so sad about the wellness group being canceled at the yoga studio. I was annoyed no one else signed up. Instead I went to life group which was a mistake as it was four couples and even there was a pregnancy.
 
@Tony Ramirez

Is the Wellness Group not going to be offered ever again?

Or maybe will they offer it later?
It sounds like it would be very useful.
 
They suppose to do it again next Tuesday and they said that it's on even if it's just me and the teacher Tasha who I talk to after class. I even walk with her on my way home to the subway. I can actually talk to her the easiest.
 
Tony Ramirez said:
They suppose to do it again next Tuesday and they said that it's on even if it's just me and the teacher Tasha who I talk to after class. I even walk with her on my way home to the subway. I can actually talk to her the easiest.
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That would be great.

Even if nobody else goes.

I wonder if they all had other things to do last week?
Or did they think they already know enough about being health?

Anyway, I hope next week's meeting will be useful to you.
 
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